If boyfriend discoverd my past? what should I do?

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I have a boyfriend, I love him a lot but I got a big issue one day I was using his phone and log in my facebook, I forgot to remove it and so he went to read my old messages that dated before we get together and even know each other. he saw I sent nude to some guy and now thinks I am no more worth effort from him due to these photos that he understood the conversation as I had deleted the photos. He says he doesn't trust nor I'm a good girl and that is his karma of having a girl like me when he wanted a good girl not one who had sent nude. now I am like everyone to him and reprimand it to me each day. My boyfriend and I just made 9months together. what should I do?

CharlesScene · Accepted Answer

Honestly, you did nothing wrong. You should just tell him to grow up. It was in the past.

I truly do mean it, based on what you wrote, you should be mad at him for how he is acting over something that happened way before he was in your life.

I am sorry that this may not help your relationship with him, the only thing you could try to do, is ask if this has to deal with something else, not that he is specifically made about that one thing, but its several. However, still include his reaction to this specific thing was wrong, and it was in the past

horatiohornblower · Accepted Answer

Seems pretty idiotic. That he'd be angry about some poor choice you made before he had anything to do with you. Tell him to suck it up and get over it.

Don't even try to make it better or apologize. Because you don't owe him anything over some thing you did in the past which has nothing to do with him. It's not like he found out you have a felony record.

Unless you were specifically lying about your past. Then you broke trust by lying.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was given some great advice about men from my grandmother. She said there's a difference between the girl a high quality man marries and the girl he just f*cks. High quality guys will f*ck virtually any girl but the girl he marries has to be special, has to have value and self respect so your guy knows that you share yourself with other men will never value you and never marry you, no guy will. You gotta start thinking about making yourself marriage material.

JustAnj · Accepted Answer

Would he like it if you sent him nude? Are you both compatible in the bed? Does he see these kind of actions as slutty?

Cloud-9 · Answer

It sounds to me like he isn't really in love with you.

I think we can all agree, that before the official beginning of your relationship, its fair game. Nothing wrong with it at all.

You seem like a fair person and considerate ( just by asking about it)

The most he should have done is asked "what made you send those, silly" and thats it. 😉

wankiam · Answer

if he can't get past this and you split up i would advise that you at least learn from it... be honest in the future and if they dont like the real you then you won't waste 9 months again

Anonymous · Answer

if you pretended as all innocent, then he will always doubt what you do, say. This thing happened to me. This woman was pretending she never even wore a bit revealing cloths or like the ones who are slutty. When we started to share nudes, this girl sent me old pics saying she took those for me. That is when I realized her character. Later , she revealed her true self. Which was not a surprise to me.

slatyb · Answer

Dump him. He's a judgmental ass. Who needs that shit?

LegendaryIcon · Answer

makes me wonder why you two got together in the first place. NEVER SEND NUDES ITS SIMPLY STUPID DONT DO IT AGAIN

Anonymous · Answer

It was in the past. Of course, it is normal. Your boyfriend needs to grow up.

Wise4myage · Answer

Nothing. If he can't accept your past and what you did before you met, than fuck him.

najekim · Answer

Tell him to grow up. Your past before him has no merit in your current relationship.

exitseven · Answer

I don't know if this can be salvaged.

Iron_Man · Answer

That was a big mistake try to talk it out

Miristheiss · Answer

Nothing you can do.

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