Guys, what do you think is the reason/s why women cheat?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You're probably asking yourself what more can someone say about the motivation for cheating hoes? It's simple really they find a man that's interested in them that has more status or money and they do a cost benefit analysis and they go from the lower level male up a couple of steps to the man that's higher on the totem pole. This way there's a continuity in lifestyle and relationship status as well as the eventual improvement or so they hope. So what else can I say that hasn't already been said? If she's ready to break up with you then I think this is the phase where she's lining up the new guys without you knowing or already talking to the next guy. A cheating woman covers her cheating by still pretending to care and be interested in you before she breaks it off. Sometimes she will suddenly be more interested in you then ever, making more eye contact, talking to you more leading up to the point where she breaks it off. It's counter-intuitive. You'd think that she would pull away more but for some reason she brings you closer to her and then when you mirror her moves and try to get closer to her she pushes you away. This I believe is her non-verbal way of telling you that it's over. So much about the way humans communicate is non-verbal from the days before we had language. So as primitive apes we needed other ways to communicate how we feel. If a woman is cheating on you and losing attention if you look at her and read her body language and tone of voice you'll notice that she will build up a slow dislike to you. And then suddenly when enough dislike is built up in her emotional system she will dump you in a relatively gentle way. It's almost like she has to convince herself that you're a bad guy and that she's right for cheating on you and dumping you for the next guy. She also has to make sure that the next guy is firmly hooked. She has to justify to her own ego and self-esteem that what she's doing is just. If you pay attention to her behavior and if you've been through enough breakups you can see her doing this and as I mentioned it's mostly non-verbal. She has to lie to herself about just how terrible you are. Sometimes women will lie to the new guy that they are single even when they are in a relationship. And most definitely they will lie to the existing guy until the relationship is finished.

RobT312 · Accepted Answer

Same reasons men cheat. There’s a breakdown in the relationship that needs to be fixed. I think it’s avoidable with communication and fixing the problem. Cheating sometimes seems like the easy way out... just talk instead!!!

shorty_samy · Accepted Answer

I'm not a guy, but still. Anyway, I have a small insight. Girls usually cheat in a relationship because the most frequent answer is that the guy/girl/partner in the relationship doesn't feel valued/supported/loved in their relationship, and want to leave but is afraid of hurting you [the cheated on] or a messy breakup. But sometimes girls cheat because their partner isn't able to do the things they want them to, like sex or even just hanging out. Everyones reasons for cheating are different, although there are frequent reasons why.

Starla1234 · Accepted Answer

Not insanely in love with her partner I guess

AmandaYVR · Answer

Oh come on. Wtf is this, singling out women. Like men have not been cheating, having side chicks, themselves, for millennia.

Account · Answer

The exact same reasons as men. Honestly, it has nothing to do with gender. Women are human beings too, they are not alien species who operate in a different way. Please, try to understand that.

Diodoro · Answer

Some argue that women are biologically engineered to cheat in their best interest and If not for social pressure and religion every girl will end up cheating.

I'm not one of those people.

That said, the little reasoning a lot of girls need to cheat is small in many cases. I've seen girls justify to themselves the reason for cheating a thousand ways.

I've had girls tell me they cheated on a guy because they didn't love him. I've had girls say to me, at least they know now that they really love him for sure. And that cheating proved their love for their guy because feelings were still there

I've heard girls say they cheated because he was controlling, because he didn't care, because he's never around, because he's too vanilla in bed.

So many reasons given. But in my personal opinion girls cheat usually because they are not sufficiently attracted to their man and/or they don't feel heard. And because they don't feel heard they feel like he doesn't love them so they end up leaving or cheating.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I strongly believe that these days women cheat way more than they did back then.

Not saying they cheat MORE than us men. But I am definitely sure they cheat more often.

Why?

Because back in the day women mostly stayed home while the guy worked and provided for the family.

During this era many people were saying that men are dogs and cheat like crazy… well… it kinda makes sense. Cause often times female co workers flirt and hit on married men at their jobs. (I see many questions of girls asking about this on here also)

I digress, not only now are women out of the house, going to school, going to work, etc.

