Do smart women turn you off?

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Jaumet · Accepted Answer

Seriously? I suppose it depends on the type of person that you are dealing with. You are aware that everyone is different and unique in who they are, personality, intelligence and even tolerance. At this point I'm kinda lacking on that last one... Since any one who is that naive to understand that being able to hold an intelligent conversation is key to a lasting relationship.

Think about it... I'm at an important conference, party, or whatever... I'm having to introduce her to everybody... do you really think I want everyone to think I'm with some dumb bimbo? Oh hell no! She damn well be able to match if not excel in her ability to talk with anyone about anything. Making me look good for being able to keep such an awesome woman. Yep, "Back off guys, she is with me!"

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

Nooooo I need a woman who can mentally stimulate me. Otherwise I get bored and feel like its a cheap experience. Like talking to a child. A conversation with an educated or career driven woman is like a straight up massage to my brain if she's coming from a good place.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think we often have some belief that men don't like smart women. The truth is they don't like dominant woman. Everyone likes smart people. Humbly smart people anyway. I don't over value it though. Plenty of smart people who are still well below their potential. Being smart oddly is not the most or even 2nd most important thing to success.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Smart is never bad. Only arrogant is bad.

Diodoro · Answer

No, but self espoused smart women do.

Because they have an ego around it and go out of their way to make you KNOW she's smarter than you. The insecure nature of that is so unattractive and annoying.

Being smart is a benefit in my opinion if and only if you use it correctly. Smart people tend to be socially adept and aware. If you can't tell I don't care how smart you are and I'm really not interested in your self declared battle of wits.

Then you can't be that smart in my opinion.

Desire-for-Greatness · Answer

Stupidity is extremely unattractive. Stubbornness is even worse.

Combine the two and you get a person I'd never date.

The only reason a man would look for a woman who isn't smart is because he's looking for a hookup or he's insecure about his own intelligence.

Contrary to popular belief intelligence is not just something you're born with. It's something you can develop if you practice and learn many things and educate yourself.

Some people are born smarter than others but things even out if the smart person doesn't work on him or herself as hard as a person who wasn't born intelligent.

Bricealan · Answer

If smart women turned me 0ff, that would make me stupid, sexist, misogynist, and all of the other descriptive adjectives that define a guy that resented smart women. Firstly, we have to decide just what defines a 'smart woman". That seems to be 'subjective' on the face of it.

I would hope that if a woman decides to fuck me, that she is "smart' for making that decision, and, making me the choice.

Anonymous · Answer

I like smart women as I am very smart myself. The most intense connection I had with one experimental physicist from the UK (I am a grad student too). Smart women get plenty of dates as a lot of guys value them. But smart men are always protrayed as beta and nerds by society, and most regular and smart women don't actually wanna date them.
Smart women somehow feel they have fewer options as women are hypergamous regardless of who they are. Smart women want men who are way above average and incredibly smart. Whereas smart men can be less picky about intelligence but rather care about nurturing side of women more.

Keyboardkat · Answer

Turn me off? Heavens no! Intelligence in a woman is a turn-on! A girl who has nothing intelligent to say, cannot keep up her end of a conversation, isn't girlfriend material in my book!
Years ago in college I asked a girl out, and she was mostly nonverbal. I thought maybe something was bothering her, so I asked her, "What's on your mind, J____?" She answered, "Oh, nothing!" I decided that she was telling the truth about that. There was no second date.

Mr_Dangerous · Answer

Yes.

Because those 'smart' ones happen to be some overweight college girl with a nose piercing and a tattoo or two with more to come and probably has a mini gay flag with a mini black lives matter flag sticking out her bookbag on either side.

Ahhhh the abominations in my state.

But if you're talking about a smart, happy, beautiful woman who looks after herself and looks forward to looking after a man in her future then yes. That kind of smart hits the spot.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Certainly not, smart women (and people) are appreciated!
But what level of smartness are we even talking about? Someone who can hold a conversation about current political events or a mathematics professor with formulas flying out of her butt? :-o

Craftsman · Answer

Quite the contrary. There is hardly anything I enjoy more than an intelligent conversation with an intelligent woman. The dumb bimbo variety of woman is a turn-off for me mentally and emotionally.

FakeName123 · Answer

Depends. If a girl is obsessed with her career or too smart to really be feminine, emotional, etc. - then yes, it is a turn-off. That being said. Most women claiming they are too smart usually aren't.

Adam1978 · Answer

No but dumb ones can. It's more about treatment, if she riding some kind of high horses mentality it's a turn off. Not her intelligence but her arrogance.

slatyb · Answer

No, they turn me on. Best sex ever was with a Ph. D. engineer.

jasco · Answer

No bitchy and stuck up women do. I love that women are becoming smarter. I hope we both as a whole keep growing and maybe one day people will become better

Cozzy81 · Answer

Not at all. I prefer them personally. Stupid people annoy the shit out of me and if my love interest were it would make things even worse. My partner needs to be my equal or better.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

No. Quite the opposite actually. I'm a sapiosexual. The only thing that turns me off is when they put me down for not being as smart as them, or tell me that my knowledge doesn't matter

Fireguy17 · Answer

not at all. As judge judy says, beauty fades, dumb is forever

globetrotter22 · Answer

Women who have to go around TELLING people “they’re smart” absolutely do.

dolemite89 · Answer

no it’s only when they have an attitude about it that turns guys off, like if they act snooty or are trying to always correct everyone like a know it all

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope, it’s the other way around. one of my ‘criteria’ is intelligence, this is not really about having degrees, it’s about being smart and clever.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

I am not instersted in women. i woild prefer to have a smart man.

anylolone · Answer

Smart women turn no men off. At all. Women with zero social skills and an ego several times what they can deliver do.

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