Both people in a relationship should be on some kind of birth control. Guys should wear condoms and girls have more variety to choose from. I don't know how long you guys have been dating, if you work/study, live together, are somewhat financially stable... But what you're not saying at least explicitly is if he wouldn't be okay with another birth control or just the fact that he doesn't want kids. Does he not want kids now or ever? Those are kind of things that should be addressed quite early on in a relationship. If he thinks he never would want kids and you do... Breaking up would be for the best. It doesn't make the other person a bad person not wanting the same thing we want. You have to respect that. No one should habe to compromise, because it will only bring resentment over time. If you don't want kids NOW, I don't think it's very responsible to not be on some kind of birth control. At the very least condoms... Otherwise, kids will show up pretty quickly. And if you're not married, or in that kind of relationship minus the papers part, it's a recipenfor disaster in my humble opinion
If he prioritises his comfort over your health then he's not worth it. Anyone can do better than that, please don't sacrifice your health for someone like that. Birth control pills are a serious deal despite how popular they became. And this guy, I'm sorry but I have a feeling he's a waste of time and at your age you don't have time to waste (take it from me).
Taking birth control pills should not affect your ability to have children "a few years" from now. If you don't take them and you have sex with your current boyfriend, and you end up pregnant, will he stick around and take responsibility and support you and the child and raise that child with you? Really? If you don't take the pills and you get pregnant, will he put the blame 100% on you? Some idiot guys tend to do that. Would he marry you? Would you marry him? If not, then why are you having sex him?
I have perhaps some more serious advice for you: DON'T HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE WHO IS NOT COMMITTED TO YOU!!! I can't emphasize this enough. Sex is supposed to really mean something, not just fun in the sack for a one-night stand. We used to say, save it for your husband or wife. I think there was something to be said for the old rules. We've abandoned the old standards. Maybe that was a big mistake!
I'll also tell you that the most effective, foolproof birth-control pill is... an aspirin tablet! The girl holds it between her knees! It works every time!
He needs to be a man and grow up and protect you if he truly loves you
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u Why would you not take oral contraceptives?
If you don't want to take them and he want you to take them, then it seems that you need to find a new boyfriend.
Then stop dating him if you do not want to take birth control pills. Whatever the situation is, why do you want to continue to be with this man? From what I read of other replies, you are sexually active with this guy, which is bad enough outside of marriage. There isn't much you can do. With men like that they have standards to what they want sexually and if you don't comply with what they want they will go. And this is a very poor reason to be making an ultimatum. You have to be very careful who you choose to be with, let alone having sex with. Relationships are not about sex. But when you choose to have premarital sex that is what happens like that in today's world. Again, I cannot tell you what to do. But every time you have sex outside of marriage, besides who you date or even marry, you run these risks even higher. If you think low of yourself then your just attracting those men.
Asker. You have to remember something. While I fully understand where your coming from. Really ask yourself this question. If you desire children one day. Why are you having sex before marriage? Let alone with this guy? If you don't want complications or health problems, WHY would you risk it with THIS GUY! Do you really want a guy like that to be the father of your KIDS? Sounds like to me the moment you get pregnant, he may tell you to get an abortion, and still threaten to leave if you keep the child. Even though it's his child and yours. You need to evaluate yourself because if not, the last thing you need to do is jeopardize your children's future or lives because of the sexual choices you make. You have to learn from these choices that you are making and start focusing on YOU. Not sex, not so-called boyfriends, let alone this guy, and before you even think about having kids. PLEASE, make SURE it is with a man who actually gives a damn about you? And before you even think about all of that, start learning how to care about YOU too. Because you also matter. Don't settle for that jerk of a boyfriend. Don't settle and STOP settling. I wouldn't suggest that you take pills OR be having premarital sex. If you can't be responsible for your sexual choices, then you shouldn't be having sex. And this is coming from a virgin.
