This guy keeps texting me but I’m just not physically attracted to him. Should I just let him know?

[AliciaL294]

I met up with this guy who I’ve been speaking to through online dating. He’s a really sweet, caring, sensitive guy and we have good conversations but when I met him in person I just found I wasn’t at all physically attracted to him and felt really disappointed when I met him for our first date. About a week after the first date, I just wasn’t feeling any connection or chemistry and got annoyed when he sent me really long messages all the time, so I told him I wasn’t ready to date and that it wasn’t going to work. He was quite pushy with wanting to get me back but I said no. A few days later my pet died and I was feeling really rubbish and low and also lonely so I decided to reach out to him again and said I’d like to get to know him as a friend and see where it goes. But since then I’ve realised that was a terrible mistake and I’m still not feeling any remote attraction to him at all. I’m starting to get more distant and not text him as much but then he keeps double messaging me. I think this guy would be a great friend to me, but I just don’t see a future there. I also feel incredibly guilty for rejecting him a second time round

should I just let him know I’m not into him?

[Truthatanycost]

You should tell him the truth about why you contacted him again concerning the pet. It might serve as a good wake-up call. If I was foolish enough to pursue dating in this culture, and a woman rejected me... she wouldn't get another chance to do the same. This guy needs to learn self respect and strict boundaries and not be so desperate.

[Avicenna]

Well, your communication has been kind of poor so even if you start communicating clearly now, he may not get it. That said, what I'd advise you do is to apologize for the poor communication and simply tell him that you have decided you aren't interested. Unfortunately, this doesn't seem to be a situation where he'll accept platonic friendship.

[RichSD]

You should know better than to lead him on like that, that's a mean thing to do. In the future, let him know all you see him for is friendship material, otherwise you've just been a mean tease. Consider it a lesson learned, and try to let him down gently, but *firmly*. And apologize, he deserves that much.

[The_Maphio]

Yes. If the guy only texts you because he wants to go muff-diving, telling him that there's no interest from that standpoint should make things straight. If he's just being friendly he'll just reply that he doesn't care, and everything will be a-ok.

[Tabasco25]

😑Really? poor guy XD. I don't think u feel bad because u may have hurt him but because u now have to deal with the mess u made from not controling your emotions in the first place. How ever at least save your reputation and communicate with him, if you know your not perfect learn to take the heat.

[slatyb]

Yes, you should. And don't feel guilty about it. Just tell him "I'm sorry, you are a great guy but I'm not feeling it." Do not offer any additional reasons. If he asks, basically repeat that.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm really sorry for the loss of your pet. I know how difficult that is.
You've told him all you can offer is friendship.. He can either be ok with it or not.. if not? Leave!

[RealMarek]

I think you should apologize for sending mixed signals and let him know you don’t feel a connection with him. The best thing you can do for him after that is to stay away from him so he can move on.

[ElvenMr]

Tell him what you just told us. He will probably understand it. Offer him your friendship, if you want, but make it very clear that it's a friendship friendship, and not a "friend with benefits" type of thing.

[loveslongnails]

Yes, you should, and right away, for both of your benefit. He's hanging on to a dream and wasting his time. Don't be surprised if he gets angry and turns out to "not be a friend" at all.

[Fireguy17]

yes, that way he knows exactly how you feel.
You can be direct, but also do it in a nice way.

[Anonymous]

No guy likes the friend zone. If you're not interested, cut ties.

[LegendaryIcon]

so you're saying you're just as shallow, if not shallower, than men?

[Anonymous]

I think you've done enough damage already and should leave him alone.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but find another reason, sublime one dont destroy his confidence

[Sam_The_Savage]

But you went him for second time. No?

[noohair]

If he is in love he can't be your friend.

[shades777]

yes quit wasting that mans time geez

[Zygum]

Straight way, tell him, that you do not like him

[In_Trance]

of course you should

[Hulk30]

yea a should