Girls, would you correct a guy friend if he kept calling your meet ups dates?

[Anonymous]

Like he keeps saying “I’ve booked the restaurant for date 4” or “it was a fun date”.

Yes I would

No I would not

[kyleelyn199723]

I just straight up wouldn’t associate myself with a guy that I friend zoned and is insinuating our hang outs are dates. That’s actually pretty mean to string along a guy that is putting in effort to want to be with you more than just a friend.

[Asker]

So you’d tell him you don’t see him that way?

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker yep, but I’d also move on. It’s very hard to be just friends with a guy that doesn’t see it as a just friends situation

[Asker]

So how do you tell if a girl actually likes you or is stringing you along?

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker pretty hard to tell if there’s no open communication about that, but if a girl is correcting your definition of dates as hang outs, then I don’t think she’s interested

[Asker]

What if she isn’t?

[kyleelyn199723]

Then there’s a chance , but again with no open communication about the subject, it’s hard to tell

[Asker]

It feels like friendship. After 3 dates, all I’ve had is a hug at the end of date 3.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker some people need more than 3 dates to open up, but if you don’t feel a spark move on

[Asker]

I do. She clearly doesn’t if she’s not even touched me or kissed me.

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker going on dates doesn’t entitle you to an automatic kiss or hug. Love takes time for some people. If you aren’t up for the wait, then I would definitely move on.

[kyleelyn199723]

Took me and my boyfriend 3-4 months to become romantic towards each other

[Asker]

I didn’t say I was entitled to anything.

[kyleelyn199723]

But you aren’t hearing me out on this. Some people aren’t touchy until they are fully comfortable. 3 dates isn’t enough for some people to be comfortable. Again if she doesn’t match what you want, move on.

[Asker]

She matches. But in my experience, when nothing happens, I get friend zoned and then I feel like it was wasted time as I’m looking for a partner and not a friend.

[kyleelyn199723]

Well it doesn’t seem like she matches when it comes pace of romance with you. If you aren’t looking to waste your time, then you probably should ask her how she feels

[Asker]

I’m fine waiting if she isn’t leading me on and she actually feels there’s potential.

[tatianamay]

If i was not interested in him, then yes