Do opposites really attract?

Maybe for certain physical traits that's more so true. And some hobbies and interests IF you yourself are an open minded and adventurous person. I'm politically Moderate and sometimes i get so annoyed by politics I just say I'm A Political to get people to stfu about it. If she's into politics real heavy no matter where she falls I can't be with her. Just shut up about all that crap already, ain't no one want to hear about it anymore. If we are different faiths it could be a problem if she's super insistent on things. I'm easily able to integrate into different cultures myself because I'm very open minded about it though i do make it a point to talk about my own tribe sometimes as it's part of my identity. I think some of it is also mental really.
To say you only like blue eyes and blonde hair, I never got that tbh. Blondes are rare and if you never saw one I bet you would be after women from your own race/ethnicity. It's just you got a weird exposure to other women through media. There's no shame in it. I have a big thing for Latina and Desi women but tbh I am Italian, olive skin, dark hair and eyes. I wouldn't exactly say Latin and Italian peoples are "opposites". We have a lot in common in terms of religious background, family and relationship values, and we even both go into a lot of the same industries. This is why when my grandfather owned a few farms the hispanic families loved our family and we got along very well.
Indian women are different but most I've met... well actually ALL that I've met are super sweet, very traditional, very feminine, and very welcoming. That's always been my experience with them. They are a lot more shy because lets be honest a lot of people sadly treat them like s***. I like Arab and Muslim women too but because of the extreme religious and cultural differences I just steer clear of them. A lot of them are awesome but you just need like one zealous father that takes the stuff too literal and serious and then you can have all kinds of dangerous situations.
You know I was thinking that just about two hours ago! Not so much media exposure of the ideal blonde haired blue eyed girl but how I grew up in a small Nebraska town in which I was the only Mexican. There was an Italian girl that I crushed on hard when we were in 6th grade but after that it was mostly the lighter skinned girls. Definitely truth to that. My mom is Mexican and married a white guy and her 3 brothers all married white girls mainly because that's all they had to choose from. They have told me they wished there were some Mexican girls they could have dated but they do love their wives dearly. It was just a, what if moment.
I mean if i have a choice i want my kids to have darker eyes and hair, i find them to be strong traits being that they dominate the recessive genes and also something which would make them look less like me. I bet money there are a ton of women with darker traits you wouldn't think twice about dating, like my sister for example. Well granted there's a huge age gap between the two of you but she's 27, not a kid. I haven't a clue how young you'd be willing to date. so many people tried to get with her only to find out she's into girls though lol. And she doesn't do short hair or anything she's very feminine. Mexican girls are literally among my favorites for ethnic females. I also happen to love girls from India, Iran, Spain, Romania, Italy, Colombia, Dominican, Costa Rica, just to name a few. Dont get me wrong I'm attracted to all groups of women really. Just some I have a stronger initial attraction to. doesn't mean I dont find a blonde or redhead attractive as well.
My female cousins all have the dark traits from their father and are drop dead gorgeous! It isn't a unattractive quality to me, just not my preference. Not saying it would never happen either.
And my ex wife wanted our kids to have my features. She is very sensitive to the sun and suffers from seasonal allergies.
Yes. Lol! She's Norwegian. It's funny when she gets her picture taken with a strong flash attachment you can barely see her. She's like a ghost.
Lmao!
Not at all. Usually only women go for men on their equal social status, with women being the more physically attractive ones and men having to be "better" at everything else. Or, 7s and 8s only going after 8s and 9s. You never get 4s and 5s men with 8s and 9s women. So I don't believe this, at all.
Also, six feet isn't tall whatsoever for men anymore. That's literally just the new normal. Anything below tat is an F (too short) for women.
If you read carefully I said "fairly" tall. Also, my post had absolutely nothing to do with social status but rather physical appearance. Either you are attracted to someone with similar physical traits or you're not or perhaps a mixture of both. There isn't a right or wrong answer. Only what I prefer and the opinions of what others prefer.
It's not even "fairly tall." It's basically considered average, nowadays. Women won't date less than that. But ANYWAY, "social status" includes physical appearance, especially for women. Some people use the terms "social market value" or "desirability."
Semantics. My point is, hot people only go with hot people, rich people with rich, unattractive with unattractive (unless money's involved), and so on.
The average American male is 5'9". The average American white male is 5'10". Being close to 6'1" actually means I'm above average. And I have no clue how being a doctor or flashy rich business man is even in the same ball park as being attracted to someone that is the polar opposite of your physical features. It's not even in the same state. And obviously you're going to be attracted to people that are similarly as attractive as you but doesn't mean they'll have your same physical features.
You left me a link to your poll in which 82% of women said 5'11" was tall for a man. I am thoroughly confused.
In my personal experience, a person who has the traits that you aspire towards instead of the ones you currently have is more attractive, and a good relationship is one where you can pick up the slack for the other person's weaknesses (one being an emotional thinker and the other a logical thinker) because it makes you a better team. Common interests are great for bonding over but having different interests mean that you can teach the other person something and explore new things together which is also good for bonding.
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Opposites attract with different interests not so much in height or weight.
Opposite attract isn't refer to physical traits. It's about personality and sexual polarity. You're not gonna see a feminine guy dating a girly girl. More than likely a girl who considered herself more of a tomboy growing up.
