Is it a turn off to guys if a girl is too invested into them as in if she says she misses him and their cuddles and such?

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JackSmy · Accepted Answer

There is a fine line, between loving, and sensual texting, then cuddling together, and being "CLINGY" or "NEEDY"!!
It's hard to say where the line is, because it is like being there, and OMG, she is texting again? Rather than "I got a flat tire, but AAA is here, I'm good, and don't worry!"
When we are together, I know she can handle basic issues, like a flat tire, but I expect that she texts me, and tells me, so I know, and then when AAA arrives, and then when she is OK!
I don't need a text saying her lunch sucks, and this Bitch in the office said this, and she said that, and then the other said this, and so on!!
Talking like ADULTS!! I assume she can handle daily issues, at work, like I do, but things like the car breaking down, I need to know!
Does that make sense?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

No. What is a turnoff is when a girl is so clingy and smothering that the guy can't go to work without a 20-minute goodbye, and can't run to the grocery store without her, or even spend 5 minutes alone in the bathroom without her knocking. THAT is a problem, and, yes, I've known girls like that.

What you describe is perfectly fine to most guys. There are a few who just can't handle that level of closeness, but they are definitely the exception. I will say that a guy who has no romantic feelings for a girl also probably wouldn't like it.

ifDaddyHadaPrincess · Accepted Answer

It honestly (and I just recently found out) depends on if he really wants you in his life or not. My ex… he wasn’t too fond of my clinginess but my current boyfriend loves that I am invested in him BECAUSE he is also invested in me.

You don’t tire someone who loves you. Period.

MindYourEyes · Accepted Answer

I find it a turn on when a guy shows how much he wants me. And I appreciate when they express their emotions. It’s more of a if i kindly ask hey I want some alone time but they go crazy on me then that’s a problem. XS

sonic_fever · Answer

I wouldn’t say a turn off but guys do tend to get a bit annoyed after a while. I can’t speak for every man of course but for me personally I experienced this exact same thing with my current ex. She was very clingy and very lovable. I felt extremely smothered that I started to ignore her while at work because that was the only free time I had to myself. Even though I talked to her about it she continued to do it and it made me get more distant. So what I’m trying to say is give the man some space here and there. Don’t put him on a pedestal.

TwinTonyz · Answer

Each guy will be different. I cannot speak for other men, but that level of obsessiveness is appealing to me.

That said, I've also experienced this before and the affect is fleeting. Though I would like the attention and draw, I'd also take steps to distract or isolate a partner who I would want to keep for a long period. Obsessive behavior tends not to sustain long term. If I were to keep an obsessive partner around, I would HAVE to distract her with other things besides me, knowing that eventually she'll come back my way. The longer she attaches herself to me, the less she'll be attracted. That why you have to mitigate her behavior.

tuvwxyz · Answer

Yes, at least how I grew up, it's an extreme variation on what many would eventually perceive anyway, that a girl missing a guy is a mark of co-dependency - in some form, I become a source to fll a void within her, which, by experience, and observation of others, the OBJECT becomes irrelevant, as attachment is built on craving - when she gets that feeling from someone else, her craving, wanting, desire shifts to whatever most successfully fills that void in her. I want a woman who wants, but doesn't need, and is fully content to go without, because, in my experience, only then is she capable of selfless appreciation that makes a successful relationship work.

crazy8000 · Answer

Depends on multiple reasons if it is or not.

If someone has insecure relationship blueprint. more specific avoiding one it can be a problem even if they really want something more.
Also if that person in question has other mental thing's going on it can also be problem.

Some that doesn't want to get attached or are after of getting attached.
or have problems with that level of affection is it a problem.
Comon amongst certain kind of people that are just after a certain level of affection/se/relationship like just friends FF friends with benefits one's...

