Do guys feel emasculated by smart women?

Question

Do guys get turned off if the woman is smarter than them (very smart, genius)/makes more money?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the person and the guy honestly. At THE end of the day smart people are human as well, so it depends on how they use their intelligence to promote or demote other people.

Narcissists or people that suffer from Borderline Pathologic or Pathologic Disorders, are usually highly functional and intelligent people... at least that is how they view themselves. Which in truth they probably are intelligent, but they lack objective intelligence.

For these types that have a high degree of self-intelligence, that means they do not think objectively or independently of themselve when relating with the broader world or people at large. They think in terms of all things in how it affects them and less in terms of how they affect others. They use their intelligence to mask their own insecurities, then project those insecurities on to other people, in the believe that their higher intelligence gives them the authority to do so. And any who disagree or challenges that believe is less than who they are.

So again, intelligence is highly subjective. For example, the absent-minded professor, super smart but cannot keep up with his cars keys or remember where he parked his car. How smart is he when it has nothing to do with rocket science? How do they relate with other people and communicate on an emotional level?

So no, I do not feel emasculated when I meet a very smart or intelligent woman. But it really depends on how objective they are about their intelligence and how they inter act with other people. If they use it elevate themselves about others, no I do not feel emasculated, but I do not perceive them as being as smart as they think they are either.

tfan1 · Accepted Answer

My sister in law thinks that she’s never wrong. She talks to me but keeps on giving me 20 questions and when I give her answers she’s like that is just excuse. I say you may think that but it’s also truth. So her and her husband (both acting like their schit doesn’t stink) don’t like me - so I don’t give a schit about them either. I mean would you care about someone who knows how to cook a delicious turkey, then you ask him to teach you but then thinks the turkey is done even after using food thermometer showing it’s done. (Correct internal temperature). Then after he makes it with you - Doesn’t try eating it. But you do and it tastes funny the deeper you go and then stop? Then you ask your wife to check it out who Knows what is cooked and what’s raw, only to find out when she cuts deep into it, that it’s still uncooked? That son of a bitch could have poisoned me and or killed me via salmonella! At least she put it back in the oven and cooked it to the correct temperature. We tried it again but the seasoning was gone and the nightmare haunted me so we threw it out. I said I was going to confront him. She said no let it go. I said wth girl? If that happened would you let it go? She said she would have double checked it herself. She said you didn’t get sick, if he planned this, he failed. You win. I said your logic is logical and illogical at the same time. I said this is unforgivable. The hell with him!

Haha456 · Accepted Answer

from my experience this is true to a certain extent. An average guy without a record of success will find successful women intimidating. However if the man is smart and successful in life , it is less likely that he will be intimidated by a successful smart female. For example, if a guy is a nobody makes 60k a year, then he will be intimidated by a doctor who makes 250k a year. But a male doctor who makes 200k a year won't be intimidated by another female doctor.

Men operate based off of their ego. If they have low self esteem , it is likely they will go for unsuccessful women. by that I mean women who aren't smart

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m told raw like this..

That men don’t give a shit like for real as in shit not symbolically that how smart a women is and what career they have. Majority care your femininity is intact like you love your husband family and don’t abuse your kids ( obviously men who says the latter one is also kind hearted.. abusive one doesn’t say it )

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Intelligence is only intimidating when the woman makes a point of being shitty and belittling about it.  Coincidentally, that's usually a sign that she isn't actually very intelligent.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.

I would feel emasculated if she verbally ran me down or was disrespectful to me or about me in public to others.

I'd dump her over that.

Women. Guys don't really care about your education or job/money (as long as you aren't a stripper or something like that).

MONEY

JOB

EDUCATION

These are things WOMEN find attractive when looking for a man.

When men are looking for women... these things don't make you more or less attractive. Those things aren't important in the "is she attractive, will she be a good wife or long term mate".

Women keep bringing them up because you falsely think men and women are attracted by the same thing.

I would have gladly married a sweet, kind, easy going, loving girl who was a cashier over a super busy, successful woman who was loud, annoying, bossy, slept around and had a promiscuous past. Money has nothing to do with it. It is all about her personality, values and attractiveness.

jim_moriarty · Answer

Women wants someone older than them, have more height, make more money than them.

Men wants someone younger than us, shorter than us, make less money than us.

Thats how male and female attraction works.

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All successful people have certain common characteristics. Woman find these qualities sexy in a man but men don't find qualities attractive in a woman, we have different needs.

Successful woman don't intimidate men just like seriously feminine men don't intimidate women.