Well I have 3 years with him, and I love him
Maybe I'm stupid
Asker. The problem is you chose to have those 3 years with a man who obviously been abusing you. That doesn't mean you love him. But that your codependent on him and don't even, sadly, love yourself. It is not about being stupid, or just being that. What it is about, is WHY. WHY would you do that to yourself, and have somebody like this guy treat you so poorly? Look, we are naturally supposed to bond, to be loyal, to be desiring to please a man, etc. BUT NOT to this compacity of abuse, being used, and being shamed for just trying to love a man and it not being enough. That is not how God called us to be. He called us to be loved, taken care of and doing right by who we are with. It is a man who chooses. And if who you with has a problem with that, you tell him it was he who decided to be with you. If he didn't like that fact of you wanting kids and not being on birth control, then WHY is he with you? I'll tell you why which sadly I believe you know for yourself. He's using you for sex. Period. And the more you stay, the less likely you're going to have the kind of future you want with this guy. Even if you successfully have his kids, unless that man wants to change for himself, he, in the end, is hurting you, and you're also hurting yourselves and your future children. You first need to change and realize for yourself why you are in that position. Again, this guy is sadly not somebody who cares or wants better. Not like this. Plus, even if you leave. If he sees your doing better, he may only want to come back to benefit all over again. That's what he sounds like to me. If that is so, please move on. Bad enough this is 3 years of this. You want a future, this guy is just wasting your time and hindering you from the future you want.
His ultimatum is a little extreme, but it's a bit of a leap to call it abuse... Invite him to talk with your doctor, and discuss contraceptive options. When I started dating I only knew about condoms and pills, he may just be ill-informed. If he's still is trying to force you, then he's not worth keeping around.
PS I'd be cautious of anyone trying to shoehorn religion into discussions on this site. Especially if they're an "influencer"
@acidrock31690 Abuse is abuse. No normal person treats the person they love like this. Ultimatums should only be used when the person does things continuously out of spite and problems that cause the relationship to fail or when moral lines and standards have been crossed: catching a person cheating, finding out they've been secretly doing drugs, etc. What he did is not an ultimatum. What he is doing is using ultimatums as a form of abuse because this entire time SHE has been abused and is desperate for a man. You have to understand a woman's mindset when they have been abused. They start to give up and get very depressed and codependent.
All forms of birth control are if it's hormonal, the ring, cooper IUDs, etc are not HEALTHY. No matter what the doctors or any of them tell you, it's not healthy. It is unnatural for the woman's body. But no matter how effective it is at preventing pregnancies or not. The side effects, the risks, etc, can affect women differently. If this guy never wants kids which say something, she needs to stop trying to please him in that manner, and just say enough. But she chose the guy, but this guy should never abuse her or threaten to leave just because she said no to birth control. Please get that "she's religious" mindset out of the gutter. All you proving is that you don't know what you're saying and have nothing to contribute to this conversation.
This is not about religion or any of your envious tactics to desaude or undermine my reputation on here. So please keep that kind of talk and conversation out of a logical one. This is not a matter of talking to her doctor. This is a matter of she wants to have CHILDREN, and be a mother. If she goes on birth control that can potentially screw you up and make it difficult for you to have children later in life.
For you to say he is ill-informed, says a lot how very ill-informed you are. And I mean no offense. This has 0 to do with religion. This is about making informed sexual choices. And a human body, for women especially if we expect to have a healthy sex life, be able o have children, not experience many complications, is why you wait, get married, and understand your personal health. While it is very possible for a woman to be allergic to a man's sperm, be incompatible with him sexually on a genetic level, etc, the devastating consequences of a woman having premarital sex with a man, let alone if she God forbid married the wrong kind of person besides doing things wrong, this is what happens. What the Asker is experiencing is very common among their diverse age group if not the situation with men and with who they have sexual relations with. A man who treats any woman like this is not only showing he isn't ready to be a father, but a lot of them do not respect the mother of their children and wives if they do ever get married to them or another. This is not the matter of "just avoiding pregnancies". HE just doesn't want to have kids, let alone with her. PERIOD. And it is strictly just about sex for him. That is why he is threatening her to leave.
She wants kids, she loves him, she has sex and complies with the man BECAUSE she loves him. If she complies with his wishes, she may never have her desires realized to be a mother. He sadly isn't caring if she does or doesn't. When a man does stuff like that, it is about control. This is not about him screaming about her not taking birth control. They've been dating for 3 years. You would think he would have left immediately the moment he found out. Please wake up, and stop making this about "religion" according to you. You may as you just learned about condoms, etc when you started dating. But you do not understand what this is about, let alone what dating has become. It is just a "ticket" for men to get sex. That's it. The value of marriage in the world has declined and sex became a form of luxury to the point people think that kids will be a detriment to their personal happiness. If he never wanted to be a dad, she doesn't deserve to be used and be in a relationship with a man who doesn't. She only does because either she lost her virginity to him. Or her sex partner number is low like 2-3 to the point she very much is able to healthy attach sexually to a man and he has way more, and or she have been down this road more than enough times, and it's a pattern to the point she started given up. A lot of you men do not make clear what your sexual expectations are, but rush into dating. So before you want to accuse me of be religious, I am looking at this from what it is. Either you never been abused or is biased or both. Either or, wake up. It may help save your relationships one day if you expect to maintain and keep it. If you don't care, then that is also your business. But she wants a family. And what your saying have 0 to do with her wanting a family. She is just wanting it sadly with the wrong kind of person who isn't changing. Sadly, she has to come to terms with this for herself.
