A girl who I have a crush on has me in her bro zone... how do I get out of it. (I'm not that good looking. I'm just average with a little fat around waist, technically I'm an average looking fat guy ) I am worried about what she might think If I just break the thing to her.
well at 21 and presumably her being younger or your age? i foresee this relationship dying not too far off in the future. Likely you will make her uncomfortable thinking she could confide in you in that way without thinking you were there to eventually be more. She's got you in a bro zone because she's not interested in you in that way tbh. A friend zone would be different. But once she labels you as a bro you are f'd if you wanted anything more. She sees you as family, leave it at that. Dont ruin it. She might become a valuable resource to you later on when she brings her gfs around during and after college and you might find a mate through her. She might try to help hook you up. #1 lost the damn weight bro. I know its hard but I'm busting my ass on it. If I can lost it so can you. Look into the Keto diet and start putting time into walking and lifting.
Putting her on ice. Start working out. Go talk to other girls and honestly go for what you want from the beginning.
If she really is your friend you can always come back later and you'll be in a better place to actually be her friend as well. You won't have the same need any feelings for her the way you do now
Probably won't be as attracted to her as you are now. But more than likely she'll find you more attractive in the way that you want her to now. So it's a two-fold bonus
For one, average is perfectly fine. I'll tell you this, if a guy already seems like he's pretty and uses more makeup and hair products than I do it's not happening. Let your personality shine.
My advice, tell you you like her. If she does the whole "I still only like you as a brother" then move on. Don't shut her out completely, but move on to another girl. If she harbors any actual feeli gs for you, they'll boil straight to the surface the moment you're seen with another girl.
You can try a grand gesture, but honestly I wouldn't bet on it
You just go get a different chick because it's never going to happen like ever. The best thing you can do right now is get it out of your mind that you're ever going to have anything with her other than a platonic friendship and it's better that you just go get somebody else so you forget about her. You're going to think I'm an ass-whole and that you really love this person and you're going to go through this a million times in your life but somewhere down the line you're going to remember what I told you and you'll be okay
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Few things: 1. Start getting ripped2. Don't be too available to her3. Meet her from time to time, and let her know you find her attractive. Like if she's deciding on a dress, tell her, you think she'll look sexier in this or that because it shows her curves.4. Touch her in ordinary ways and see if she reciprocates towards you. Example, brush her hair from her front to the back of her ears and see if she blushes.5. Smash her when/if she wants it.#1 is very important. The only difference between a creep and a hot guy is the girl liking it.
I don't feel like telling you how to get out of the bro zone because you know what we fucking hate it when you friendzone us so enjoy enjoy enjoy living in hell for a while!
I bet that karma sucks huh? It's me again you like it is it good for you?
What do you mean "In her bro zone?" Has she told you or indicated that she has no romantic interest in you? Better to just ask for what you want -- if you've known her for a while, then an invitation to dinner would be appropriate.
"I am worried about what she might think..." Why? What's the worst that can happen? You aren't dating her now. If she declines, you still won't be dating her but at least you will know and can move on.
You're probably stuck there, but if you really want to do something about it, get into shape. Whether it's with her or someone else, if you're not looking your best you will have a hard time finding someone you're attracted to that feels the same way.
Just tell her, i like you. And i'm not happy listening/watching you bang other dudes, when it should be us, in my view.
It's your fault for not letting her (or your new potentials) know your feelings upfront, this soft hollywood romance crap doesn't work in real life. Let her know, ask her out, if not, don't linger. You are looking for a mate not a distraction.
With her just let her know, and end it if you must. it's for the better.
Don't put yourself down. Average is OK!! Just be yourself, smile, show interest in her and get her to talk about herself. It would not hurt just to ask her out. You won't know till you try.
propose a question to her. tell her that you wanna date and let her know your insecurities... and at the end ask if she'd date a guy like me? you know whether or not she wouldn't, but she might help get you a date with an equivalent
work out and start getting more playfull I guess full disclosure I have been put in that zone to I fear, best thing you can do is try to become more attractive, and perhaps to start trying to date other girls,
Tell her you want to date her. Not be her buddy. She probably won't be interested. But there isn't much point sticking around. If you aren't happy with your relationship.
Dear bro, You do what you feel the most comfortable. But think of a way to express your feelings are and how trapped you feel. The key here is using the right words and good timing. Think it carefully before you take the next step
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