Is it wrong for men to only date virgins?

[devilman666]

Yes

No

Other

[VanillaSalt]

Nothing wrong with it. Everyone knows women become more crazy as their body count increases. Personal expectations are fine but not always reasonable. No different then women that don’t date short men or men that don’t date fat women. Though we could argue body count and weight are health determining.


I don’t date sluts.

[unknownforever]

It depends on the circumstances. Say he is a guy who sleeps around A LOT, then yeah it can be annoying when a guy says that. But it is a preference. But if he shames a woman for not being a virgin, then it is super wrong. However I find it more understanding when a guy wants to marry a virgin when he's either one too, or if he's decided to stop sex until marriage. Either or, it is a preference, but as long as there's no shaming, then it shouldn't be wrong.

[devilman666]

That's fair, this question is inspired by other questions I've seen, specifically one that was shaming men who have never been on a date before. I worded it this way because where as women prefer a man with experience, it seems more common to me for men to prefer virgins, so I wanted to see if women would think when they were judged just as harshly, I've heard women get mad at guys like this before, but maybe she was just hurt by the rejection. Thank you for the response.

[zaharuh]

I feel like it's only weird if a guy has slept with a bunch of girls and expects to marry a virgin but I guess its preference at the end of the day 🤷‍♀️ They should also make that clear from the beginning.

[devilman666]

Weird question for you, How would you feel if you were on a date and a man said "this is actually the first date I've ever been on"?

[zaharuh]

That would be interesting, depends on like how he acts but I would do my best to make him feel comfortable.

[devilman666]

I didn't ask how you would respond, though thank you for that, I was asking how you would feel, aka how you would judge him for being a virgin. Would you be less attracted to such a man? If everything else seemed normal, would this be a red flag? Why is it so important for men to be thirsty for sex?

I ask because I saw another question asking women if they would date a man who had never been on a date before, and the comments were pretty judgmental. I wanted to know if women would be upset if they faced that same kind of judgement.

[zaharuh]

That's a hard question lol I don't know if I would judge him really but I would be wondering if he would judge me maybe and I'd feel kind of sad because I feel like it's better for a virgin to get with a virgin but I guess that depends on the person. I wouldn't be less attracted to him as long as he fulfills what I like. If everything's normal and I like what I see I don't see a problem but I'd be wondering if he's saving it for marriage or whatever because I personally don't like that. I guess I would prefer a guy with a bit of experience though.

[jamiesrevenge]

@zaharuh u do not belong with a virgin 🤣

[devilman666]

I feel bad for whoever is unlucky enough to be the last virgin on earth. By your preference, they'd never lose their virginity.

[devilman666]

Also, your comment seems a little hypocritical, you say you wouldn't be less attracted to a virgin but also you would prefer a man with experience. Isn't that like me saying I wouldn't be less attracted to a woman who has had sex but I'd prefer to be with a virgin instead? Like if all other things were equal, I view the virgin as more attractive simply simply because she has her virginity, but also I'm not less attracted to women who have had sex? How does that make sense? Clearly you are more attracted to one and less to the other.

[zaharuh]

I've literally been with a virgin before when I was not one myself. I can't speak for all virgin men out there but in my experience they don't usually have what I like. I like guys that are more dominant and in touch with their sexual side. If there was a virgin that showed me something like this then it would be the same attraction for me. Okay maybe it was a little hypocritical but I'm not going to turn down a virgin solely on the fact that he is one. It's just that usually guys with more experience have the traits that I like I guess 🤷‍♀️

[fonduegirl]

@zaharuh exactly!!!

[fonduegirl]

@devilman666 depends on the reason. Unlike men, we don't just assume that women are virgins for all good reasons.

[devilman666]

@zaharuh that's fair, I was being kinda nit picky there. And that's fair to like more dominant guys, though I don't see a reason why a man couldn't be both dominant and a virgin. I won't judge your preference anymore, but I still have a couple questions. Maybe his first time would be a little awkward as he is unsure of himself, but every dominant man has to start out as a virgin at some point. So the question is does he already have the dominant trait inside himself or does that develope as a result of having sex? What if he had all the traits you like except he wasn't confident in bed? I feel like that would be something that would be fairly easy to fix, but if you're too shy to be honest with him about what you like and you're not good at faking it then it could be hard to give him confidence as he can tell he isn't doing good but might not know why.

[devilman666]

@anon1903 yeah because women are not capable of being incel, right? Why is being a virgin a bad thing? What are some bad reasons for men to be virgins? Why should we put so much societal pressure on men getting laid?

[devilman666]

@jamiesrevenge tbh, idgaf about your opinions. If you want to have a discussion then lets have a discussion, but at least stay on topic. There is no need for that kind of pointless name calling, as far as I can tell she has done nothing to deserve that.

[fonduegirl]

Nothing wrong with anyone being a virgin.

[devilman666]

@anon1903 then I have no idea what you're trying to say.

[fonduegirl]

Just supporting the OP's views.

[fonduegirl]

And people with zero experience are bound to make the whole experience awkward and tacky. I agree with that point too.

[fonduegirl]

But if we're to look it up in terms BDSM, not necessarily all non virgin guys would be dominant.

[devilman666]

I mean, that is still an assumption, but I can agree that it is definitely more likely for it to be kind of awkward. I just think it seems assumptive to assume that there aren't any men who are confident in themselves as they lose their virginity. There are a lot of over confident morons out there after all.

[devilman666]

@anon1903 well yeah, that just seems obvious. Not all experienced men are dominant and not all virgin men are nervous or awkward. It's just statistics.

[fonduegirl]

I'm a virgin and I'd still like to dominate a man. Shrugs.