I agree with @acidrock31690. Don't take advice from that woman.
My very basic and simple rule, which applies to this situation:
When someone gives you an ultimatum, the right choice is always easy: leave.
This isn't just some arbitrary decision or easy way out, it's the logical conclusion.
When someone uses the way you feel about them as a manipulation to get you to do what they want, they are essentially betting that you will value them more than you value your own needs/desires. They are backing that up with a threat: Don't do what I say, and I will withdraw my love from you.
Anyone who can threaten that, is not worth your time. They don't actually give a shit about you, what they really care about is themselves and what they want. They are illustrating that with the ultimatum. It follows the formula: What I want = more important than you are to me.
He's literally saying "Follow my command, or I will throw you away."
If you follow this command, there will be a precedent set, and more commands will follow. Today it is take birth control. Tomorrow it may be give a blowjob. Next month it may be stop being friends with your friend. And so on.
Again, TLDR:
When someone give you an ultimatum, the right choice is always easy: leave.
I respect the fact that he doesn't want to have children. However, if he feels strongly about it, he should get a vasectomy.
Personally, I don't think people should be in a sexual relationship if they aren't on the same page on the matter of kids and contraception. The fact you want kids means that you'll keep it if there is an accident, which he might find terrifying. The fact you want kids also puts an expiry date on your relationship if he chooses to get a vasectomy.
You should communicate with each other about alternative forms of contraception, on accidental pregnancy and so on. This is a major point of compatibility in relationships that needs to be cleared up long before you start sleeping together.
Boyfriend will either decide your well thought out concerns on the issue are worth staying around for or not. You are who you are, your beliefs are important, don't change the way you feel to put a smile on his face every time he wants to have sex. Sex is an important part of any relationship, but let's also remember there is a risk of something happening no matter what precautions you take.
At your age (late 20's) you are looking for a life partner. You value wanting children, you are concerned that the pill can alter that. Hopefully he loves you enough to understand your long term goals, if not, he is not your partner for life.
This is abusive and you need to find someone who respects your bodily autonomy. Please dump him.
He clearly feels entitled to sex, not just access to sex but to the point where he expects you to manually take a pill everyday against your natural proclivities to pander to his own preferences.
MEN are never entitled to sex. Not because of what you are wearing. Not because of relationship status. Not when you are fully naked and lying in bed.
He sounds like the same type of guy that would blame you personally, should the pill fail and you end up pregnant.
There is nothing medically necessary about the pill (unless your doctor has prescribed it, some women do need it). He just wants his cake, and he doesn't care if you get any either.
Honey, Birth Control pills are safe, and will NOT prevent you from having children in the future. All it does, is pose as the same hormone your own body produces when it is pregnant, so you don't continue to ovulate when pregnant. You stop taking it, wait a bit to menstruate regularly again, and you will be able to again.
HOWEVER... That was just to tell you truthful information, but personally, I am pro-Life, and DO NOT like the casual attitude towards sex in today's culture. Although, I am a U. S. Marine, and I love Freedom more than anything - both mine AND yours. So do what you want... as I wouldn't judge anyone in such a manner, anyway.
That being said, here is my specific answer to what you mentioned; It all depends on WHY your man wants you on the pill. Obviously to avoid concieving, but again, WHY?
If he (like me) doesn't want kids until you guys are financially prepared and secured (Good Reason).
We both finished college, and we are doing well financially, he is 35, but he says his life is very busy
I posted that by accident - Wasn't finished.
Other reasons;
- Hates Condoms (really, they are a big deal, and it is NOT a small effect).
- Doesn't trust othe forms of birth control.
- Doesn't trust you.
- Just want to control you.
- He wants it to level-out your emotional swings (which is a VERY common use).
