I'm pretty sure I'm in love... ?

[Anonymous]

So there's this girl I know from work, We've known each other for about 2 months and I haven't had feelings like this for another girl since my first relationship, She's the only thing I can think about, She's overall attractive, funny, we get along really well together but there's 1 thing stopping me from telling her...

That's her boyfriend... They've been dating for 3 years but it's a very bad relationship as they are constantly arguing to the point she's basically upset every time I see her

[ChrisMaster69]

You really need to put a bit of distance in there.

couple of things,

yes their relationship may appear crap and yes she may be upset when you see her, however sometimes people are like that with each other and nothing pushes them together like someone trying to separate them.

You can wait for her splitting up, even mention in a non romantic way that you and her other friends are their to support her.

Also never get involved with someone just breaking up, they are emotionally open and vulnerable, while she may go with you, it would likely be short term snd she would see someone else. That’s just a basic thing that happens with getting people on the rebound.

As mentioned by @wankiam and @SecretsofKB

just keep your distance.

I’ve been there from both sides, where a girl I knew was going through similar and as the guy where another guy assumed our rocky period gave him an opportunity… it never.

[Asker]

Genuinely the most reasonable response. Thank you!

[jshm2]

Son, in these cases the rule is simple. If it's not for sale, you don't push for it to be.

It's as dick a move as someone asking you to sell your car, when you've never indicated you are selling it.

Their relationship is theirs to deal with. If she's not asking for your help or for your interaction, then don't get involved regardless of how you claim to "feel" about her.

[SecretsofKB]

This is a very very precarious situation. If they break up, you're gonna be tempted to jump in to something right away and that is a bad idea.

Like it was mentioned already, just step back and give it some room and time. Safest bet.

[SphynxUK]

Not love.
It’s just a crush or infatuation which can feel similar.
Anyway, what makes you think she’s interested?
I’d leave well alone. She’s spoken for. She’s also a colleague. Wrong on so many levels.

[boggboss]

Never go for women in relationships it never ends well she will ether drop u when she decides she wants to stay or leave him for u and show u she is not trustworthy when in relationships as if she will leave him for u she would leave u for someone else

[wankiam]

just been through something similar and though i already know you won't listen, all i can say is step away because you are going to end up very hurt

[Anonymous]

So what she has a boyfriend and you need to back off and leave her alone, she loves her boyfriend that's why she's with him and there's not a thing you can do to change that.

[Asker]

Considering they'd almost broke up last week, It's constant arguing and she has already said that she isn't gonna deal with it anymore... Yeah loves him...

[Opinion Owner]

Oh if they broke up then go after her now she's a free agent now goodluck

[Cubus]

Do it carefully. If they broke up, do your best to make her feel good and understanded. She'll need someone with whom she could feel comfortable, and you can walk in then. Just make sure for it to feel natural.

[exitseven]

Get a hammer and every time you find yourself thinking about her, hit your thumb with the hammer very hard. Rinse and repeat if necessary.

[princeofromance]

If she is not happy in her current relationship you got nothing to lose by asking her out on a date. If she is happy on the other hand, I say leave the hell alone.

[Anonymous]

idiot

you did not look into MGTOW
or redpill

I suggest you read the bible

[noohair]

Patience and support.