My boyfriends mom?

[mollycrystal]

I’m 19 (keep in mind please) living with my boyfriend his sister, her husband, and her two toddlers and new born. It’s a lot mentally very overstimulating. That’s a whole other can of warms but anyways. My bfs mom has come over and spent the night in our living room for a whole week a couple different times and she always makes these comments that are slight digs at me and his sister told me she’s like that she just is jelouse that her son treats me so good and she’s never been treated good. Her words not mine. My bfs sister told me that when her and her mom were on the phone she was sitting the pot and talking about how my boyfriend will want kids one day and I asked my bfs sister to wait ur mom wants me to have kids what. And she’s like yeah I told her not everyone wants to suffer like you or me and have kids at 19. And I’m so confused because like wth it rlly freaks me out and weirdos me out that my bfs mom is talking about that stuff. On top of it she was saying to my bfs mom (her daughter) how she needs to call me and have me watch over the kids which I rlly don’t appreciate seeing I have my own life and job and hobbies I want to do and I didn’t decide to have kids there not mine. please give me some advice don’t hold back, I don’t think I’m being selfish about not watching over someone else’s kids but please let me know what you think!

[Cutegirl06]

I totally agree with you you! You should not have to watch someone else's kids it's not your responsibility! She's being irresponsible. She sounds like she's a selfish person that doesn't want anyone to be happy. You owe her nothing!

[Abbycado]

Whose house is it? Your bf’s or his sister’s and her husband’s house?

[mollycrystal]

It’s a lease we’re only staying there for 3 more months. It’s suppose to be all of ours but it doesn’t feel like it.

[Abbycado]

If it is equal sharing, you have no obligation to anyone. Look at it this way, three months may seem long but it could be worse.

[mollycrystal]

True that and thank you! It use to be 8 months so yay!

[Abbycado]

Yeah, that would be MUCH more difficult to swallow another three quarters of a year almost. This will go by fast.

[LiamS95]

There is no need to rush into having kids until you're established financially and ready for a family and all the responsibilities that go along with it.

[AgentG111]

Hang tight and realize some people just talk to hear noise and they never have anything worth the Oxygen they waste.

[AI Opinion]

Living in such a bustling environment can be overwhelming, especially with added family dynamics. It sounds like you're navigating a tricky situation with your boyfriend's mom. Remember, it's important to set boundaries—politely but firmly communicate your feelings about not being available to babysit. Focus on your own well-being and make time for the things you love, like your hobbies, to maintain your mental balance. Open communication with your boyfriend might help too, so you both are on the same page. Stay true to what makes you happy and prioritize self-care. You've got this! 😊🎮

[Nikki1989]

You moved into a home, not a free daycare center.

[Kelly6]

@mollycrystal

ah , daughter in law and mother in law issue.
very common

[beefcakebradybatson]

Too much drama for a 19-year-old.(Or a 72-year-old !!!)

[Anonymous]

She just needs time to get used to you.