Do you think dating sites are good at finding you a partner?

[LemiaOfThunder]

Yes

No

[OlderAndWiser]

Dating sites are tools to be used to acomplish a goal. That is all that they are.

If my car stops running, I have thousands of dollars of tools, but those tools won't fix the car for me. I must decide what is wrong and then use the tools to remedy the problem. The tools are invaluable but without my active efforts, the tools are useless.

Online dating sites are a different way to meet potential dating partners. I must create a profile that will get the attention of women who will interest me, I must reach out to those women, be sensitive to their concerns about online dating, and guide the two of us towards a face-to-face meeting.

I have used online dating sites at various times since 2007 and have learned how to navigate through them fairly well. Because of that, I have had success. I have had a few relationships lasted from six months to seven years through online meetings. And I have found the ultimate success: nine days ago, my girlfriend - who I met on zoosk - accept my marriage proposal.

Online dating requires different skills than traditional dating and many guys fail to understand that. They use weak efforts to create a profile, they approach women with a lack of sophistication or sensitivity, they get rejected, and then they blame the dating sites instead of looking at their own behavior. They are just butthurt boys who don't want to accept responsibility for what they make happen in their own lives.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[SomeRandomGuy89]

Yes, online dating sites have been good at finding me partners. But I don't know if I believe online dating is an overall net win or loss.

I end up spending a lot of time in the pursuit and end up wasting a lot of it on people who I'd have glassed over in real life while feeling like a lot of people gloss over me who otherwise wouldn't in real life.

However, availability is nice. You get to meet a lot of people who may not be in your immediate or close social circles. I likely have gone on more dates because of online dating than I would have without it.

Now would I have needed to go on as many dates if it didn't exist is the question...

[Nikki1989]

Isn't their success rate 1% or something?

That should tell you all you need to know.

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't know where you got that statistic but it sounds like something invented by someone who tried onlne dating and had no success. The real success rate is MUCH higher!

www.pewresearch.org/.../

[ChiTown33]

@OlderAndWiser agreed man. I think success rate has a lot to do with attitude and effort. I think too many people that fail have unrealistic expectations in general.

[Avicenna]

It depends what you're looking for and random luck can be a factor as well. If you want a fling, they're perfect. A marriage partner? Most unlikely.

[AviatorTom]

I met my SO on a dating site, and I know several couples who met online.

[ChiTown33]

Yes, so long as you keep your expectations very low (so as not to get discouraged easily) and put in a solid effort. It took me a good 6 months to hit my stride on online dating. You have to remember how many broken and toxic people there are online and not take THIER hangups personal.

The best advice I can give to a person dating online or otherwise. Is always remember you have VALUE. And that your value is reflected by the family and friends that love you. Don't get discouraged by someone you just met that barely even knows who you are. Never let your light stop shining in a cold dark world. Someone worthwhile will eventually see that light. 🙂👍

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, but also no.

Anything owned by matchgroup? No, they are designed to hide anyone compatible with you and make contacting them near impossible.

Anything lesser known that is ran by a much smaller business? They aren't scams, but the user population for those are so low that many do not even reach quadruple digets.

So yes, but only if lots of people start using the unpopular ones. Unfortunately, people only seem to care about tinder, okc, matchdotcom, and other matchgroup owned ones.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think dating sites are good for helping people win a date, but some lies is what did it.

[serious]

In my view, I don't think they help at all. Just for chatting it maybe okay.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Dating apps and dating itself is just like smoking and everything synonymous, a weaseling distraction and not a solution,

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Not me. No where is. I might as well not exist. I gave up after getting rejected so much.

[insteadfew]

Absolutely no.

[Iron_Man]

No spam city