My mom hates my ex?

[Anonymous]

me and my boyfriend broke up and now my mom hates him. she told me she dissaproves his behavior and whatever happens she will never accept our relationship. but i have a feeling that me and my ex might get back together. what should i do. i don't want my mom to hate mt partner but i have a feeling she will always think that way.

[_Maya_]

Okay so what is the problem? He is an ex. Why do you think you and your ex will get back together? That is quite presumptuous unless this isn't the first time you have broken up and then got back together. If that is the case then I can see why your mom doesn't care for him. The problem is that you cannot change the way someone feels. They are entitled to have their own opinion and you can either accept it or not. There is nothing you can really do if your mom feels that strongly about it. I am sure she has her reasons.

[Asker]

i think we will because he wasn't in the right headspace because of stress and stuff. i don't think this is the end of us but i don't want my mom to dissaprove of him if we end up geeting back together and i dont know how to change her mind

[_Maya_]

Okay but what actually happened that you broke up or was it because of stress and stuff?

[Asker]

he said that i we stayed together he would just hurm me more because he's stressed because of work and other stuff. we broke up cause he did't want to hurm me more than he already had. i told my mom this, she does't believe it's the reason. after the breakup he called me and when i told her that she told me that i had no self respect cause i answered his call and that my ex isn't acceptable to her

[_Maya_]

Now that I know what the reason is that is pretty unreasonable of your mom. You sound more as if you are taking a break because he needs one. I would have presented it that way but kinda too late to backtrack now.

[Asker]

is there any way i can change her mind

[_Maya_]

There is a really slim chance. As I mentioned in my original opinion it is really hard to get someone to change their thinking when they are that stuck on something. You could try and tell her that it is not really a breakup and that you both decided a break was necessary. I don't know that will work but worth a shot perhaps.

[devilish-cutie]

you need to know that unfortunately your mom won't support you, that is her choice, it is hard but you gotta live your life and go against her views. If you potentially date this guy for years or even marry him she has no other way to accept him or you won't be in her life, so dont think it will necessarily be forever. After all things with this guy might not work out so its useless to bother so much atm about your moms opinion.

[Asker]

is there any way i can change her mind

[devilish-cutie]

no, you cannot force it, you just need to do things for ysf and you may talk to her normaly that this is what you need to do, but dont expect too much of her

[boggboss]

This is why u don't tell outside parties about the nitty gritty because u end up poisoning the well I don't think u can chamge her opinion

[dudeinohio]

Good for her. Don't get back together. The issues that caused you to break up will still be there. Always move forward, never backward.

[Anonymous]

Go to family counseling and work it out

[fuddly]

You suit yourself