Why don't I ever have any motivation to get into relationship and with life in general?

[Anonymous]

I'm 29 and I've never went on a date with a guy and I've never has a boyfriend

[wankiam]

do you have any interest in men... like maybe you are asexual and also dont feel the need to adhere to tradition. if you are happy being you then why should you?

[Asker]

I've had crushes but those never work out into a relationship... I'm stuck with guys I'm not interested in

[wankiam]

so you're kind of unlucky in love then i guess... thing is its not a race and you will only get into a relationship when you are ready

[Asker]

Yep life is a tease and I had an engaged started to flirt with me... I've honestly given up

[wankiam]

well dont give up... just dont try to find it because it will find you someday. i just hope it doesn't get you depressed in the meantime

[horatiohornblower]

I'd say do some self assessment.
- Are you attracted to men?
- Do you just want to be alone?
- Are you just shy or scared to date? Then convinced yourself you don't want a man.

[PrettyPriya]

Do you want a relationship? Or are you just involved with life (work/family/friends/etc) that you don't have the motivation to add that in the mix?

[Asker]

I can never get the guy I like to like me back though... I just figured it's better to be alone than forcing and pretending with someone you aren't into

[PrettyPriya]

You are definitely correct that is isn't worth forcing something that isn't there. That never ends well.

Maybe you aren't meeting the right guys. Do you have any interests that you could get involved in clubs/activities to meet likeminded guys?

[Asker]

I think I can't date right now because I'll be moving again when I get a grad job. Which will be hard because I'll be almost 30 and nobody want a girl at that. Just going what I've read online tbh

[PrettyPriya]

Perhaps a move is the right thing! Perhaps a change in scenery will bring about some changes with guys. I wish you all the best!

[Yourfriend2021]

You have to try and meet more people and you might find someone, but it's not easy.

[Asker]

Yeah it's definitely not... I was talking to this guy he literally fancied every girl but me

[Yourfriend2021]

You're not alone, but maybe if you meet more people it can help.

[Anonymous]

Are you saying you're a woman who's 29 and never had a boyfriend?

[Asker]

Yes correct

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that, have you had any guys express interest in you over the years?

[Asker]

Yes quite a lot but I wasn't interested in any of them and the guy I was into only wanted a friends with benefits

[Opinion Owner]

So no mutual interest or attraction then, did you end up pursuing things with that guy for friends with benefits?

[Asker]

Yes I did and I blocked him this morning what's the point really

[Opinion Owner]

So even though you say you've never had a boyfriend before, are you implying you have only had casual sex?

[Asker]

Yeah I guess all I could get

[Opinion Owner]

Does it depress you?

[Asker]

A but yes I wonder how the other girls get into relationships they are nothing special either

[Opinion Owner]

Even though the only sex you had was casual, do you feel that raises your self-esteem a bit, as in, better than no sex at all?

[Asker]

Nah not really just feel depleated. Life is just a massive a tease had some engaged guy come onto me lately

[Danny_dan92]

I feel the same way. Fuck love