Its the female equivalent to a male's opening line...
gotta get a foot in the door, BEFORE you can 'sell yourself'.
As a female, if you're NOT just looking for a platonic friend, you're FISHING!
The optimized photo, all 'tarted' up is seeking to draw curiosity & infatuation.
A recent 'Church of the Final Process' cult used to pragmatically term it 'flirty fishing'...
human males ESPECIALLY are subconsciously 'visual'.
Males would stand transfixed in wrapt attention, to a Nun reading a telephone book,
if you 'tarted her up' insightfully. "Pee-raise Chee-zus!"
Some use current pics, some use old ones when they were younger or weighed less. A lot of female profiles though are just bait to get guys to pay money to join so they can send messages. I'm not sure if it is the sites themselves that do it or if users sign up for affiliate programs and create the fake profiles to make commission. I do know that any dating site you have to pay for is better off avoided if you're a guy.
I don't use dating sites, but have noticed on Facebook, Instagram, and the like that some girls have absolutely zero pictures without filters that slightly change their facial features, and so it wouldn't surprise me if they take it a bit further with dating sites and use old photos, heavily filtered ones, etc. The thing about the Internet in general is that people typically only post the most flattering things about themselves, including photos.
I heard other girls saying they post 'untrue' pics, like filtered, because everyone else does and that is what people are used to seeing on social media..
I personally make sure at least half my photos are recent (within a year) and most without any makeup, which I rarely wear, and I never use filters or such anyway.
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u Damned good question. Although I generally have had very good results with dating sites, I had two dates where women showed up for our first meeting and it was obvious her pictures were taken 10 years or 100 pounds ago. And if my first impression of them is "liar' liar, pants on fire!" how in the hell do they expect to get a second date?
Apparently people prefer to use anime pictures or Wildlife or something that does not involve showing their faces on a dating site. Not many people willing to take the risk of letting people know the real person, especially when people have abusive and she passes that it's hard to show your face in public or a mind so they have to make a Persona of someone else the hide themselves. I don't know about the rest of the people on this post but as for me I actually got nothing to hide and willing to show my face and if it backfires on me then I just learn from my mistakes and try again.
There are Women who won't, because they have no intention of meeting the Guy in person. She leads him on for a time, then hits him eventually with saying she up and decided they aren't compatible. These are the ones who treat it as a game at the expense of others.
I found that more women lied about their ages than posted fake pictures. They usually listed themselves a couple years younger than they actually are. Fake pictures are easy to weed out, given video chatting and/or the first time you meet.
by the way, men are just as guilty, although many men like to post pictures of their package, which most women don't like.
Most I've experienced were true to the photo's, but I don't engage 9's and 10's either so maybe that's part of it. For one, many obviously lie about their looks, and second is that the ones who actually are that attractive are usually very high maintenance. I like the 6's.. low maintenance, dependable.
Um everyone uses filters nowadays. That's the new reality. Even celebrities, Instagram models and of course the girls you see on GaG. I once a famous actress and she was nothing like you see in the movies.
So it's not just girls on dating sites
And of course, lots of guys use sugar-coated or ancient photos too
Yeah but quite often they take dozens and out of those they take the one that has the optimal angle and lighting to make a somewhat misleading picture.
Generally real but manipulated to look good. Zoomed in to hide a fat looking face, layers of makeup, excessive highlights that make their face look flat by drowning all imperfections in shining light, even photoshop. I have seen it all. But I use dating sites where photos are optional, so you just learn to accept a manipulated photo as limited info. Better than no picture at all usually.
definitely not, many girls and men either young or old lie about their profiles. we have to be careful, there are many liars out there. some are just having fun so they are harmless, some are criminals, let us be careful
some do some dont but its a good question. the ones that do genuinely want a relationship and the ones that dont tend to be either looking for a hook up or a pen pal
I know for facts that more than a few do not. Just matched with a “22” year old who looks like a grandma. ,,,, then we have the ones with seven pictures, two from 15 years ago and five that look like the undertaker is on his way
I certainly wouldn't use a fake pic. No need for it. I mean, look at how shiny and blue I am!
No, I do not believe that anyone men or women have ever used a profile pic that is true to what they currently look like. Because, if you know you are considered good-looking, you are more than likely not to even put your picture up. Since, you are confident that they will not be disappointed when they actually see you. They are more than likely to just post a "Body Shot" sans your head. You know, cause if I take care of my body this well, imagine how much care I put into my face.
No because a lot of women put filters on them or they'll post pictures of when they looked their "best" years ago being in better shape, or not as fat. Posting unfiltered current pictures of yourself are important on dating apps.
This is me, do I look good?
They don't even use true pics on FB or other non-dating sites. Many times I see people in the local jail bookings that I know from FB and they always look way different because mugshots are not filtered.
u no idea, never ever tried a dating site... but I did like your pics when it was the real you
Some do, some don't, some do but they're older uhm... fitter pictures of them.
If a woman is particularly homely I'd imagine she doesn't get many messages. While I don't condoan her catfishing a guy I can understand why she might.
I'm sure all women (well all women who have fair motives) do it with the thought in mind, "If he just got to know me and found out what a good person I am my pics won't matter as much".
Not all of them. Some of them use heavy make up or filters
Not always AND that also go for men. The Internet is the new way to deceive.
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