Is it a turn off to guys if a girl is too invested into them as in if she says she misses him and their cuddles and such?

[janbie_15]

[MrOracle]

No. What is a turnoff is when a girl is so clingy and smothering that the guy can't go to work without a 20-minute goodbye, and can't run to the grocery store without her, or even spend 5 minutes alone in the bathroom without her knocking. THAT is a problem, and, yes, I've known girls like that.

What you describe is perfectly fine to most guys. There are a few who just can't handle that level of closeness, but they are definitely the exception. I will say that a guy who has no romantic feelings for a girl also probably wouldn't like it.

[Konmath2020]

Exactly i felt suffocated. you just described my wife

[JackSmy]

There is a fine line, between loving, and sensual texting, then cuddling together, and being "CLINGY" or "NEEDY"!!
It's hard to say where the line is, because it is like being there, and OMG, she is texting again? Rather than "I got a flat tire, but AAA is here, I'm good, and don't worry!"
When we are together, I know she can handle basic issues, like a flat tire, but I expect that she texts me, and tells me, so I know, and then when AAA arrives, and then when she is OK!
I don't need a text saying her lunch sucks, and this Bitch in the office said this, and she said that, and then the other said this, and so on!!
Talking like ADULTS!! I assume she can handle daily issues, at work, like I do, but things like the car breaking down, I need to know!
Does that make sense?

[ifDaddyHadaPrincess]

It honestly (and I just recently found out) depends on if he really wants you in his life or not. My ex… he wasn’t too fond of my clinginess but my current boyfriend loves that I am invested in him BECAUSE he is also invested in me.


You don’t tire someone who loves you. Period.

[MindYourEyes]

I find it a turn on when a guy shows how much he wants me. And I appreciate when they express their emotions. It’s more of a if i kindly ask hey I want some alone time but they go crazy on me then that’s a problem. XS

[sonic_fever]

I wouldn’t say a turn off but guys do tend to get a bit annoyed after a while. I can’t speak for every man of course but for me personally I experienced this exact same thing with my current ex. She was very clingy and very lovable. I felt extremely smothered that I started to ignore her while at work because that was the only free time I had to myself. Even though I talked to her about it she continued to do it and it made me get more distant. So what I’m trying to say is give the man some space here and there. Don’t put him on a pedestal.

[TwinTonyz]

Each guy will be different. I cannot speak for other men, but that level of obsessiveness is appealing to me.

That said, I've also experienced this before and the affect is fleeting. Though I would like the attention and draw, I'd also take steps to distract or isolate a partner who I would want to keep for a long period. Obsessive behavior tends not to sustain long term. If I were to keep an obsessive partner around, I would HAVE to distract her with other things besides me, knowing that eventually she'll come back my way. The longer she attaches herself to me, the less she'll be attracted. That why you have to mitigate her behavior.

[tuvwxyz]

Yes, at least how I grew up, it's an extreme variation on what many would eventually perceive anyway, that a girl missing a guy is a mark of co-dependency - in some form, I become a source to fll a void within her, which, by experience, and observation of others, the OBJECT becomes irrelevant, as attachment is built on craving - when she gets that feeling from someone else, her craving, wanting, desire shifts to whatever most successfully fills that void in her. I want a woman who wants, but doesn't need, and is fully content to go without, because, in my experience, only then is she capable of selfless appreciation that makes a successful relationship work.

[crazy8000]

Depends on multiple reasons if it is or not.

If someone has insecure relationship blueprint. more specific avoiding one it can be a problem even if they really want something more.
Also if that person in question has other mental thing's going on it can also be problem.

Some that doesn't want to get attached or are after of getting attached.
or have problems with that level of affection is it a problem.
Comon amongst certain kind of people that are just after a certain level of affection/se/relationship like just friends FF friends with benefits one's...

[Anonymous]

No I think that’s sweet. I don’t get why people get annoyed by others who show them affection. I understand it’s creepy if someone does that and you haven’t even dated them. But to guys out there reading this if you have a girlfriend and she does this and you treat her like she’s a disease, and the same goes to girls who have a boyfriend, why are you in a relationship then? People think relationships are like owning a dog where you only provide it partial affection. A human being is different then an animals.

[CaptainOverthink]

No. It's sweet. No a point, that is.
If It's too much and too often then it turns to clingyness.
I guess it's a fine line between how much you want to be together and how much you can expect to.
Both of you still need your own lives and all, even if sometimes it feels like you're closer to beimg one.

[Interstate]

Depends on the guy. Any guy should feel flattered if the girl he is dating says she misses him holding her. Then again, it really depends on the couple. Some guys would appreciate it, where others aren't affected by it whatsoever. Any guy who wears a smile from it knows how to appreciate his Woman.

[James_Likes_PPL]

This is the secret that guys never say out loud If he wants a real long term relationship THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO CLINGY. A girl can be controlling or overbearing but not clingy or too attached. If a guy says your too clingy then that means he probably didn’t see you as long term material.

[Battooot]

To me... not a turn off at all. I actually will find it a turn ON as i love to feel desired by the girl in everyway. But to many other men, it could be too much especially if they werent sure of their feelings towards that girl. You should only do this when you know the man is truly deep in it for you

[normalice]

Yes. It comes off as clingy. I'd want the first few months of a relationship to be almost entirely physical. If she is too quickly jumping to emotional attachments that tells me the she probably sees the sex as a means to that end rather than something she wants all on its own. The reason such a thing makes me hesitant is because once the emotional attachment is secured she'd no longer have a motive for keeping up the pretense of wanting the sex.

[Anonymous]

So funny. I was about to put up a anon post saying I really need that even more than I need sex. I need that from a comparative woman who doesn’t need me for anything else (money, emotional “savior”, sex, etc.) but just truly loves me for who I am.

When I say “comparative” I mean a women who is in my league. Comparative in looks, goals, thought processes, needs and insecurities.

I only met one person who I thought was like this in my life several years ago. But I was wrong about her. I’m so fucked up.

[Jlegacy]

Attention only has value if it isn't cheap. I mean if she or he gat several businesses, are making giant strides in life... then yea.. if she gives me her attention them, I'd treasure it but if she is broke, jobless and bored, it will have no value to me.

[Omario2049]

Depends on the time frame we've been together. If it's after one night then u're a stalker bitch. However if it's after a few weeks it is perfectly normal for a woman to spiral into complete obsessive compulsion after repeatedly getting this hard dick. 😌

[Mofunfour20]

No i expect that. Women feel safe and secure and provided for with a strong man leading them. Its a womans nature to seek protection from a man that makes her feel small. If you do more to support him he will only want to be around you more.

[Aethereal]

Not to me. That sort of behaviour is a huge turn-on. It suggests strong interest, and that I'm not just one of her options. It also suggests that a relationship with her will be full of love and attention.

[Hidden1029384756]

It depends if that is just her love language or it she is dependent on it for self worth. Some people do express love that way and it can be healthy, but too much of anything isn’t probably a good sign. It can definitely show an insecurity in herself or feel like that to their significant other.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't describe it as a turn-off because it wouldn't affect how sexually attractive she is to me, but it would push me away because I am not willing to waste time doing stupid stuff just because we are in a relationship.

I have productive things I need to get done that require my time.

[Tiptoetamm]

I think it depends on the guy you with how he feels. Take your time tho if he's the one nothing will change that. Communication is also important ask him if he likes to cuddle etc...

[Robert_]

You are already mentioning too invested with will feel clingy and needy. But it good to feel wanted but there must be a balance. However this balance is different for every guy.

[TheBootyChest]

Hell no. Its showing me how much she cares. That way I know things are moving forward.