My ex boyfriend was a very shy guy, he almost never started a conversation, but the way he engaged in it was by asking questions. I am also shy and insecure, and that's not a good combo. So one thing I learned is that it's okay to be who I am around others, I mean, I don't have to "impress" other people, so don't be afraid to show a little bit of yourself, your interests, stuff like that. Ask questions and share a little bit about you. For example, if it's raining, you could say "I like/don't like rain, do you like rain?" And based on her answer you could ask why, and then you could say why you like or don't like rain, then maybe say what you like to do on rainy days and then ask her what she likes to do... Something like that. Sometimes it's hard, but try to not overthink the situation.
Things you could talk about: food (favorite food, what you can cook, food you don't like), pets (if you have one, if you're a dog or cat person), music (what artists you listen to, if you like concerts, artists you'd like to see live), books/movies/series (the most recent movie/series you watched, a b/m/s you didn't like, what you want to watch/read next).
Ask her about her hobbies, passions or interests
Make small talk and ask how she’s doing, about how she grew up/her family or the weather
Ask about favorite tv shows, books or movies
Ask about favorite travel destinations
About favorite music! Singers and bands. Hope these help! And don’t worry. You’ll overcome your shyness and get to a place of confidence. You just have to practice at it.
Practice makes perfect. The fastest progress is imho by constantly talking with people you dont know too well. Men, women, older, younger, whatever. For introverts its best to make it one on one, but keep getting yourself into such situations. Once you are accustomed to that, you will be much more able to navigate things with the added stress of talking to a woman you are interested in.
For me I typically look for people with similar hobbies and interests and make the effort of asking people I don't know to meet instead of only close friends. That way I have a head start due to the common interest but I will still be forced to talk without knowing much about the other person.
There is no general guide that will improve your soft skills in a single afternoon alone at home... At least I tried many, and none of them worked.
Oh young buck. If you only knew the world of hurt they had planned for you wouldn't be shy at all lol.
You need to get the notion of storybook love out of your head for starters. Just think of women as tking to a guy except she's overly sensitive randomly about the oddest things, don't use logic! Logic does not work with women. Know you have to cognizant of her feelings but NEVER be swayed by her feelings. They are a weapon and she will use them to control you.
Well there's a few nuggets of wisdom to get you started. Gl!
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Often what you need to do is to keep doing it.
Why do you have trouble finding topics to talk about? Is it because you think you have to talk about shoes with them?
Women are humans, just like you, remember that.
I understand how you feel did I've been the same way and still am someone. The thing I find hardest isn't the conversation but how to break the ice, how to airways the girl and what to say to her to even begin acknowledge you to conversate. I'm some instances where a find myself able to conversate with a new girl that I met is that confidence is always key!
It takes practice for most guys. Just remember that a good convo is also a sign of progress even if you don't get her number or social media.
Talk about things that she mentioned to you before.
So why don't you learn some new things to talk about
Be confident, No hesitation, when you see woman, say, Marhaba, Ahlen WA sahlen
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