Whatever his reasons is, please just ask him first, as if it is THAT important to him, then he is either serious and responsible, or he is a COMPLETE PIECE OF SHIT!
I will say that if ultimatums are not a cool thing to give a girl, but there are plenty of things we all cannot get over, and won't tolerate... which is fine; Like me, I won't date anyone who mistreats an animal - so, its does at least merit you investigates his motivations, before you dump his ass - which IS what you should do with ANY guy who ever gives you a 'because I said so' reasoning, when you ask.
I say end it, just please make sure of his intentions first, because its a lot harder for most men to get cross whats in our heads, than most women think. So, just verify, prior, but I would bet that he is just a shitty version of a man. Sorry, but be patient, there are a few of us good one around.
Good luck.
I really like telling women the truth about guy-stuff like this (as I have a special kind of mind for this, and feel good when helping women with anything), but, given the seriousness of the subject - and how difficult it is for most men to convey their logic-chains - I wouldn't feel comfortable doing so without knowing more about him as a person, and you and your relationship.
I would not ask for such personal details, as we are unaquainted, and I am not doing that now; You never know, Sweetheart, I could be a psycho, or just an idiot full of bad ideas. However, if you would like to discuss what might be going on with him (from my perspective), I will happy to oblige. I had a hard childhood, and would feel honored to at least try to help you gain the best possible perspective, with which to make your decisions.
Usually, I just write a reply as helpful as possible, but with your question, I feel it requires a far-less casual approach. So, if you like, I will gladly try my best to explain a guy's thought-process with this. If not, I won't take it personally. I just really hope it works out for you, and you future kids.
First off, I would like to point out that birth control pills don't have any long lasting effects of that nature. The effects wear off after missing a single dose and are completely gone by the second missed dose.
That being said, a boyfriend that would honestly leave you if he couldn't have unprotected sex with you is probably not someone you want a relationship with, in the first place. He is placing his own pleasure above yours. If he would honestly leave you from not being able to have unprotected sex, he is not worth keeping around and will only end up harming you even more in the future.
Find yourself a mature man who puts your needs about his sexual desires. We do exist and we are worth waiting/looking for.
Decide what you're willing to do and go with it. If I were a girl I'd look at IUD's or other forms of contraceptive that are non hormonal. Better than the pill
It lasts up to 12 years, and you can get it removed by a doctor early if you want to start having kids. The only downside is that it will fucking suck after you remove it and you won't be fully recovered for about 3 months.
But if you're going to not think about having kids for several years anyways, is an extra 3 months really that bad?
You can also please your boyfriend while never having to take hormones. And if it doesn't work out with this guy you're still protected for the next guy
Wave goodbye to him.
His demand is outrageous.
I suggest that you go to drugs. com to read about the admitted adverse reactions to various oral contraceptives, which include death by thrombosis.
After that, go to pubmed. com and read some of the papers that have been published about long term problems with oral contraceptives.
As well as sudden death, the list of problems include a change to a females preference in men.
Aside from convenience, oral contraceptives do not have much in their favour.
Sounds like he wants to have control over your body. It's your body, not his. Perhaps he is terrified you're going to become pregnant if you don't use the pill.
A solution would be that BOTH of you go to your gynecologist together to hear the best birth control that uses no hormones but is very reliable. However, such an ultimatum sours in my ears. I'm not liking his stance. I think you both need more birth control information that allows you to be safe and comfortable while having sex and NOT having children at this point in time.
If he really said that (and I mean word by word) than it’s time to leave him instead.
I know what it’s like getting sick of wearing condoms and wanting to ride in bare back w/ no worries. But still BC pills impact the woman’s hormones. I’m not the one who has to deal menstrual issues and other problems. So I might recommend her getting the pill or something else sure as hell wouldn’t make an ultimatum about it.
This shows a lot of what kind go guy he really is. I just hope you didn’t catch feelings for him just because he’s an asshole to begin with.
You want to know how you can find out if he loves you or not? Simple hun! Tell him if he's not ready for kids we doesn't have to have sex. You can both keep dating and seeing each other. You can be there to support one another, have cuddle fun, you can do mutual masturbation and oral. But he is not getting between your legs again until you are both ready for marriage. If he says no, stand firm. if he skips out? Hun, he was never sticking around for you anyways.
Tell him you do not want that and if he uses leaving you as a counter then you leave him first. It is your body and you shouldn't take something you are not comfortable with, especially given the effects of using birth controls. Just because they are your significant other doesn't mean they get to decide what you do with your life and your body. If you allow him to control you that way then there are no limits to what else he will try to control in your life.