But now we have social media. And other apps like dating apps, and unfortunately there are a shit load of women who get VERY addicted to the attention they get when they’re single. That they do not wanna let that go, it’s like a drug.

So then, imagine taking a girl who is arguing with her man. She’s sad/mad. Then she looks at her phone, and see’s a guy that she finds attractive hitting on her, that also happens to live close by. Immediately, she gets horny and opens up to the guy, ultimately resulting in her cheating on the guy.

TruthBringer · Answer

Being unfulfilled emotionally and perhaps even sexually (man not knowing how to satisfy them). It's mostly the former reason. Often when women cheat, it takes a process of first cheating emotinoally before cheating physically. While for men, this is often the other way around. Men who cheat are generally doing so because they are not sexually satisfied. They don't first go through the process of developing feelings for someone else and then cheat physically. Not saying this does not happen, but in general, men cheat for sex while women cheat emotionally first AND THEN cheat with sex.

TheorionMage · Answer

Male or Female... NO ONE cheats 'solo'.

Sometimes the 'same old same old' loses its spontaneity...
Sometimes One feels unappreciated, taken-for-granted and
misses the intrinsic 'naughtiness' and 'courtship' tension.
The fantasy of being able to SUCCESSFULLY lead a double life...
or elect to candidly agree to an 'open relationship' or join a 'swinger's club.

There's an old 1960's R & B pop ballad:
"Who's makin Love to YOUR ol Lady, while You'se out makin Love"

Dragonpurple · Answer

I love that sign.

To answer the question, I do not know why. I know cheaters will make up excuses to justify their behavior, many times after the fact.

My ex cheated on before we even got married, then during the entire marriage. When I found out, it was cause she was not ready to settle down, wanted lots of sex with lots of guys and wanted someone to take care of her.

On her 4th marriage she finally got a sugar daddy that last I heard she is still with.

I tried to initiate sex and was almost always turned down, she really just wanted the money I guess.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

Not a cheater but if I did it would be because —my mate didn’t show me He appreciated me
—We stopped being compatible
—He doesn’t listen to me or neglects my feelings
10/10 I would just leave a man like this who doesn’t value me instead of cheating

Baredog69 · Answer

My personal opinion is men get too comfortable in their role as a husband that they become complacent. They take the wife for granted and when she is in such a vulnerable state there surely will be another man who will pay her the attention that she actually deserves to be getting from you. Being overcome with happiness enjoy that someone actually still thinks she's beautiful and doesn't mind to tell her is very tempting I'm assuming. I don't think a woman just willynilly cheats myself. I think it goes way deeper than that emotionally. Men on the other hand we have a penis that controls our lives and to beat it all it's smarter than we are. What can I say there's no excuse for us.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Cheat

• lack of emotional intimacy (a desire for a close emotional bond)
• dissatisfaction with her mate
• marital or relationship unhappiness
• a desire for male attention
• to reaffirm her desirability (To feel validated as a woman)
• to re-experience feelings of romance
• a desire to feel “special”
• boredom
• loneliness
• sexual excitement

Datboi65 · Answer

People would tell you it's "being unsatisfied in a relationship" but that's a bunch of bs. The answer is much more simple. Lack of morals. If a girl that is loyal is unhappy in a relationship, she would communicate it with her man so he can do better, or break up. If a dude isn't happy with his girl, he would let her know. Cheaters have no morals, and are selfish because they don't want to let go of the other person, while stepping outside of the relationship to please themselves.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Not really wanting to be in a relationship.

Not respecting their partner.

Wanting to feel desired.

Falling for someone else during a dry/rough patch in their relationship.

Mid life crisis.

Not being in a sexual relationship with their partner so seeking it elsewhere.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

For the same reason guys do.

People cheat for a multitude of reasons.

you could likely say whatever the reason is for a girl is the same reason for a guy.

It’s the same with same sex couples.

A gay couple are just as likely to cheat.

