Girls, does being financially spoiled make you more sexually attracted to a man?

[Anonymous]

Maybe I'm shallow, but I find myself attracted to a man since he's spoiling me so much. It makes me feel special, and desired. I very much like it. How do you all feel?

[Anonymous]

Yes, definitely. Accept and embrace that part of yourself as there is nothing to be ashamed.
I didn't grow up poor as I had everything that I needed, and to be honest I would feel uncomfortable at first if a guy would give me something or pay for something for me. But I overcame this. I think most women just want to be taken care of, but block this need because they feel uncomfortable with receiving something.
Not only I am more attracted to a guy who will take care of me financially, but I think this is how men fall in love, by taking care and providing for women. I think that if he is taking care of her over a period of time he is less likely to leave her as he has invested in her, not only financially. He considers her his woman.
Men shouldn't be "robed" from this experience of falling in love because some women are not comfortable with receiving.
Some men give to their mothers because their wife won't appreciate giving to her. And in the worst care to another woman outside marriage.

[Asker]

I love the way you worded this. I think modern society and feminism have ruined this aspect that should be an option without needing to be shamed for it.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But it's not the spoiling exactly that makes me desire him more. It's that I know I don't have to financially take care of him.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Not necessarily. It’s more of his personality that does. My boyfriend spoils me but also treats me amazingly outside of just buying dinners and things for me. Even if he didn’t pay for things, I would have the same deep attraction to him.

[Asker]

So him buying things doesn't make any difference?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Not much. It’s a sweet gesture but it does nothing for me.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

No, that gives me a guilty feeling, lol. I've always felt a bit bad when people spend money on me (even my own parents as a kid, despite them wanting to do so and never complaining about it).

[Account]

No, it doesn't. I don't want that shit.

[Babybebe15]

I don’t care about financially.


I’m more sexually attracted if he spoils me in things like:


making effort in cute little dates/activities, making me breakfast, cleaning the dishes for me, making me soup when I’m sick, picking up my favorite snacks from the store when I’m on my period, taking interest in things I like, truly listening to me when I vent or am upset, showing me affection, spending time with me doing barely anything and still being content, etc.


Money isn’t needed for a lot of these things.

[TikiTook]

I don't know why but it’s just not in my genes to feel that way. Spending money on me really doesn't make me feel that good honestly. I love gifts ofc but I guess I like being my own man and owning my own items and have love be separate than money because love is pure and money is not.

[TikiTook]

By saying being my own man I mean in the context here of a man being a provider of money instead of genuine affection and love.

[Asker]

I used to feel like that too. I grew up poor and would feel bad about asking my mom for new shoes or money for a school trip. But this guy has plenty of money, and wants to spend it on me. I'm used to being in relationships where I spend all the money and time on the guy who won't even give a birthday present in return. It just feels really nice to have this change.

[EmmaMary]

No absolutely not, as that would simply put me in the category of being a Gold Digger, something that I'm certainly not.

[Asker]

I'm not saying that's all you're looking for lol. That's not what I anticipated when I started a relationship with my current guy. I'm used to paying for things for my boyfriend. But here he does everything for me because he wants to. It's so nice to be spoiled, it makes me feel wanted and desired; and it makes me even more sexually attracted to him than I was.

[melanieeeB]

I love me a man who is financially stable but I'm going to spoil my own ass, cause I can afford that myself
I hate when others wanna pay for me all the time and I always feel really guilty, unless we're both paying here and there and it's kinda even

[Aerissa_Jade]

Not really, it is personality... but I do like a man who is stable. Part of stability is financially stable.

There is more to life than just things, this is why rich people are often sad and will still commit suicide. You can't buy happiness, but it sure helps with stability.

[TwinkleLily5]

A know a lot of women who love to be spoiled by a man. When I was in my 20s I hated men like that because it was over bearing to me. I had this one guy who was a family friend and he would just give me so much money in front of people (hundreds of dollars) I believe it was to show off although he really liked me. Half of the time I would refuse it. Now that I’m older I liked being spoiled occasionally by my man but not to much.

[ally018]

Girl I agree. When my man pays for more dinners than me it feels like he will do it for me in the future too.

[Agape93]

Not even a bit. I'm not a child, I don't need someone throwing money at me for attention. If I want you, it'll be for your personality, intellect and courage, not your bank account

[roro_hlbi]

Yeah of course 😆 it's not the only thing to look at but it can make a difference for sure

[Mandylynn]

No it does not it makes me feel like they are trying to buy my love. Don't get me wrong I like random little surprises or gifts or flowers. I'd rather have quality time and connection with them.

[dustybiker]

No. I wasn’t raised or allowed myself to become that way. I dislike money being tossed around. I know how hard it is to be without.

[Asker]

I also was raised pretty poor. We had food stamps, pantry food, and my parents both worked 60 to 70 hours a week (we have 10 kids) I grew up feeling guilty about asking for money for a school trip, or telling my mom my shoes were falling apart. I've always felt guilty having anyone spend money on me, no matter their status. But now I'm trying to learn differently since this is a man who has money to spare. It makes me feel special, and spoiled. I'm able to ask for something without a list of reasons why we can't afford it. I'm used to also being in relationships where I spend all the money on the man, while he doesn't give me so much as a birthday gift. It's just a lovely change and a nice feeling.

[dustybiker]

Enjoy it. Just remember where you came from and it won’t go to your head.

[Asker]

🤨 alright

[dustybiker]

That wasn‘t snarky.

[Sarahr123]

Well I agree with it feeling that way but I still don’t want someone doing that for me because my conscience doesn’t allow me to be a burden on someone else. I’d rather spoil myself.

[Dinklex3]

Nah, i like to spoil myself and buy things myself.
Gives me self satisfaction that I'm able to do things for myself and others that i love.

[KellyKOO]

I would feel uncomfortable if a guy was spoiling me financially. I don't like people buying stuff for me in general unless it's a birthday or Christmas.

[TikiTook]

Same

[PinkMichae]

Not in my case. It's his attentiveness toward me emotionally that makes me more attracted to him.

[scentoflavender]

I personally prefer spoiling myself financially, and doing what i want with men on an equal footing.

[Anonymous]

I can relate to this, but i’m dating an older man. I do spoil myself every week, i feel enough with what i do to myself. But he still spoils me every other day 😭

[freakymelanie]

More than anything. Actually looking to be someone’s bitch rn…. Hmu

[Irene2003]

It’s nice when SO does it. But not necessary I’m not for sell.

[drowsydaffodil]

i love being spoiled 🥰

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Doubt it.. its never happened for me

[Babygirl_S]

No, money can't buy me.

[Asker]

Not to say that you need a guy who has lots of money or needs to buy you; just if a guy spoils you financially, does it make you flattered and more attracted to him. Obviously most people won't like a person just for money

[Babygirl_S]

I get suspicious about his intentions. He may also end up calling you a gold digger even if he was the one offering things.

[Asker]

It depends. In my case, he really loves spending money on me. It's part of his kinks 😅

[kerbeary2003]

Actually yea it does.

[nandana_n]

My parents are already spoiling me soo no lol

[Anonymous]

It does help.

[sheikalana]

not at all.

[WowwGirl]

No less if anything

[WowwGirl]

I'd rather kind