[devilman666]

@anon1903 Nothing wrong with that imho. People who assume things about virgins need to get over themselves, I assume that people blame the fact that you are still a virgin on your desire to be dominant. Just like how prople assume men who are virgins must be losers or incels or something must be wrong with them. Good luck finding yourself a submissive man (they do exist but to my knowledge it's statistically low), you might have better luck finding a switch, but then you will probably have to let him dominate you sometimes.

[zaharuh]

@devilman666 Yeah I guess it really just depends, of course they can be dominant beforehand but like the other girl brought up bdsm and I'm actually into it a bit so I think a guy with some experience would be nice but if I met a guy that happened to be into it that was a virgin and just didn't have experience I would definitely give him a shot. I just feel like that's less likely to find.

[devilman666]

@zaharuh thank you for the response! Also, that's good to know as that is basically my position. I'm demisexual so I lack sexual attraction until I have emotional attraction towards the person. In other words, I'm only sexually attracted to women I start to fall in love with. I've dated long distance before and always felt really dominant sexually, outside of the bedroom I value equality, but I think inside the bedroom, I want to be king. However due to my demisexuality and confidence issues I've never really dated much other than long distance. The further into a relationship I get, the more my sexuality comes out, it's hard to satisfy myself when I'm single, but when I have a girl im falling for that I can think about while masturbating, then it's actually amazing. I don't want to lie to women I'm dating, or to force myself to have casual sex just because of how people judge virgins, so knowing that people like you exist is very nice.

[zaharuh]

Yeah that's fine, not everyone wants to sleep around and I don't see a problem with that. And I like that you have that factor to you, the virgin that I slept with was very submissive and it was a bit of a turn off for me but I just assumed maybe it was because it's his first time or something but that's probably just how the guy is now that I'm thinking about it.

[fonduegirl]

Demisexual men are very desirable, just fyi

[ChrisMaster69]

People can date who they like.

big however though, it’s disrespectful as fuck to ask a girl if she is a virgin.

basically asking a girl on a date and asking if she is a virgin or not on the first date.

Or even before then.

Apart from that she can say yes and you would not know.

[firaskr]

Ok what is the point of only dating virgin if you only looking for sex. second if you want here to be virgin then you should be ready to marry her. otherwise it doesn't make sense and it feels kind of creepy.

[SnakeBoop]

Nah, up to them if its their preference. Just hope they leave decent sexual impressions on those they are with XD

[Azura_88]

Not wrong if he's a virgin too.
But if he's not virgin then he's a hypocritical pig.
Only virgins deserve virgins.

[devilman666]

So do women find virgin men attractive?

[Azura_88]

Definitely but they're afraid to speak it openly.

[devilman666]

Really? This is surprising to me, most of the time I hear that women want a man with experience, and that she would wonder what was wrong with him that made it so hard for him to be with a woman.

[Azura_88]

They got double standards. Want a guy to have multiple flings in the past in order to satisfy her like heaven but also expects him to stay forever.

[Azura_88]

I value his virginity and if he's gonna stay forever then we have plenty of months to test our skills and get better and better.

[devilman666]

@azura_88 good answer. Though admittedly I think you can have both experience and a desire for a lifelong relationship. Many women want a man who is the opposite of a loser, or in other words, they want him to be desired by other women, but at the same time, they don't want to fight over him or have him potentially leave. Basically, they desire a risky situation, because he always has lots of other options, but they hope that the valuable man will choose them over all other women. There is a saying that the top 80% of women are all fighting each other, trying to date the top 20% of men, while the bottom 80% of men are forced to fight over the bottom 20% of women, because the top 80% of women view the bottom 80% of men as losers. This explains why women only swipe right just 5% of the time on tinder, the other 95% of the time they reject the guy. By that math women on tinder only accept an average of 1 in 20 men.

then you better value your own virginity as well. Also, I lowkey love that mentality haha, but maybe it's just because I'm a little insecure about my own virginity.

[CaseyCupcake]

no why should it be wrong? it could be some of their individual preference so i don't see why its ok to shame them for something they like. its like saying is it wrong for women to only date experienced guys

[zagor]

Men can date whoever they want - that is willing to date them. People tend to have lots of ridiculous, counterproductive "standards".

[Flower7]

It is if he isn’t a virgin himself.

[devilman666]

So I recently met some women who refuse to date men who are virgins, because they want a confident and experienced man, so they only date non-virgins. Sometimes this even extends to dating, if they haven't dated much then these women view that as a problem and potential red flag. So would it be wrong for a woman like this to have sex if she was a virgin? You said its wrong for men to prefer virgins unless he himself is a virgin, by that logic a virgin woman who prefers experienced men is also wrong.

[Dchrls78104]

Why would it be wrong, if the men in question also were virgins?

[Shy_Steve]

Most Guys won't reject a Girl simply because she is a Virgin.

[Anonymous]

Only if they are virgins too.

[devilman666]

So what if a virgin woman is only attracted to experienced men? Would it be wrong of her to go for an experienced man when she is not experienced? If the answer is no, then why must men be virgins in order to only date virgins, but women don't need to be experienced to only date experienced men? Seems like a double standards to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Virgins should only date fellow virgins.

[devilman666]

So therefore virgins should be forced to date other virgins even if they would prefer someone with experience?

[Opinion Owner]

Not forced (no body she be forced into anything), but it is the wisest course of action.

[Lisa_97]

no, you are free, it's your preference

[IncognitoBandito]

It's kinda weird and not particularly easy

[TheBigGuy9]

Not if they fall in love.

[ChiPaPa]

Nope. Whatever floats their gondola

[JessieBellll]

No...

[Shihab91]

wrong? XD

[Shihab91]

It's purer actually, gotta love these women who vote yes they are jealous of women who save themselves for the right one :)