Humans are a bit crap at this stuff

FTnWo · Answer

Because she is a straight ho in some cases, in others because she is feeling unappreciated, taken for granted, because the dude doesn't give her enough attention and/or spends more time on his phone (women do the same) she doesn't feel loved or wanted, because he treats her like she isn't as important as whatever his priorities are, or because she simply doesn't love him anymore, someone else makes her feel special and wanted, she doesn't like her old man anymore but doesn't want to hurt him either (poor excuse but it happens).
About the same reasons that a guy would.

Adam1978 · Answer

Opportunity and low price. Ie the risk and consequences are to low for them to fear the result if something goes wrong. That and short sighted thinking. Just because some one is willing to bone you doesn't mean it's a path to a better life. It's also a sign that they value their man low. That they don't value themselves, and that they don't see the large picture of society.

sage2021 · Answer

Even when I was terribly unhappy I never cheated on any guy I was with as long as we were still a couple. I would never cross that line in the sand.

somesoul · Answer

Woman cheat, when men cheat.

But I feel like both should talk to each other about " sexual variety" like this " girl - I wanna sleep with this guy, can I? , If the partner ( husband) says yes, then the husband should also sleep with someone same time same day and probably same house - in this way both are transparent and no one is cheating either "

Anonymous · Answer

1. If she thinks he wouldn't care/isn't committed. Everyone wants to see themselves as a good person, so if she thinks he wouldn't care is the first reason to justify herself. If he isn't committed to her she might think, he is not my man, and he is not my man too, so why not? For example, is she wants to get married and he doesn't. I think this happens very often and is an underrated reason that I saw no one mentioning here.
2. To not fall in love (in the beginning of a relationship). If she is a person who falls in love easily. Men want sex early in a relationship, but this might make her fall in love. To prevent this, she distracts herself.
3. He is cheating, so it's "allowed".

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

For sex. Believe it or not. I wish i made a screenshot of the great post of a male user. He says that women like sex from experienced fboys but want good boys for marriage. Not only men have sex with "bad" women but marry good women.
This is no justification for cheating and this is not my opinion. I wish i had the screenshot and since it would be better instead of saying what the guy said

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

For the same reason men do. There is no secret behind this.
They also cheat because of the thrill. They also cheat because they want to cum. They cheat because they are drunk. They cheat because their relationship is in a bad moment.
They are not aliens. They don't have particular reasons to cheat that we don't.

Anonymous · Answer

The biggest myth when it comes to women cheating is that it’s about attention. That comes from the myth that women only have sex in exchange for love and affection.

They don’t. They want good sex as much as men do. Very often it’s more to do with sexual frustration while the rest of the relationship is fine, which is why they don’t leave and instead look for sex on the side.

LogicBomber · Answer

Women are hypergamous by nature.
So if a guy shows even a slight possibility of giving them something they think are not getting from you they will get grass is greener syndrome and monkey branch to the new guy.
They don’t fully let go of the old relationship until they decide who is better.

Anonymous · Answer

They are in shitty relationships. The reality is, people who have great sex lives and are deeply in love DO NOT cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

Feeling unsatisfied in a relationship (emotionally or sexually), lack of self confidence and needing validation from other guys, immaturity, or she just cheats bc she wanted too

Miristheiss · Answer

Because they can.
They feel like it... they get selfish and the lust after something or someone so they do it.
It is as simple as that. Lust and selfishness.
Bad boundaries is usually the first step that leads to that end result.

Fbv85 · Answer

Some out of boredom, or some kind of sense of entitlement, some for revenge of some kind, some for achieving confirmation that "they still got it", some out of loneliness if their man is largely absent in some capacity, and some just because they aren't that emotionally invested in their relationship and really don't care. An inherent lack of moral is also obviously a possibility.

Anonymous · Answer

Emotional deprivation, sexual frustration, feeling lonely and not understood in the relationship, feeling bored and forgotten about wuthin the relationship. All these things are actuslly on the man. She shows symptoms but roots and cause are in him.

Also, some women are just not faithful and act slutty. For them I have nothing to say... Probably are adrenaline addicts.

jahaims · Answer

Because it is easier to justify running away than it is to work through issues. Some women use sex for validation as well. Most won't admit to theirselves that 99% of woman can get laid whenever they want and feel more wanted because of this.

