Is it true that a guy has to be more obsessed with the girl in order for the relationship to work out?

[pink_and_inlove]

I’ve heard this several times and I’m confused lol

[ZackBan]

Just some media fulled fairy tales.

The beat thing you can do for a relationship is shut off any advice you got from 15 yo tiktokers they sound smart but have no idea what they're saying.

When love turns into an obsession the relationship has already kinda failed, do not belive that he needs to be obsessed and definitely make sure you're not obsessed yourself. Relationships are supposed to be fun not brain wracking and you need to find a way to let the relationship be a natural part of your life not your every hour obsession that will make it much healthier

[The_Maphio]

NOt necessary and sometimes not advisable either, for obsession fogs the mind and the honesty of one's feelings can count less as a direct consequence.
What a couple needs to work properly are two basic things that every kind of human interaction needs: trust and respect. Add complicity to the mix and things should go well both for what regards living together and the sexual aspect of the relationship.

[ShadesOfAWoman]

I agree with this from personal experience. When some guys notice that the woman they like is more interested in them, they start to lose interest, which is honestly sad. You have to find a guy that wants you and he is open to courting you.

[anylolone]

But the same happens with women, actually more often.

Actually it's more like the opposite.
If that "wisdom" was the truth, women wouldn't chase the to 20% of guys.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not true. You guys should be equally into each other. If one of you is more obsessed the other one will grow bored and complacent.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are a smart young lady. What do YOU think about this bit of common "wisdom?"

[HighValue]

No. They don't need to be obsessed with each other for it to work. They actually need to enjoy some time to themselves because if they are obsessed and their happiness is totally reliant on the other person, the slightest thing can lead to arguments and hurt feelings because the expectations of their partner become too high and nobody is perfect.

[HellGeist]

No, it's the exact opposite.

The men who care too much often get left or cucked.

The men that DGAF and treat the women with indifference or kind of crappy often are the ones banging the broads the nice guys and male feminists are drooling over.

In order for a relationship with a Western woman to last any significant length of time, her attraction to him must be significantly higher than his attraction to her!

Bet on it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I am not for sure but I usually am the one who becomes obsessed with the girl myself so anything is possible, I do like clingy girls, I love to exchange affection, I love to share kisses without sex, I love to cuddle without sex, I love to hold hands in public and kiss in public

[DaveJord]

No its not true. Totally disagree... one can be more into the other... but each of them needs to kept within acceptable limits.

If one obsess more then other... thier just going to get thier feelings hurt.

[LogicBomber]

No, she just simply needs to have value and loyality

[HellGeist]

Good luck with that!

[LogicBomber]

@HellGeist yup, like hunting a unicorn.
Women can’t be loyal.

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m loyal and have met other women that are too I’ve also heard of women that cheat too like one of my bf’s exes. Cheaters are in both genders

[HellGeist]

@pink_and_inlove Sure. Ok. But women are better at hiding the cheating. And the average woman has more opportunity to cheat than the average man.

[pink_and_inlove]

@HellGeist you can’t live your life in fear

[HellGeist]

@pink_and_inlove I don't live in fear, I have a girlfriend. However, I live grounded in reality and I know the facts enough to never trust most women as far as I can throw them. Which if you've seen some American women these days, isn't very far. Lol.

[HellGeist]

@pink_and_inlove Mostly true. Most modern Western women are unable or unwilling to be loyal. Unless maybe they were raised with certain values and internalized them.

This is partly because a lot of them have been run-through myriads of times and cannot pair-bond properly anymore.

This is why they usually make horrible wives, too. I always heard that Western women initiate divorce 70% of the time, but believe it or not, the last statistic I heard on this recently said 80% of the time!

My jaw dropped! Holy shit.

Thank God men are learning, and marriage rates are down, which means less divorce and less men being hurt emotionally, mentally and financially!

Thank God so many guys are not wifing up these Western women anymore.

The word is out!

[HellGeist]

@LogicBomber @pink_and_inlove

Sorry guys. I meant that last message for you, LogicBomber.

Take care all.

[pink_and_inlove]

@HellGeist i understand how you feel relationships are scary because of how the world is nowadays but I have faith that not everyone is like that.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

[loveslongnails]

Not at all. In fact, that has the opposite effect. When either party senses they have the "upper hand", it upsets the balance in the relationship. If a woman knows she's your obsession, the floor tile theory comes into play.

[Hulk30]

that's an empathic hell no when ya get a chance ya should type in the joker and harley quinn on youtube and study their relationship although it's abnormal and abusive 1 thing that's normal and the natural order of how a sexual male female relationship should be is harley quinn is actually more into the joker than the joker is into harley quinn when it's vice versa it's a strong chance for women cheatin on ya and then leavin ya

[dolemite89]

honestly it’s the other way around, any time a guy is too into the girl she always loses interest.

[pink_and_inlove]

But that didn’t happen with me I became more attracted by how sweet he was

[dolemite89]

give it time, i’m sure it will change lol

[pink_and_inlove]

Well I think that I’m the one that’s more interested now

[pink_and_inlove]

I mean he used to have me as his wall paper but not anymore now it’s just sports and lord of the rings 😭

[dolemite89]

you’re proving my point 😂

[pink_and_inlove]

What is your point again? Lol

[pink_and_inlove]

It makes me a bit sad though like damn you love sports more than me? Do sports get you laid 😂? But at least he’s writing me a letter for Christmas that is so sweet

[dolemite89]

your hopeless 🤦‍♂️ 🤣

[pink_and_inlove]

How?

[Fireguy17]

no, it does not have to be that way.
It takes both parties to be interested, otherwise the relationship will fail, because he will get bored chasing her all the time, and move on to someone that appreciates him and shows it.

[DaveToo]

Obsession is such a dirty word. It can lead to some unsavory actions. Enamored might be a better word. But it's a two-way street.

[Blackcupcake]

I wouldn’t want for a guy to be obsessed with me… lol

[Wiredone]

No that's not true. As long as both partners are loyal and dedicated to each other the relationship will last.

[RichSD]

There are no simple rules about relationships. Anyone who says so is full of it.

[Mehmetingezegeni555]

a man needs to be interested in a woman, give her time, love her, show interest

[varan69]

Nope. 50/50 is always the best thing to do. Obsession will just make u I say toxic haha. Its never one does more than the other that ain't fair.

[Dchrls78104]

And what does he get for this obsession? Jail time or a bad rep as a pervert or a creepy guy? isn't life hard enough for men as it isn't? No; the girl has to be equally invested in it as the guy, or it's not going to work.

[Dchrls78104]

*as it is*

[Smartman5]

If the man is oppressive, the relationship won't work.

[clampfan101]

I don’t know what would give that impression.
Clearly they should love each other the same amount. (Whole heartedly.)