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Men and women look for different things in thier partners we are wired different

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If you are a successful man, its an attractive quality and women would be impressed by that but if you are a career women, good for you, but that doesn't impress any men (they might act like they are impressed and give you bs compliments but men don't actually care). Because men don't look for safety, protection or security from a woman. Men look for attractive feminine submissive women who would make a good companion and not a headache. Just be a feminine woman do duties of women in a family and you are more High value than many attractive woman. re-state://background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft, p

BigWhiteWolf87 · Answer

On this question you could literally break men into three categories. The last one is the only category that on average wants an intelligent woman.

Guys after cheap sex
They quite obviously prefer dumb easily manipulated women. Women that will be easily swayed by a simple compliment, some general conversation at the bar, and even cheezy pickup lines that would never work on anyone who isn't falling over drunk.

Intelligence is definitely not a requirement

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Guys that achieve little / have inferiority complexes / insecure of themselves
These are the guys you'll see sitting at the local coffee shop or pub whining about how life is hard and how they hate their cog in the wheel jobs... jobs that they never do anything to change. They often lack ambition, drive and intelligence.

They want a woman who is less intelligent & less ambitious - e. g. the do little with herself sort of girlfriend or wife - as they often have inferiority complexes. Easily revealed in how they easily get insulted by little or someone just questioning them.

There's a number on GAG. It's comical how "bat shit crazy" they go when you say something against them no matter how decent or noninsulting you are.

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Guys that achieved something / are intelligent / secure in themselves
These guys have either achieved something in life, are intelligent themselves, or they are secure in themselves. They are far harder to find than guys after cheap sex and men who have no ambition, are less intelligent, or who possess inferiority complexes.

These sorts of men don't want some dimbo and don't want someone who'll do little or nothing with herself. They want someone who'll add to their own success, someone to be proud of. So an intelligent or ambitious woman is what they'd be looking for.

TruthBringer · Answer

Feel emasculated? LMFAO of course not. And any man who does suffers from actual fragile masculinity.

Having a smart woman around is actually important. The question is, how is she using that smartness? Is she using it to the benefit of the relationship? Or is she just boasting about being smart and belittling anyone who doesn't agree with her? That's when it becomes a major turn-off. But feeling "intimidated" or "emasculated"? Lmfao, that is what you call true fragile masculinity then.

earthcitizen7 · Answer

I would say, generally that most men are not used to women making more than them. Whether that is good or bad is up to them, as everyone has Free Will. If you know of a guy who doesn't like that you are smarter than him, that is a BIG RED FLAG.

Guys who are good for you, won't care if you make more than them, or are smarter than them. MAKE SURE the guy (or girl) is NICE. If they are not NICE then end things as soon as you find out. You can tell by how they treat you, and how they treat everyone else. A guy who picks a fight can be exciting, but they are a VERY bad choice for a LTR.

God created Our Universe with Love and Free Will. Use your Free Will to Love!

genericname85 · Answer

no men don't feel emasculated by women who are smart. they feel repulsed by snarky, bossy or arrogant women that also happen to be smart.

i know women love to direcltly associate negative or devaluing labels to any reason a man may not like a woman. that's just female toxisity. the truth is, when men don't like a woman in most cases it's not "them having a problem". in most cases it's "the women being unattractive". and that's a harsh pill for many women to swallow, which is why they rather shift the blame to the men.

Pacquet · Answer

Men generally don’t care if you’re smarter than them. A lot of women have this notion that men are intimidated by their success and knowledge but I don’t think men could care less. We appreciate smart women but usually women who know they are smart feel they have to prove something by insulting others because they feel inferior somehow when no one is measuring their intelligence. Men generally just care if you can have a good time. Intelligence is something women care more about than men because it subconsciously signals to them that the man is capable of acquiring resources.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a friend who is super smart, like genius level. She is studying biomedical engineering and plans to go to medical school after that. She is also very pretty and fit. I've known her since we were in junior high school and she has always had boyfriends and pretty much had to beat guys off with a stick. Guys are not intimidated or emasculated by her intelligence because she is humble and treats everyone well.

I think women who believe guys are intimidated or emasculated by their intelligence, success or independence are usually the ones who have personality or attitude problems that are actually the reasons guys don't like them.

