I know it sounds horrible. And I’ve done just about everything to feel differently, but for some reason I am still insanely jealous and I don’t know why.
My boyfriend and I are both 17 and his dad and stepmom had a baby girl a few months back. I have done my very best to be supportive and happy about the whole ordeal, but I’m just not. I’m afraid that he’s been spending more time bonding and fussing over the baby than with me, and I’m worried that our relationship has been taking some damage because of it. I haven’t exactly voiced my fears or my thoughts about this because I know how awful it is and I don’t want to risk jeopardizing our relationship. I love him with everything I have.
I have a little sister three years younger than me myself, and my dad always significantly favored her over me growing up. He was verbally abusive to me, and I’ve gone through therapy twice to deal with the issues that have been brought on because of that over the years. He passed away a little over a year ago. He’d call her beautiful right in front of me and then turn around and say that my hair is too thin or my nose was odd and things like that. He’d also praise her for doing things and tell me “that’s what you’re supposed to do” when I did them (ex: doing great in school). He used to tell me when my mom was pregnant that there would be no time left for me after she was born and no one would care about me anymore. I think that is where my issues stem. How do I solve this? How do I deal with all these emotions? I hate feeling this way and I hate the whole situation. And I hate feeling like I’m betraying my boyfriend when I love him more than anyone.
My boyfriend and I are both 17 and his dad and stepmom had a baby girl a few months back. I have done my very best to be supportive and happy about the whole ordeal, but I’m just not. I’m afraid that he’s been spending more time bonding and fussing over the baby than with me, and I’m worried that our relationship has been taking some damage because of it. I haven’t exactly voiced my fears or my thoughts about this because I know how awful it is and I don’t want to risk jeopardizing our relationship. I love him with everything I have.
I have a little sister three years younger than me myself, and my dad always significantly favored her over me growing up. He was verbally abusive to me, and I’ve gone through therapy twice to deal with the issues that have been brought on because of that over the years. He passed away a little over a year ago. He’d call her beautiful right in front of me and then turn around and say that my hair is too thin or my nose was odd and things like that. He’d also praise her for doing things and tell me “that’s what you’re supposed to do” when I did them (ex: doing great in school). He used to tell me when my mom was pregnant that there would be no time left for me after she was born and no one would care about me anymore. I think that is where my issues stem. How do I solve this? How do I deal with all these emotions? I hate feeling this way and I hate the whole situation. And I hate feeling like I’m betraying my boyfriend when I love him more than anyone.
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