Anonymous · Answer

No I think that’s sweet. I don’t get why people get annoyed by others who show them affection. I understand it’s creepy if someone does that and you haven’t even dated them. But to guys out there reading this if you have a girlfriend and she does this and you treat her like she’s a disease, and the same goes to girls who have a boyfriend, why are you in a relationship then? People think relationships are like owning a dog where you only provide it partial affection. A human being is different then an animals.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

No. It's sweet. No a point, that is.
If It's too much and too often then it turns to clingyness.
I guess it's a fine line between how much you want to be together and how much you can expect to.
Both of you still need your own lives and all, even if sometimes it feels like you're closer to beimg one.

Interstate · Answer

Depends on the guy. Any guy should feel flattered if the girl he is dating says she misses him holding her. Then again, it really depends on the couple. Some guys would appreciate it, where others aren't affected by it whatsoever. Any guy who wears a smile from it knows how to appreciate his Woman.

James_Likes_PPL · Answer

This is the secret that guys never say out loud If he wants a real long term relationship THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO CLINGY. A girl can be controlling or overbearing but not clingy or too attached. If a guy says your too clingy then that means he probably didn’t see you as long term material.

Battooot · Answer

To me... not a turn off at all. I actually will find it a turn ON as i love to feel desired by the girl in everyway. But to many other men, it could be too much especially if they werent sure of their feelings towards that girl. You should only do this when you know the man is truly deep in it for you

normalice · Answer

Yes. It comes off as clingy. I'd want the first few months of a relationship to be almost entirely physical. If she is too quickly jumping to emotional attachments that tells me the she probably sees the sex as a means to that end rather than something she wants all on its own. The reason such a thing makes me hesitant is because once the emotional attachment is secured she'd no longer have a motive for keeping up the pretense of wanting the sex.

Anonymous · Answer

So funny. I was about to put up a anon post saying I really need that even more than I need sex. I need that from a comparative woman who doesn’t need me for anything else (money, emotional “savior”, sex, etc.) but just truly loves me for who I am.

When I say “comparative” I mean a women who is in my league. Comparative in looks, goals, thought processes, needs and insecurities.

I only met one person who I thought was like this in my life several years ago. But I was wrong about her. I’m so fucked up.

Jlegacy · Answer

Attention only has value if it isn't cheap. I mean if she or he gat several businesses, are making giant strides in life... then yea.. if she gives me her attention them, I'd treasure it but if she is broke, jobless and bored, it will have no value to me.

Omario2049 · Answer

Depends on the time frame we've been together. If it's after one night then u're a stalker bitch. However if it's after a few weeks it is perfectly normal for a woman to spiral into complete obsessive compulsion after repeatedly getting this hard dick. 😌

Mofunfour20 · Answer

No i expect that. Women feel safe and secure and provided for with a strong man leading them. Its a womans nature to seek protection from a man that makes her feel small. If you do more to support him he will only want to be around you more.

Aethereal · Answer

Not to me. That sort of behaviour is a huge turn-on. It suggests strong interest, and that I'm not just one of her options. It also suggests that a relationship with her will be full of love and attention.

Hidden1029384756 · Answer

It depends if that is just her love language or it she is dependent on it for self worth. Some people do express love that way and it can be healthy, but too much of anything isn’t probably a good sign. It can definitely show an insecurity in herself or feel like that to their significant other.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't describe it as a turn-off because it wouldn't affect how sexually attractive she is to me, but it would push me away because I am not willing to waste time doing stupid stuff just because we are in a relationship.

I have productive things I need to get done that require my time.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I think it depends on the guy you with how he feels. Take your time tho if he's the one nothing will change that. Communication is also important ask him if he likes to cuddle etc...

Robert_ · Answer

You are already mentioning too invested with will feel clingy and needy. But it good to feel wanted but there must be a balance. However this balance is different for every guy.

TheBootyChest · Answer

Hell no. Its showing me how much she cares. That way I know things are moving forward.

natured · Answer

If it's a constant thing then I think they will get fed up of it. I think it's good to always have control.