MandyandScott · Answer

Women need that one man who will listen and won’t butt in to her project lay boss gave me a shitty schedule, what should I do. Pause for a few minutes when she calms and asks again don’t jump her shit, they have their own separate book of ethics

t-8900 · Answer

Cheaters are cheaters, selfish scum. Doesn't matter gender, race, proclaimed religion, etc.

DWornock · Answer

It is natural selection. In the Stone Age and we still have our Stone Age brains, women would mate with a dependable and good provider and then when ovulation seek the best available genes for her egg. Typically, that would be an Alpha male; not her mate. By selecting the best genes she improved the odds that her children would survive.

postaldudePL123 · Answer

People who cheat are just confused who they really love. If they really would've loved their current partner they wouldn't have cheated.

If my girlfriend would cheat on me I really wouldn't get mad at her, coz this proves she never loved me, she was confused and I was stupid. That's it I'd move on.

I told this to my girl upfront that if you ever feel like you don't love me anymore, just let me know we'll break up. I really won't mind it's a very human thing.

sasarin · Answer

Women cheat for more attention, time from a guy. From my real experience and people around me.

eterna1drag0n · Answer

Because she wants to ride the cock carousel like modern feminism tells her to do to show that she's a strong, independent women.

josephinelcajon · Answer

Many reasons but lets start with the problems in our society that no longer takes even marrige seriously!

Bidensucks2020 · Answer

Not enough attention and they seek it from someone else. Feel taken for granted.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Same for men? They are dissatistifed with something in their relationship?

ringmaster696 · Answer

They have as many reasons as guys do. And, just like guys, none of them are genuinely good.

Tranquility_Lady · Answer

They feel like they can do better they are bored the sound of cheating sounds like fun. To try and feel what another dick feels like. To exprience what else they could get or have form the guy expessialy if he's rich

hahahmm · Answer

Sex addiction plus not respecting the guy she's with.

mark000h · Answer

Decent people don't cheat. Only scummy, selfish people looking for self gratification do.

Cubus · Answer

I think they want someone to show them affection, admire them, make her feel important. It seems they don't have it in relationship and want to have it.

HighValue · Answer

Only immoral bad people cheat, regardless of gender.

VanillaSalt · Answer

You can only count in people being as loyal as their options. Man or women given a good enough reason to believe they won’t be caught and to cheat will cheat.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because they are stupid. If you don't like the person, just leave.

Exterminatore · Answer

Same as anyone else. They are dissatisfied with their current partner or were tempted into a one night stand situation.

The obvious cause is selfishness and often a lack of loyalty and fidelity in a persons personality.

Twalli · Answer

Mostly because they are lacking something in their relationship and their husband is unable to or unwilling to provide it.

TheAfrikan · Answer

The dame reason for us guys cheating n that can be change in Taste n preference which is activated by the lack of respect, care and love from her partner.

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

I found out that my now ex chested on everyone with te same person that she is now married to and she even cheated on him when she dated him. She uses cheating as a way to get out of a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

It's always amusing to see the vastly different answers women give to this question compared to the ones they give when asked why men cheat.

patrick677 · Answer

If she does just leave her, as long you know your own value thats the most important :)

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I heard girls usually resort to cheating because they crave more attention compared to men.

PapaScott2020 · Answer

If he did it and you can prove it DUMP THE IDIOT. If he didn’t just tell him that this is what you’d to him and the chick he’s doing,

Chumisfum · Answer

Women cheat because they know we don’t care most guys if a girl cheats on them it’s just welp on to the next

Nigjt · Answer

They are not feeling wanted or something made up in there own head caused my low self-esteem an depression. God Bless

AviatorTom · Answer

Same reason men cheat. They're not fully satisfied with where they are and the opportunity presents itself to try something (someone) different.

Anonymous · Answer

I cheated because I wasn't serious about the guy and didn't Really love him.

Blackcupcake · Answer

not sure cause the easiest option in my opinion is to just break up with someone if I don’t want them🤷🏽‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

She got bored with partner. She found someone higher up the food chain. It is more then 2 years you are together.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Because when a guy likes a girl more than she likes him.  She will leave  Or  Cheat on him

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