Is it really a turn off if a woman is too available or eager to see a man?

[slackbabbath]

[Blackcupcake]

uh no. I’m not too available, I got a life, I got shit to do and I have other people in my life I want to spend time with. So if I’m making myself available for him, he should feel happy and appreciated. If that becomes a turn off then ALL OF HIM becomes a complete and instant turn off for me. I don’t have the time or energy for games, playing hard to get or any shit like that so if that’s what he wants then he can move on without me.

[slackbabbath]

Amen

[tatianamay]

play stupid games, win stupid prizes

playing hard to get is for fools

i neither have the time nor the energy to play games. If he considers me making time for him as me being desperate, i'd be like: boy bye 🙄

[crazy8000]

Depends on if the person in question is secure or insecure.
Also depends on what kind of insecure like ambvelalent/avoiding/shifting.

Secure person doesn't have problems with it and tends to say if you are to much. without messing up.

Insecure on the other hand usually have problem with it.
How depends on what kind of insecure.

[slackbabbath]

Can you elaborate on the insecure part?

[crazy8000]

Have to get back on that since it was a while since I had that much check on it if you want to have deeper information about it.
Here you have little more general about the subject.

Avoiding usually have problems with when it get to deep do they tend to flee. they prefer to stay at a little more shallow stage.
If you go on to fast and do what you describe they usually flee.
Some of them tends to come back when it looks like more shallow.
Players no matter gender are usually in this group.
Also one of the most common within human population no matter if they are players or not.

Ambivalent.
They usually on very deep to they have the other one and then push the other one away until they almost lose the other one and then do it again.
Hot and cold behavior.
It can escalate very fast with someone like that and are a very good thing to be on very fast early on and then become little off. there the other one needs to work too get deep again.

Those two insecure groups usually attract each other and they get a funny on of matching oscillation that can look very messy.
Girl tries to get a guy that doesn't look like he are interested ( bad boy ) .

The funny thing is that someone that happen to fall into the same insecure group aren't attracted to each other most of the cases.
Every group are attracted to the secure group even others within the secure group.

Insecure shifting are usually most common with war and trauma victims when they were a child.
One of the smallest groups within human population.
That's just what I have about this group.

When you first learn which one you happen to be and work on it first.
Then learn to read what the other one is it's gonna get much easier how to be with being on and eager.
Just be aware that some secure ones tend to put up a insecure avoiding appearance to have it easier in today's society.

[crazy8000]

Here you have something that can be little related still a different topic that interact.
If you gonna get someone within ADHD spectrum it has to go fast very early on to get a high success rate due to how their brains works.
They only have on or off when it comes to feelings and get very easily bored and lose interest if it doesn't escalate fast enough.
Holding back with someone like this is mostly doomed to failure. no matter gender.

[genericname85]

i mean it "can" be. like if you're coming on too strong and they don't feel it yet, that can scare people away. but normally, you wouldn't turn a guy off that wants you.

[slackbabbath]

That’s what I was thinking

[genericname85]

yeah but if he's "really" into you, i think that won't turn them off. unless they're like hyper conservative or something.

[jennifer_bloom]

That’s what all my religious friends say.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not a turn off but the guy gets complacent figures he’s in doesn’t try as hard. But defo not an actual turnoff.

[slackbabbath]

True

[Gwenhwyfar]

Stops bothering to go down on you

[t-8900]

A woman who plays hard to get just signifies "you're not good enough for this" so I just say OKAY! I'll find someone who understands the fact we're supposed to meet on equal footing!

[Dominique95glee]

I was told it was but I always was like that and after I left school I had guys I never meat in person like me and most that I know for forever and it might be the kind of guy we are after

[ohshee]

Not even that shows her character her personality and who she chooses to be and I think that's cool because she's letting you in

[elizamichale1]

I dont think it should be
Instead it should be seen as she is very confident person n knows what she is doing

[Fireguy17]

No, the old rules of waiting so long before you called etc. were dumb.
Now if someone is too needy or clingy that is a different story.

[DonRollins]

no. Unless she is Russian. Then I know she is a gold digger prostitute for the Mafia. Lol. I mean basically!

[Jay3344]

Heck no, if she’s what he likes than it can be a turn on.

[ScoobyNECBir]

Depends there’s a happy medium. Not too needy and desperate but also not too cold.

[anylolone]

Nope. That's actually good, if it's excessive then it's worrying but not a turn off.

[MoodyJazz]

I think games are for the beginning of the relationship. But after you're together, manipulation should best be avoided.

[CreamySeed]

Yes it is, there needs to be some breathing room, the girl needs to have a life outside of the man. The man cannot be 100% on her mind, its needy and a turn off.

[FilmGuy93]

Depends on how available she is, but it's generally not a problem.

[Morgador]

I wouldn't say a turn off it's nice to feel she's interested

[doctorwow]

At first probably not but I'm sure with time it could be quite annoying

[InferiorElegy]

It is if I'm that guy because basically to me she's so desperate she'd pick the grime at the bottom.

[Redstang88]

Nope, guys don’t feel the need to play those games

[slackbabbath]

So guys don’t care about the chase?

[Redstang88]

Kinda I guess, mostly because we have to 🤷‍♂️
I just mean you’re not gonna push away a guy that is interested

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

Not to me it isn't a turn off.

[Turtleneck22]

I personally don’t think so

[Wise4myage]

Yes, that can make a girl look desperate.

[convo_king89]

You mean horny/desperate?

[Fuentes]

Kinda i get annoyed but thats just me

[okeydoke]

Not for me.

[Anonymous]

Not at all to me if I'm interested!

[Titlover01]

No not at all

[WowwGirl]

Yess

[swettannie]

depend of the men

[bamesjond0069]

No way.