When is it ok for your boyfriend to start calling your mother mom?

[Dancer1623]

I have been dating a guy for 5 months. Just recently he asked my mother could he call her mom? my mother was ok with it, but I am still on the fence. In one way I think it is endearing that he feels close enough to my mom to call her that. Other the other hand I feel this is not something you do until after marriage. I have yet to tell my boyfriend or mother how I feel about this. As I don't know the best way to tell them or if it is even my place to say anything. I should mention we are in our early 30s. We have discussed our futures together. We are likely to get married the way things are presently going.

[Phoenix98]

Maybe it's just me but I would never refer to my partners parents as mom or dad not even if we were married they would always be Mr and Ms ( last name ) or their first name or Ma'am and Sir.

That's the way I was raised.

[MTC29]

That's very unusual while dating. Even when married, addressing ones in laws by their first name is far more common than calling them mom and dad.

[wankiam]

there's no fixed rule and infact if i called my exes mother mum it would have been very odd as she was 4 years younger than me

[Twalli]

I don't call my girlfriend's mother mom. and I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. I am also planning on proposing in the next 18 months.

[PAcc92]

I will never call my girlfriends mother "Mom", I have a mother, one who has earned her title and I sure as hell won't be awarding that title to anyone else.

[AviatorTom]

Simple... when it's okay for your mother to want him to call her Mom.

[Mangospacho]

Never. It’s strictly Mrs. [Mother in law] or first name.

[Jamie05rhs]

I would call her "Mrs. _____."

[Mangospacho]

@Jamie05rhs Exactly. Strictly business with the mother-in-law.

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, it's about respect.

[Mangospacho]

Respect. And fear.

[Jamie05rhs]

Fear? Lol. Okay

[boxxie2002]

My dad called my grandma mum after 4 years and marriage.
5 months is quite soon... I don't think I would ever get to mum ever with a mother inlaw

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't think he should be doing that at all unless she's the grandmother of his children.

[Goodboystevie]

never, he has his own. should always address her as mrs -----------

[Goodboystevie]

or until she asks to call what ever she wants

[PrettyPriya]

I would say once you get married.

[koolbrz]

Maybe, in Asian culture it will be okay.

[TacosRAwesome]

Never, she's not his mum.

[ChiPaPa]

I'd never call her mom, mom.

[Iron_Man]

I’ve never heard of that at all

[Wise4myage]

Id say its ok as long as he's not a mama's boy.

[Fuentes]

Damn he's tryna lock you down fast

[In_Trance]

After marriage... or adoption

[noohair]

After the marriage.

[jimmy2]

Yes i think so