Use spiral instead. a copper one. hormone treatment aren't really safe and have a higher risk of developing cancer with longterm use.
Interruptus isn't a good way to not get pregnant.
With the ultimatum is just as female's have done for a very long time towards males in different circumstances.
The thing is. if you aren't okay with it you have to move on with life without that person.
The only compromise is to use spiral if non of you wants to use condom or do a surgical procedure to prevent pregnancy.
Your body. Your decision.
Now either you stay and fight your corner.
Or you leave and find someone that respects you more.
In return think about it like this, whilst you're on the pill will he or will he not be using a condom?
If the answer is no, do you think you have a right to tell him and force him to wear one?
Or do you think it's better to find someone that is on a similar path of thinking?
Good luck 😊
GET
RID
OF
HIM
NOW
He's an asshole and will remain one for the rest of his life.
You don't need that and, for the sake of humanity and human evolution, the last thing we need is you making little asshole children with this asshole and passing on his asshole genes.
So, do us all - you and the rest of us - a favor: Dump him ASAP.
You won't regret it, trust me.
well if he does not want kids now, is only a boyfriend. let him leave!
and i liked BC pills. more regular period, i got bigger boobs, my acne was greatly reduced, almost gone, and i had fewer mood swings.
AND i could have sex whenever and with whoever i wanted.. only had to worry about STDs.
Sounds like he doesn't want kids right now. But is he doing his part by wearing a condom too? I agree you should find some sort of birth control. And it won't prevent you from having kids in the future. Also my body didn't change when I got on the pill. So I don't know what that means.
If you don't want to take birth control, and he cannot respect that fact and insists on you taking birth control pills, I only see 2 options.
1 - Take the birth control pills
2 - Upgrade
This is, of course, not even considering the most logical course of action by him to achieve his objective, condoms.
Leave or stay this is a really simple yes or no question. There is no hack for any other answer so just leave or stay that's your choice.
And maybe next think about this first. Since knowing if one wants a child or not is a pretty important thing.
Every girlfriend I ever had was on the pill. I wouldn't stay with a woman if I had to use condoms or practice the risky and unsatisfying pull-out method.
When you're ready to have kids, you can simply stop taking the pill.
That doesn't seem like much thought was put into it.
Have you talked about other methods that could be used?
Not sure of your ages, but I'm not thrilled with his attitude on this.
Do it or I will leave, you do this and what is next?
Me I would tell him goodbye, but that can be hard to, but I do not know how your overall relationship is.
How 'bout an IUD?
Would you rather have an unwanted pregnancy? If you're not willing to pitch in with this process you'll lose out. Maybe it's not that important.
And being on the pill has nothing to with childbirth later. Wife went off them and got preggo the next month. That was 27 years ago. But yeah, the pills were murder on her for sure. I've had a few women with IUD's, they're fine. Sometimes your dick hits them, but overall they're pretty innocuous.
Probably because he doesn't want to: A- Get you pregnant, or B- have to use condoms. Maybe you really don't need this guy?
There is another option. Take a capsule on your arm. Its done by doctors but last for about 1.5 years if I remember correctly. I dont know how much side effects there are or will it affect your hormones but there is a lead, for you to follow to peofessionals in this matter.
With birth control pills, your fertility should restore to normal rather quickly once you stop taking them. They're not like depo, where it could take a year for it to restore.
My 2nd son's mom was on bc pills until we decided we were ready for a child. The very next month, she ended up pregnant with our son.
There are other methods.
First of all when I have sex with girls i wear a condom and pull out even with a condom on.
I don’t experience the full sex. But the girl doesn’t get Fed and I know 200% I won’t have a kid.
Also there are patches and other methods.
Tell him to go fuck himself. 2 I understand why you don’t want to take them because they’re literally BAD for our bodies there’s a shit ton of side affects that comes with them and all for what? A mans satisfaction? Absolutely. If he complains so much he can go get a vasectomy if he wants. Vasectomies can be undone, getting your tubes tied or taken out can’t.
Absolutely not*
You tell him to not let the door hit his ass on the way out!
It’s YOUR body! And your choice what birth control you use. You want a guy that will prioritise your health, because you are important to him and because he loves you.
