Do opposites attract?

Question

Do you think we all look for someone who is like-minded? Or do opposite character traits, like extrovert-introvert, passionate-serene attract each other and even compliment each other?

What's your experience with the partners you have or had?

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

While I think I've been attracted to a woman who possessed traits which I do not , I also think in terms of compatibility which may contradict what I’m attracted to.

I may have started off thinking “ oh she is different and feel quite drawn to that new energy because of that , and while that’s sometimes enticing i have found that it often makes things more challenging. Case in point , I’m naturally more drawn to extroverted women but I don’t actually think I’m comparable unless she wants be be more ambivert , like me.

So yeah opposites may attract but if doesn’t mean your compatable.

MJVillarama · Accepted Answer

Great question! I think both happen, sometimes opposites attract and balance each other out, other times like-minded vibes just click. Honestly, it’s more about how well you connect and respect each other than matching personalities perfectly. What’s been your experience?

Pearl222 · Accepted Answer

I think there’s a natural affinity to be attracted to someone who has qualities that are opposite from you; because you subconsciously desire/admire them.
I’ve always been attracted to people who are quite the opposite of me in terms of personality and other interests, but usually the attraction fades quickly unless they also have similar values and mindset as me.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

It happens. My best friends when I was younger were very different than me. Poles apart. So is my partner. It can be very attractive but also get difficult at times.

ohsheeT · Answer

Only if one is trying to save the other one. Most of the time they don't last most people that are together they like doing the same things

AviatorTom · Answer

Simple physics...

Datboi65 · Answer

No, not complete opposites. There has to be a mixture of similarities and differences.

For example, if someone's unintentionally loud while the other one gets irritated by loud people, it won't work unless one of them makes an adjustment.

An extrovert in a relationship with an introvert will have to respect the introvert's boundaries and not push them too far, otherwise it will not work.

Similarities are mostly important for values, culture (some folks don't care), religion (some folks don't care) and politics. So at least 2 of the 4 have to be met. I don't think I need to explain to you what a marriage between 2 people with opposing world views would look like.

Miristheiss · Answer

In small degrees. Opposites can attract over small, trivial issues. They do no attract on big core issues.

I mean you won't get someone who wants 5 kids and who is frugal and saves and invests their money, who is monogamous get together with someone who hates kids, blows all their money as soon as they get it who does open relationships exclusively getting together and working out.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

I have an anxious attachment style and I dated someone who had an avoidant attachment style. It requires a lot of patience, understanding, COMMUNICATION (really huge and has to be healthy). I honestly believe that if I would’ve known about this from the beginning and understood it the way I do now, things would be different right now.

Twalli · Answer

I wouldn't say that a girl the exact opposite of me would be a good match. You need people who aren't exactly like you though. For example, my girlfriend gets hungry and can't cook. I don't get hungry and can cook. We eat when she's hungry and what I cook, our skills complement each other (having hunger is a skill).

Anonymous · Answer

To a certain point, yes, opposites do attract. But that doesn't mean they always get along.

However, if I see a hot girl who is quite opposite of me, I will definitely try to adapt to her personality.

If she is not my type, then it doesn't really matter, because I won't be attracted to her in any way.

Sunrising · Answer

I do think like magnet opposites attract each other, people opposites do attracted each other too.

I'm not particularly handsome (really I don't think so) and I'm attracted to gorgeous females, with shapely bodies, that I don't have.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think there needs to be equal balance between the two extremes.

molly1997xxx · Answer

my boyfriend and I are quite different but get along great , he dresses in black and likes metal and has a bold personality. I’m bubbly, luv dresses, and super shy, but we enjoy each others company

Massageman · Answer

Not 100% of the time, as magnets would, but many times , yes. We were each designed to fill in the voids of the other.

Nikki1989 · Answer

In rare cases, it can work, but why would anyone want to take that risk?

FreyaRed · Answer

Emotionally the opposite, psychologically very similar

exitseven · Answer

They can attract each other but after the physical attraction wears off it becomes a problem.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Of course they do because everyone of us is different. The problem is most modern Women don't allow for that to happen.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

They do for me. I'm an introvert who's attracted to extroverts.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it’s about complementing each other after all

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

I doubt it 😕

dudeinohio · Answer

I've found opposites don't attract.

Bloodparadise · Answer

Yes.. opposites attract!

blackeagle007 · Answer

Isn’t that for human survival?

sage2021 · Answer

No! Period.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. They compliment

In_Trance · Answer

No they don't

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Often enough

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