A Barney Stinson to a Robin type relationship in HIMYM. While the reverse happens all the time. Masculine men are naturally attracted to girls who are more feminine. The polarity draws them in. That's usually associated with Opposite personality traits aswell but not always to an extreme degree.
Two Masculine people won't be with eachother. Two feminine people won't be together. This remains true across all relationships including same sex. There's always one that's more in their feminine and the other Masculine.
If I was being really picky here and I mean ultra-perfectionist for a moment please don't take this to heart: sometimes I wonder this too because the amount of pale women doing spray tans and real tans to look more light brown. And then I see them going for tanned or actually light brown male partners.
I mean I can't help put two and two together. But is that because they're ashamed of being white or because all the pale guys are unfit ugly or whatever in their females minds.
Surely anyone fairly reading this knows about the whole tanning trend right of pale women really loving those spray tan salons right and home kits too? Right? For years now? 🙄🤪🤪
That is good GAG question to ask. How many girls spray tan or tan in general and why? Usually anytime a person does something to "improve" their looks I have to believe it is to attract the opposite sex. I highly doubt there is an epidemic of women being ashamed of being white. I personally don't know any woman who spray tans or go to salons and very few that do the sun tanning routine on a consistent bases. As far as pale guys being unattractive and unhealthy looking I believe is true to some but not all. It's very subjective. But I always felt sorry for red headed guys, even though I knew a beautiful girl that said red heads were her thing!
And that's my curiosity too man. Exactly what type of opposite man are they trying to attract? If they want to date mixed races guys who aren't white, that's cool. I just am surprised and taken aback the lengths pale women go to. You know. As you wrote yourself. To pretend to be someone they're not originally. I dunno. I'm clueless 🙄
Have a nice day bro. Thanks. I😉
It is interesting. Some might say I'm attracted to white women because I see it as an accomplishment to date them. Shit, maybe there is truth to that. lol! And, yes, it could be white girls go for dark guys to feel "woke" in today's politically correct society. Good coversation. Thanks.
I guess everyone has a physical type they prefer. It gets tricky once you get past the physical attraction. I dated somebody that I thought was very pretty. We dated for about 4 or 5 months. She was a bartender and was not the outdoorsy or athletic type that I usually preferred. She was an aspiring singer and was really into the bar scene. Most of the time everything we did involved drinking. We went to a concert one night and it was during a blizzard. I had to park about a quarter mile away and we walked to the venue. She complained the whole time. All of my previous girlfriends would have loved a walk during a snowstorm. It was fun for a while but it was soon apparent to me that we were all wrong for each other.
My cousin went through the same experience. Fell head over heels with a girl that he knew in high school. They dated for over a year and like you, he was big into the outdoors. Fishing, hunting, hiking but her not so much. Anyway, he would go to Canada fishing every year with my brother and other friends and she said she wanted to go. It
Didn't go well. She complained the whole time. Never chipped in to cook or clean, rarely even left the cabin. He broke up with her the minute they got back home.
I think there something to that, I don’t think it occurs with politics I can’t stand the left, I think AOC is physically attractive but she is as dumb as a rock and that’s an insult to the rock. I have a 130I. Q so I’m not attracted to women who can’t keep up with me intellectually. I’ve study Marx Russo Descartes Lao tzu Kong fu tzu (aka Confucius). That kind of thing.
Maybe on some smaller issues and personality traits.
Being opposites on big issues... no.
I have two friends from high school that have been happily married for 15 years. She is extremely conservative and he is extremely liberal. I have NO clue how they have lasted considering today's political environment. But they have and will even argue back and forth on facebook.
Yes opposites do attract. If you're a good looking tall guy with a good body your best match will be a fat ugly woman.
I think it's true in many cases. I'm like you in that I am 6'3" and have always been very attracted to short women, like 5'0" - 5'3". Other things I'm not that picky about though.
Is 5'3" considered short? I thought I was kinda tall lmao
@friendlypixie It varies country by country but here in the US 5'3" is shorter than average.
There is a tendency towards homogamy, meaning people tend to look for people similar to them. Different characters attract each other if they complement each other.
No. I'm dark blond, blue eyed and tall and I prefer girls on my attractiveness level with similar physical traits than mine.
Yes you probably want your kids to turn a certain way mix genes
That's what most women say. My ex wife actually said she wanted our kids to have my features. She's has extremely light skin and is very sensitive to the sun and wouldn't want that for her children. But like you said, I would hope if we had a daughter that she would have my wife's features. Good answer!
Who doesn't like shorter girls with light skin, blue eyes and blonde hair.
I think so because I have been told that I look innocent and I don't like innocent faces on men.
>light skin blue eyes blonde hair
Typical Mexican lmao
Except for women who are attracted to the female body
The one that might not work for most is one dont like sex but the other does.😊
Well I think it depend research have shown that people like people who look similar to them more.
No, not really, personality is 90% of attraction. Not physical features. Many cases I am not attracted to a person at all at first.
Initially it's the physical appearance that attracts me but a good personality definitely seals the deal. Yes, a good personality will make a average looking girl very desirable.
@Slingblade1126 Unfortunately, opposites never attract. Only similarities attract people.
Everybody like white girls sounds either u have a fetish for white women or something else most likely a fetish because the skin comparison
I don't understand it when people have skin color preferences. Is that a normal thing? seems odd to me...
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