Are guys dumb when it comes to relationships or do they just not really want to be in one?

[casserolie]

Feel like most the guys I have a "relationship" with either choose to not care if it actually works out or not- therefore don't put any effort into it. Is that on purpose or are they actually just being dumb and don't know how to be in a relationship?

[sawno]

There are 2 scenarios something like this happens.
1. The guy genuinely cares but makes the mistake off putting so much effort that he sets unrealistic expectations and wears himself out to the point he is just himself and its no longer himself.
2. The guy will do whatever he needs to do to have sex but ultimately has no long term stake in the relationship.

[Pyrofox]

Its probably the guys around you acting dumb cause they want you to make the first move so they can't get slandered by ya XD. Girls and women might not realize it but we know y'all call guys who come on too strong creeps XD. And that pretty much has killed off the fun of asking girls out. And for many guys they flat out have given up on the dating market.

[casserolie]

gives off the opposite effect of not seeming like they care unfortunately. do too much and be seen as creepy, do too little and lose the girl because they can't keep carrying the relationship on their own

[Pyrofox]

You can thank the whole #MeToo movement a lot of guys find women just too problematic to bother with. Either y'all take the risk and chase us now or we just keep rolling on with life.

[iBeowulf]

Guys, you're on the hook when anything bad happens and statistically speaking, they'll steal ya kids. What's more, everyone is nice to women, so they expect it, thus their supposedly liking nice guys and not liking jerks. Stop listening to women and grow in power, the one thing they can't get on their own.

[jasco]

It's not that were dumb. It's simply we don't know how to. It takes time to make a good relationship. However who knows maybe the guys your dating are dumb. Their are different types all over the world so who knows

[Anonymous]

You're half right hunny. I care, of course I care. But I'm also fine if you want to walk right out that door. That's called being an adult. I'll love the woman I'm with but if you expect me to play some dilly game to prove it you. There's the door :)

[Juxtapose]

Women aren't any better lol.

[Slim57]

Wowwww

[Jamie05rhs]

What are your actual expectations for a boyfriend? (Honest question. Just curious.)

[Anonymous]

I can only speak for myself. I dont really want one. That's why I'm still single.

[casserolie]

so you'd fake a relationship with a girl just cause it's entertaining or tell her no thanks?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure why not. Most girls want a relationship. Give them what they want. That doesn't mean I have to sacrifice what I ultimately want. Overall I think I'm a nice guy.

[casserolie]

so you would be in a relationship even though you don't want to be in a relationship 😒 so y'all are dumb and careless

[Opinion Owner]

That's me. And that's not dumb. That's strategic.

[noohair]

With Asocial media and cancel culture, guys feel like they are walking on eggs in a mine field.

[EaterPeter]

They are dumb. If they are smart then they don't want to be in one.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like they may not be interested in the relationship.

[AntiChrist66666]

i no like to put effort into dis

[casserolie]

i wouldn't be able to read it anyways

[AntiChrist66666]

i think u smart enuff

[Yourfriend2021]

Those guys don't want a relationship.

[Hangry06]

They are clueless

[Gwenhwyfar]

Depends on the guy

[Jmmmfi4]

We don't care

[Anonymous]

Yes. Both