Coulis · Answer

Only if he doesn't like her that much. If he is really into her then yes of course he would like that.

Guy_No · Answer

Not in my opinion.  Why on earth would that be a problem etc.  Surely everyone wants the person that they're dating to be really into them.

AdithyaR · Answer

That's not a turn off at all. This doesn't even sound clingy. Clingyness is sometimes a turn off for people cause everyone needs some alone time or me time. This sounds very normal.

Massageman · Answer

No. I think that would be comforting to her and complimentary to the guy,  IF  she is being honest about it, and if she isn't just being a clingy thing for whatever hidden agenda.

dillbill561 · Answer

No. Don’t confuse their stroking of their own ego for sporadic investment. Some people simply don’t know how or are not capable of love. Try to find someone who is good like you.

exitseven · Answer

No, not at all. It would be a turn on in my opinion.

Mladenn · Answer

For some guys its turn off. For me its kinda turn on

Titanya · Answer

Absolutely not. It would only be a turn off if he's not interested

Nik1hil · Answer

No never a turn off..  But if you attached nudes and made this quotes your caption to nudes...  You can drive men crazy about you...

Serius · Answer

Not at all. You are just displaying how important you consider the guy's presence in your life.

I-C3_ME · Answer

How much are we talking? Every hour of every day? Yes, it's a turnoff. Semi-daily? No, it's actually a turnon for me. I love feeling wanted.

cth96190 · Answer

That would make me happy. That was what I wanted from a female. I gave up.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No, absolutely not. Not if the guy is interested in having something more with her.

rienna888 · Answer

If you say it too often yeah but if it’s once i think it’s absolutely fine. Also it depends if the guy is into you too.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I love a girl like that and wish I could find one that is like that who cuddles, hugs, kisses

bodukem1990 · Answer

Depends on the guy some guys like to know that she's constantly thinking about their time together and things about him but there is a point where it becomes kind of obsessive and overbearing almost like being smothered to death

Ianto · Answer

It can be, but only when it is over the top. We all like to feel cherished, and you need to make that clear without getting overly saccharin.

Wise4myage · Answer

Sure, if it happens too soon and she comes across as desperate than that would chase a lot of guys off.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I want that. What's a turn off is if she constantly asks things that makes it feel like she doesn't trust me.

K-I-S-S · Answer

There is a fine line between affectionate and clingy.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Ask my partner of 5 years. We’re still fine lol

SenseiSeptred · Answer

I love women who are that invested in me, but obviously there are limits to that.

Nick473 · Answer

Its not a bad thing but i feel bad if a girl says that and im not there yet

TheAfrikan · Answer

It is not a turn off. Buy she should have time without over thinking onky about me. She needs to have her Time.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I dont find it to be a turn off. I enjoy hearing that and I tell me SO when I have one the same things.

Anonymous · Answer

You should be happy someone cares for you that way. The only thing that would be annoying if she texts & calls you every 5 minutes

FamilyGuy2020 · Answer

I don't necessarily prefer a cuddle, Are You Freaking Kidding me

TallAnon · Answer

It can be, it depends whether you are actually close.

ElvenMr · Answer

I really like a girl like that. It shows that she really loves me and thinks about me a lot.

OddBeMe · Answer

Just keep it on the inside and cook us dinner, bitch.

AllenTriplet26 · Answer

No guys love attetion too sure wish women would give it more it probably where i live too

Asianguy123 · Answer

Some guys miching about it manbitching. Give him a bone

JesseJayNeak · Answer

It's not for me. And I hope I find that type of girl

Avicenna · Answer

Absolutely not-we love to hear that

TessCasie · Answer

Yes it’s known as being clingy

ForgottenFuRyan · Answer

No. Men aren't women.

mattclark242 · Answer

yes if she dose it when you first meet her

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Not for me, I would kill to have girls like that.

poneglyphs · Answer

No, it sounds cute as fuck and sweet. 🥺🥺🥺

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