Wow, we're currently going through the same thing and I totally understand where you're coming from. After getting caught smoking weed with my boyfriend at prom, my parents found out and told me that he is a bad influence and they hate him now. Just like you, my boyfriend is amazing and my complete best friend so losing him would be horrible. Yes he introduced me to weed but I'm 18 and capable of my own decisions and I chose to smoke because I simply enjoy it. In the beginning, we used to fight so bad where I had panic attacks everyday but for the last year we have been great and so happy. So to them they just see this horrible drug addicted, 'psychopath' that hurts me, even thought thats not true one bit. No matter what I tell them they will never understand because to them weed is just a DRUG and end of story. Even though I have good grades and got accepted to the uni I wanted, they simply don't care because it'll 'lead me to worse drugs'. I feel so bad with how your parents are handling it because they sound like they're crazy ;/ Honestly since you're under they're roof it fucking sucks so my best advice would be to move out when you can so you will not have to deal with them. Best of luck girl
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Try living at res in university? Make sure your straight up and simple and just right to the point with your parents. You should tell them that your depression is coming back and if they cared about you and loved you they would respect your decisions.
Just because they are mormon/Christian or whatever, doesn't mean you have to do EVERY religious thing they do. Yeah your Christian but you can still have a life... and it's your own life. There's a reason why you are into this world and it's your life. They have there's and they can live how they want to live. Just remember to respect them but still stay grounded. Switching schools because of one guy? Now THATS crazy. They sound like miserable people.
No decent parent is going to be excited about their child doing drugs, hon. And all decent parents know that when their kids start hanging out with kids who already do drugs, they are FAR more likely to jump on that train. They are just trying to look out for you. The unfortunate thing is that drugs can wreck your life. No one wants to hear it; no one wants to admit it. That doesn't make it any less true. (Medical marijuana is a different story, but that's not the issue at hand). Sooo many places drug test now that it makes it hard to get a decent job when you are a smoker. :'(
I was a mormon too, and I know it's extreme. Your parents can't decide for you what to do, but they can warn you. I would actually consider listening to them, and since you are under age they feel they can control you better. Parents do have great knowledge and they get you out of trouble. Weed is a drug and they just want you to stay away from it. Is your boyfriend really worth it? Try talking to them about it if you mean he is. Remember he isn't the only one. Is fighting with your parents worth it for someone like him? Ask yourself these questions!
I'm glad you have a therapist, I hope you go to them without parents and that information does not go back to parents.. although since you are below 18, it may. Point being, you need someone to talk about your family issues with. the boyfriend is irrelevant.
Your parents are concerned about you, I think, I don't think it is overly controlling, but it could be and it certainly may feel that way. Trouble is, around this age, teens want to break free of parental controls. You seem to indicate that the life they lived is not one you like or respect and they blame that on the other boy... that he was pulling you away, when in fact when you were already rebelling against them.
One solution is to go away to college (when that time arrives), get a career, get a job, so you can make your own decisions after that. Create some goals of your own, and put your sights on them so you aren't focused on what you don't have or can't control. you are in their house, and its their rules.
I think you need to drop the boyfriend for now, the drugs, and find other friends they accept until you are in control of your life.
Oh dear. The crisis of teen years.
Here's the deal. A kid that is a stoner will never amount to a hill of beans. I grew up in the era of sex drugs and rock and roll - all those stoners just bailed on life - they just weren't successful. So if you keep with a guy like this you'll end up with an entire life of disappointment. And this is what your mother knows.
I know, you don't care, and he's so nice, and all that jazz,. But there is just no future with a guy like this. You can't see it cuz you're too young and just don't get it yet. But you will. You'll look back on this one day and wonder what the hell you were thinking.
And I know you'll just think I'm old and dumb, and not with it and too out of it, and you'll likely not give a shit what I say. But the seed is now planted. One day when this shit blows up and blows by you'll think back, 'yeah, I guess they had a point. Why didn't I listen.'
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Joseph Smith revelation:
"And whosoever among you are sick, and have not faith to be healed,
but believe, shall be nourished with all tenderness, with herbs and mild foods."
Is depression and anxiety not a mental illness that marijuana heals?
D&C 59
17 Yea, and the herb, and the good things which come of the earth, whether for food or for raiment, or for houses, or for barns, or for orchards, or for gardens, or for vineyards;
18 Yea, all things which come of the earth, in the season thereof, are made for the benefit and the use of man, both to please the eye and to gladden the heart;
19 Yea, for food and for raiment, for taste and for smell, to strengthen the body and to enliven the soul.
20 And it pleaseth God that he hath given all these things unto man; for unto this end were they made to be used, with judgment, not to excess, neither by extortion.
Does your mom only eat meat sparingly and in the winter or during Famine? She may be a hypocrite
Word of Wisdom D&C 98 12-13
12 Yea, flesh also of beasts and of the fowls of the air, I, the Lord, have ordained for the use of man with Thanksgiving; nevertheless they are to be used sparingly;
13 And it is pleasing unto me that they should not be used, only in times of winter, or of cold, or famine.Whoa. You are just 17 and assuming your boyfriend is 1-2 years older than you. I would say. What? You are smoking weed? Hate me, Block Me, Do whatever you want. But what your mom is doing might be correct cause she don't know you smokes too. I don't know why kids nowadays are doing all this stuffs.
I would rather suggest you to quit and make him quit smoking. Tell your mom the fact and all Done! Live in peace. you are younger enough to do all this.your mom is trying to protect you. she may be going overboard but she thinks she's doing the right thing. if you truly can look at your life and see that it is better with him than without him try your best to not let your mother's judgments impact you... just know that in your heart of hearts she is wrong, even though she may have good intentions
as for the guy. it seems like you are still going to see him so i guess nothing changes there the only problem is that your mom can't know about itSounds like your mom knows you pretty darn well! She's just trying to watch out for you. She may be going overboard about his ruining your life and such, but she means well.
Soon you will be 18 and out of high school; you can escape this strict control at that point.
And by that time, you probably will have broken up with him. Problem solved!That's a tough situation if it's indeed real follow your heart try explaining it to her the best you can and reassure her that you're responsible and not doing anything stupid, either way you're risking something
You are almost 18. Is there somewhere else you could live after you turn 18? Or are you going away to University next year?
Your parents could be right or wrong about this guy. What does he do besides smoke weed?Why don't you just visit the police and discuss with them how to leave the abusive household you live in. Don't tell them about the weed, just ask how you would have to take action considering you are a minor.
I can't stand people who smoke, they are all annoying and stupid af. You should tell your mother to shut up tho, she also seems to be extremely annoying.
Um... maybe I missed it, but how did she even find out?
Anyway, as much as your parents may not like it, it's really none of their business who you date.Your moms is right. You'll understand when you're older
What % of your salary do you spend on weed?
and your bf?
Is it possible to quit if its for recreational?Tell your parents to stay out of your personal life... Cause I would if mine intervened like that...
Just tell him to stop smoking. Then have him tell your parents that he regrets it. You're not dating a loser, your parents will be okay with him and he gets to hang with you. Problem solved.
U should break up with him. They are your parents and are trying to look out for you.
Break up, he will only lead to problem (a guy who smoke weed aren't a good frequentation).
it is funny how people expect others to be perfect humans.
we all have something in our past that would strike fear into the hearts of the bravest of men...is your boyfriend a pot head or just likes to smoke the occasional joint?
Yeaaaa... I'd listen to mama.
Break up.
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