My mom hates my boyfriend?

[StateOfBliss7]

I'm 22 year old medical student and so is my boyfriend. We've been dating for almost a year and a half and everything went smooth until my mom met him. She started hating his guts because he has no driver's licence and apparently ''he looks mean''. She doesn't let me see him anymore and she called him on the phone a few months ago to say horrible things to him to make him leave me alone and she even threatened him (keep in mind he's never done anything bad to me ever) so we were both shocked as hell when that happened. Whenever this subject comes up in a conversation she gets furious and tells she'll never let us be together and never lets me talk or tell my side of the story, tell her what my relationship is like behind close doors or let me express my feelings. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other in secret but its still very stressful cause of the pressure my mom puts on me daily and I genuinely feel like I'm losing my mind. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Are you and boyfriend willing and able to get jobs while you’re still in school? If so, you should stop suckling your mom’s money teet and consider moving out. Your mom is under the impression that she can boss you around and dictate who you can and can’t date because you are still relying on her. You are still living under her roof and abiding by her rules. Sorry for being harsh, but if you don’t want to abide by her rules then you should take out a student loan and find a modest apartment with your boyfriend.

[TommyMountainFigure]

She hates your boyfriend. Well then, it's a good job it's you dating him instead of her! I don't see the issue! Just don't mention him in front of her, and when she asks where you're going, tell her when she can be trusted to behave civilly to you, you'll tell her!

[Avicenna]

Do you still live with her/are financially dependent on her?

[StateOfBliss7]

Unfortunately yes. She's a single mom and has raised and is paying for my tution. I really appreciate her but how she's acting right now about this whole thing terrifies me.

[Avicenna]

Well, then you can't buck her opinion on him.

[Unit1]

Getting told by your toxic mother who you can love and who you can't love?

You have reached a point in your life where you'll have to make your major life decision on who you'll drop.

Little hint: i left my toxic "family". No regrets. I'm living alone and did things all by myself. Hence my username. Many parents simply need to be shown the bras d'honneur gesture.

[MikeTheBartender]

Wtf? 😡 I'm at the bar... Don't wanna write something I'll regret later. I feel bad for you and your boyfriend right now...

[Staximus]

So what else made her hate him besides the no license and she doesn't like his face? If you live in America (and not New York City), most people that don't have drivers licenses are irresponsible bums.

[StateOfBliss7]

I'm not American.
But basically she has made up an image of him in her head which is not even close to the real him.

[exitseven]

You are 22 years old. You can date anyone you want.

[JacobJordan]

Then move out. Your mom sounds fantastic... ly horrible

[RossyBoi]

If you're both over the age of 18 then it's not up to your mum who you date.

[BarryLiverstone]

She’s trying to scare you on purpose. You see what’s motivating her right?

[StateOfBliss7]

Elaborate?

[BarryLiverstone]

Clearly she’s afraid you will drop out or fail school. Right now financially she has sacrificed so you have this opportunity.

Hasn’t she mentioned how important school is and to complete your degree?

[StateOfBliss7]

Well yes obviously. But i dont think thats still a reason to throw psychotic tantrums because im dating a guy she doesn't like.. We dont communicate, she just yells at me and leaves.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s 100% the reason. Sure your mom may have her own issues and maybe he reminds her of an ex. But unless I’m missing something here your mom has become a monster because in her mind she loves you and sees him as a threat to you finishing school.

Can you see why she’s worried?

[StateOfBliss7]

You might be right

[BarryLiverstone]

Hope I helped. Good luck. Let me know if you need help in how to react to her acting like this

[worldscolide]

Lol so you're dating a loser got it.. Lady don't let him drag you down, your mom is right.

[Anonymous]

I assume your boyfriend was the one who asked you out and hit on you

[Billlewis]

Can you help him get his driver's license?

[StateOfBliss7]

He is planning to. But that's not a reason to think someone's a horrible person just because they have no license.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I understand; I just thought I'd throw that out there, since you mentioned it initially. I just started following you, and you're welcome to follow me and/or message me if you'd like to discuss this in greater detail. Thanks very much;)

[KrakenAttackin]

How has she responded to past boyfriend's?

[In_Trance]

You need to make a decision