My mom hates him because we had a lot of problems between us (nothing Bad) and now she's always throwing stuff at my face about it, talking about me to other people, saying that i'm an idiot (i'm 21 already by the way, he's been my only boyfriend) and that we have no future together because he grew up poor. He's on culinary school now and we've been together for 2 and a half years. What should i do? The situation is getting worse now because every week she says that I'm acting a certain way because of him, and everything that I do wrong is because of him. She's always trying to blame everything on my boyfriend and he doesn't even come to my house because she forbidden it. I'm always home and doing stuff around the house for her and I just see my boyfriend on the weekends and she seems to have a problem about it. I do not know what to do and it's making me so depressed. I have even considered to break up and it's so sad.
If you really like this guy, then you have a choice to make. Mom or guy. Based on what you've written, if you like the guy, then it's time to move out. Either in with him or get your own place. Otherwise, you're constantly in the line of fire.
Here's the thing: if you break up with him because of mom -- she'll know. You will validate her believing that she can control your life. Think long and hard before you do that.
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i was in a similar situation a few times. the last one her mom begrudgingly said thank you extremely reluctantly said thank you after i helped one of her daughters out several times. when you're in situations like that it's a no win situation you're never going to get their approval no matter how hard you try.
Your mother shockingly over-protective. In my experience, the only way to fix this is by going on a strict no contact policy with for a long while. You're an adult, you can't live your life for her and she needs to get with the program or get gone. You do not need her permission or blessing to live your life.
This is why you don't complain about your boyfriend to your mother because they don't want bad people for their children... so they will hate the person unless your mother see's something change or good about him...
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You know what they say, mom knows best (not)!
What is that nothing bad?
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