What should I do give up or keep trying?

[Anonymous]

my coworker introduced me to a woman that works at my job to me it seemed like we hit it off well and got along with each other. I already knew she had a boyfriend but there were some signs that seemed like she was attracted/interested in me. She took time out of her day to hang out with me for a few minutes on my lunch break and she would always stop by my area to talk to me also. Everyday that she saw me she would always have a smile on her face when she said hi. I've had two coworkers tell me that they think she likes me just by the way she acts with me. Things were going smooth for two months until recently when she started to act hot/cold. Some days she'll say hi and talk other days she'll walk right past me like I don't exist and be perfectly fine around other people.
Sn: she has an insecure boyfriend that she is fed up with and trying get out the relationship

[btbc92]

So you're helping her cheat on her boyfriend by allowing her to be cheating with you? CLASSIC. What your doing is why a no-dating work policy exists for good reason and bad for those who genuinely care about relationships and bonding. She is USING you and doesn't CARE about you. Your are just as insecure as the supposed "boyfriend". She doesn't just "like" you, she wants to use you so she can get out of the relations, use you as a rebound, and then when she is fed up with you too, she will go on to the next MAN. Or men.

Here is how all of you are insecure and can't judge:

1. You are insecure because you want a woman to take interest in you, are desperate for one, and use work to get a woman. Why? Because you have little to no exposure to women who you think you can date or show you attention. Meanwhile, you have female employees other than this woman who you can learn to communicate with and learn about women. Plus, you KNOW she has a boyfriend and you still show little to no RESPECT as you only care if she likes you or not. Where is your respect for your fellow gender, for women, for her in general even if she has 0 respect for herself or anybody at this point, or even YOURSELF? A respectful man wouldn't even entertain the idea. What the hell are you DOING!

2. She is insecure because she thinks she can do better and wants to get male attention. She knows she can't do that while being with him, and so now she sees you, she sees an opportunity to "escape" her relationship. When all she had to do was tell the guy it was over herself. PLUS, there is no guarantee that she will even be with you like that over the other guy. Some women will two or even three-time you dating you and who they are with all at once with one or the other may not find out. Do you really want to be that "other guy" when it's BAD enough the main guy is probably already feeling like crap right now? Since I cannot say if he is or isn't, what his character is or not, a personality like or isn't like. One thing that is very clear, she is no good. WORSE, you have no qualms in helping because you know you yourself are trying to tap that. Come on, dude, come ON!

3. He is insecure because again, he is probably just insecure period. Whatever that is, any man would be insecure with a woman like THAT. HECK, I'm not even gay. But if I was a man, you think I wouldn't be insecure or wary of a woman like that? I mean really. The fact she is even quoting that to you is a MAJOR RED FLAG. It is their way of putting down the other man to prompt themselves up as better, to get you to desire and want them, so they can use you, and then after they get what they want, then you are disposable like paper. How can you be taken this for granted? Especially as another man. Does this not spell RED FLAGS for you? Or are you one of those weak men that doesn't care about anybody but yourself?

Here "liking" you should NOT be your concern. Your concern should be that you have been introduced to a person who is obviously looking for somebody to use and take advantage of. Just because your a male who she sees is easy to manipulate also. Whatever your personal insecurities are, are yours, and for you to fix. But you are in the workplace. And this kind of thing that is going on in the workplace should not be happening nor should your other coworkers be caught in the middle. If she is not going to care about her reputation, then you most certainly need to care about yours.

What do you mean by what should you do? Give up or keep trying? You ARE OVER 30 YEARS OLD. WHERE are your MORALS? Where is your integrity as a MAN? Only a weak man thinks like you. And I do not like or respect such men. If you have to try to get another man's partner, shame on you. No matter what your personal opinion of him, you would think you would be taught common decency.

[Anonymous]

Lol you sound like a stalker. Honestly how many times you gonna post these same posts about her boyfriend and her

[Asker]

I'm new and this is my first time posting wtf are you talking about

[Opinion Owner]

You not new you just making new accounts

[Waldoe]

have YOU asked her out on a date? Why not? What are you expecting her to do?

[Asker]

Would that be good idea right now

[scott04sa22]

Let this one go

[Iron_Man]

Find a single girl

[In_Trance]

Give up