Should I keep trying?

[Anonymous]

I've liked this guy for about a year and a half now and he is everything I could ever want in a partner. He was in my class last year but I never talked to him. A friend of mine ended up telling him and he said that he "Wasn't looking for a relationship" so I don't know if he meant that or just wasn't into me but didn't want to hurt me. I ended up giving him a note explaining what happened (per my friend's request) and he was really nice about it but he never said anything to me and I think I freaked him out. He is a year older than me and isn't in any of my classes this year but we go to the same church. The only thing is there's never a good time to talk to him and I don't want to freak him out more. I've been getting mixed signals from him recently and I'm not sure what it means. I was kind of thinking I would give it until summer and talk to him then if I still like him because we may be working the same summer job and my church always has a picnic, which are both better times to approach him. I want to give him time too so I don't scare him. I'd just like to know if I should keep trying, how to approach him when/if I do, and how to nonverbally get his attention before doing so.

[Summeroflove]

Mixed signals many times is coming from someone who just is trying to figure out how they feel themselves. But sometimes it is intentional especially if they like the attention but don’t want a relationship. So it can be hard to tell.

At the end of the day your friend told him and you wrote him a note. If he’s into you the balls in his court let him find you. Don’t keep pestering the same person over and over it’s not worth it. He knows where to find you and if he’s interested he will come talk to you.

What’s best is just allow yourself to grieve if you got that attached. Maybe you got too attached too early on but if he genuinely wanted you he would have probably said he did. Maybe he’s nice and likes you just fine as a human being but like you said you don’t want to freak him out.

Don’t let this stop you from putting yourself out there again. Just don’t waste time on people who either say no or don’t give direct answers because there is probably someone willing to put the same effort into you. Don’t focus your energy on someone whose not going to focus theirs on you as well.

[Anonymous]

He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship , that’s all you need to know

[Anonymous]

Never Give Up!