Three years ago, I used to cry because I used to want to see him more than once a week. He didn’t really seem to care about seeing me more than once a week until I mentioned it. Now here I am in bed waiting for him to come but he is playing video games with his friends it’s our week together I don’t want to be selfish I have already been bad tempered lately but I do feel a little bad. When we first started having sex (he was my first time) he used to go straight to his phone and cool off on the fan instead of providing me with after care. I feel pathetic waiting for him here even if i said it was okay.
Do relationships go bad if the girl loves the guy more and cares more?
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Honestly, I think so, my boyfriend was only seeing me once a week and it almost made me feel so lonely that I was ready to break up with him. I know what it's like to feel desperate and needy and it's terrible!! I'm so sorry you feel that way.
The difference is that my boyfriend was freaked out by how much he loves me so he would see me once a week, bear his soul to me, burn himself out, and avoid me again until the next week. It's not sustainable for whatever reason. I finally explained to him last night that I need consistency and it's been really painful for me. He apologized for hurting me and agreed that we need more time together and he can't avoid me just because he's freaked out by how much he feels for me, it's not my fault he's 27 and he's never been in love before!
The difference is that after sex he HAS to hold me for as long as possible. Last weekend we stayed at a hotel so it was hours and hours, If I try to get some space he whimpers like I'm hurting him, the only way he'll let go is if I have to pee and then I have to come right back. He'll want to take our shirts off to cuddle so we can be skin to skin, it's not even sexual like he just NEEDS to be as close as possible.
THAT is what you deserve. You deserve to be held and adored after sex. You deserve to take priority over video games. My boyfriend's friends will call him to log on but if he's with me he'll ignore the calls or claim he fell asleep. In his eyes, I deserve his full attention.
I think my boyfriend and I love each other pretty equally and I think that works, it also works if the man loves the woman more... but men are kind of selfish so if you love him more he will just see you as less valuable, which is sick, but true.
You are very young and you can always fall in love again, with someone who appreciates you, but if you keep enduring his mistreatment it could damage you and take you years to heal. At least try pulling away and acting more distant, pretend that his lack of interest bores you, see how he reacts.
Thank you girl 💛 I think I wrote this deep in my emotions. now he does provide me with after care and we do just lie there together not super long though. Last year he didn’t play video games with his friends at all this year he is doing it only for a few days at night but since this is our only week together I prefer for him to stay at night instead of coming back to be with me at 1am after playing with his friends. It’s my fault though for giving him a pass I guess. The once a week thing was super long ago more than 3 years ago but I still haven’t forgotten. Now we only see each other twice a week due to work. He is always sweet to me and calling me pretty he made me breakfast the other day without me asking him. The only thing that I would say is that I feel like I am definitely more excited and jolly to see him but he is always tired. Do you still feel that I deserve better? I asked him today if he thinks that I loved him more and he said that we both loved each other equally.
I'm sorry you don't feel that he is as excited to see you. Sometimes men understand actions more than words so I would try restraining yourself a little and seeing how he reacts to you matching his energy a bit.
I think you can do better than a guy that would rather play games.
Thank you I think I wrote this deep in my emotions. now he does provide me with after care and we do just lie there together not super long though. Last year he didn’t play video games with his friends at all this year he is doing it only for a few days at night but since this is our only week together I prefer for him to stay at night instead of coming back to be with me at 1am after playing with his friends. It’s my fault though for giving him a pass I guess. The once a week thing was super long ago more than 3 years ago but I still haven’t forgotten. Now we only see each other twice a week due to work. He is always sweet to me and calling me pretty he made me breakfast the other day without me asking him. The only thing that I would say is that I feel like I am definitely more excited and jolly to see him but he is always tired. Do you still feel that I deserve better? I asked him today if he thinks that I loved him more and he said that we both loved each other equally.
Only you know if you feel you deserve better. From the outside it appears he is taking advantage of your kindness to a certain extent by playing with his friends during the limited time he could be with you.
Ma'am i don't think he really cares about you
I think he really doesn't care about you
Thank you I think I wrote this deep in my emotions. now he does provide me with after care and we do just lie there together not super long though. Last year he didn’t play video games with his friends at all this year he is doing it only for a few days at night but since this is our only week together I prefer for him to stay at night instead of coming back to be with me at 1am after playing with his friends. It’s my fault though for giving him a pass I guess. The once a week thing was super long ago more than 3 years ago but I still haven’t forgotten. Now we only see each other twice a week due to work. He is always sweet to me and calling me pretty he made me breakfast the other day without me asking him. The only thing that I would say is that I feel like I am definitely more excited and jolly to see him but he is always tired. Do you still feel that I deserve better? I asked him today if he thinks that I loved him more and he said that we both loved each other equally.
Look look don't be harsh on yourself you can try and talk with him and find a way if he still cares for you...