Leave him for pressuring you to take something against your will... duuh
Even from guys perspective (mine) that is a very incosidorate and out right horrible thing to say to your partner. Sounds to me like he doesn't love you, only wants sex
he doesn’t want to get you pregnant. but hey your body your choice, right? if you don’t want to take the pill but also don’t want to get pregnant then you guys should find a safe alternative.
There is a difference between loving someone and not being able to live without them. This guy seems like a total asshole. Dump him.
Well taking contraception is your choice to make, however taking them won't have any effect on your ability to get pregnant in the future.
You are both idiots.
If you don't want to take birth control then just don't have sex. Simple. But why the fuck do you want to stay, let alone have kids with, a guy that is just not interested in kids?
Let him leave, he's obviously not aware of or sensitive to effects that has on women... and the very personal and important choice it is.
Very insensitive and selfish of him.
He is only thinking about himself. He doesn't care about your concerns.
There are male contraceptives being developed. Maybe he's willing to take the bc pill?
There are plenty of birth control options out there. If he's so concerned about getting you pregnant, he can wear a condom. He doesn't get to force you to take hormonal birth control if you don't want to. If he doesn't understand that, then drop him.
leave him immediately. if he doesn’t respect your decision on what to do with your body, he doesn’t respect you as a person.
he doesn't truly love you. And yes, birth control pills are so bad for you. I've visited all sorts of doctors, none of them ever said birth control was a good healthy option.
Tell him to use condoms or get the male version of the pills. He can't expect things from you that he doesn't do himself. He needs to secure his seed if he is afraid of making kids.
If he is the person that are afraid it's his duty to make sure he doesn't become a father. It only the women responsibility if she doesn't want to be a mother. So putting your own fate in another person hand especially if they have a different goal is foolish. That is a recipe to be screwed. Yes there is a male alternative and they have existed for a very long time. There is simply never been a demand for it from men so no one is selling the product, because condoms exists.
Dump boyfriend. Stop having sex - it won't kill you. But I suggest you find a quality dude who is good dad material and interested in marriage. The older you get the harder it will be to find that.
So he is definitely not wanting kids soon and you are. Sounds like you are in two different places and if a compromise isn't forthcoming, then it's probably best to split.
Toughy. Tell him to get his tubes tied. The pill has hormonal effects that men don’t understand. So I get that argument.
Of this is more that you want a baby and he doesn’t…that’s different and I’d say give up on the relationship.
Let him leave, guys like that aren’t worth your time. 😌
Why wouldn't you take them? Getting pregnant is something that 2 people need to be ready for and agree on.
Have him use protection if you can't use birth control.
Ya, that's your choice and not his... tell him to get a vasectomy then. I think you are better off if you just let him walk away, that's some controlling behavior right there and there are plenty of other options available.
Sounds to me he wants you more for a sex doll than someone he will possibly spend his life with. You could ask him if would get a vasectomy to stay with you.
Leave his azz. Guys can use condoms. What a fool loser
Let him leave then. I don’t do ultimatums and neither should you.
You should definitely leave him. BC Pills have a history of changing what women are attracted to. If you don't want to take the pills, don't take them.
Why wouldn’t you want to take birth control are you wanting to get pregnant? Or are you just worried about side effects from the pill? What about different types of birth control?
It's pleasant to cum inside her pus** for both woman, girl and for a Man. It's mental satisfaction-humanity will never willingly give up this so they will come with 100 new methods. result is only 1&same _destroyed families& relationships. Studies &pp stories speaks itself. Even bible ,10commandments was designed to protect pp from themself. There was full studies done in Germany on all types of methods for birth control. I could tell more but... problem isn't about not knowing consequances , no. It is about 'i don't care attitude' pp don't learn from other strangers unless words touches something deep at they heart.;)
The obvious answer here is to leave him, because you have fundamentally different values that absolutely WILL cause bigger issues down the road.
Find a guy who will be on the same page as you. He isn’t happy enough to accept that difference and you might not be either
Then you leave him if that's how he's gonna be if you don't want to take them then you don't have to, you leave this guy and never look back.
You can leave him and find a boyfriend who is more respectful of your wishes and your body. You're not just his sex doll.
You do what you want and let him decide for you, he will either decide he loves you enough to stick around or he will do you a favor and decide for you and leave... either way your gonna be okay
As in, he wants to go without condoms or as in he wants to be safe and not have kids?
Have you been relying on condoms? There are other methods of contraception besides the pill. Have you considered any of them?
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