Anonymous · Answer

Contrary to popular belief, a smart woman is actually an asset, and preferred when it isn't accompanied by arrogance. In most cases from my experience, especially in the U. S, "smart" women are often just women with a chip on their shoulder, that go out of their way to treat others like shit. When a man is arrogant, we call it what it is, but for whatever reason when we see the same behavior exhibited in a woman, it's regarded as "men are just intimidated by intelligence", which couldn't be further from the truth in most cases, because smart men easily recognize that unintelligent women are a liability. We simply don't enjoy being around insufferable women, and unfortunately, arrogant women seems to be at an all time high.

Kai95 · Answer

Put simply it doesn’t happen, it’s one the thing that will never have equality, a woman earning more than her partner, her first thoughts would great I made it I don’t need anyone, and that’s where the issues start coming up as an example my girlfriend was ecstatic that she was making more than her dad, to which I asked was that your goal? And she said yes and when I pointed out that her father with a smaller salary than hers raised her and her sister and mother, owns a house, is loan free and helped them buy their properties/cars etc. Now 3 years later she realised how rich her father and mother are not just financially but emotionally.

Regarding the intelligence part I wouldn’t date a dumber side woman, because I don’t want to talk about meaningless things that don’t excite my thoughts.

Isaack · Answer

No one is smarter than everyone else in every subject. I don't mind being outshined academically or in career gains. I also don't mind being with someone that is an independant thinker and who expects the freedom to make their own choices.
What I would mind is someone who thinks they have the right to choose everything for me. Regardless of who is the main bread winner, a relationship should not be a dictatorship.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Women like that are out of my league anyway, so I couldn't tell you lol.

I can tell you that it's emasculating when women act like we're not capable of doing certain things.
For example, if a guy says he's gonna fix the leak in the sink and his wife says, "That's ok baby, I'll call a plumber" 🙄

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

From where do girls get such ideas? It does not. An intelligent woman is preferred actually. But often, the 'smart attitude' also comes with smartness. That does not fare well with many people. An intelligent woman is not the problem at all, it is the occasional attitude that comes with it.

Blondeguy666 · Answer

Some dudes are offended by the more money part because they feel like failures but other than that no. I know a guy who is a carpenter that married a doctor, and he enjoys it because most of his money goes towards toys for him and his kids (trucks, ATVs, snowmobiles, etc.) and taking her on vacations a couple times a year while she pays for pretty much everything else about their otherwise modest lifestyle. Lucky bastard.

inhua · Answer

making more money =/= being smarter

a woman's intelligence doesn't play that big of a role for men. the only intelligence she needs is to be smart enough to not put herself in risking situations where she could be tempted to cheat or her life is in danger

there's nothing emasculating about a woman's intelligence. it's only emasculating when she's actively trying to emasculate in which a smarter woman would be more capable of achieving than a less smarter woman

DaySpring · Answer

Men hate  when anybody tries to belittle them. That is what  people  hate.  Nobody likes a cocky mf.  Women just love to use all excuses because it helps them cope. Generalizations, like this, are in many cases a coping mechanism. Many people do it and when you do it you lose all your power.  You become a victim of your own mind.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't find it emasculating at all. Several of my past partners were very educated. It never bothered me.

Really all I care about is whether or not you can stimulate me and just because you have a X degree and make X amount of money doesn't mean you can stimulate my mind or engage in what I would find to be a interesting conversation.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Trust me men are not intimidated by women like that. It can be sexy, but it can be annoying as well if she always thinks she’s right or tries to put him down. All this bs that you hear women saying he’s just intimidated by you, or he doesn’t deserve you you’re way to good for him, etc, etc, is just a bunch of bs women tell each other to make you feel better about yourself.

Massageman · Answer

No problem for me. I was the head earner in our household for years. Now it's my wife's turn.

In general, it's so nice when I do not have to "dumb down" my discussions with people. And depending on what she knows about human physiological responses, this could be a boon in the bed!

Anonymous · Answer

If a woman is pleasant to be around, feminine, empathic, loving, gentle, patient, non combative and supportive. None of what you mentioned matters period. Often what happens is a woman's ego becomes a barrier to everything I mentioned, then she assumes it's due to her being smart.

When a man comes home to a wonderful woman with all of those attributes above and more, ask yourself whether her IQ, level of knowledge or anything else related matters.

Anonymous · Answer

It's sad that this myth is still alive. It was started by feminist types to shame men who had no interest in them, but ironically it actually hurts women because it sends a false message that diverts attention from the real problems keeping them from having success with men.

If a woman has a good personality and knows how to treat a man well, she will always be desirable to men. Being smart is a bonus that men find very attractive.

PatriceONeal · Answer

No. Common myth that is spread by feminists. Educated women are annoying and the education only serves to help her articulate her bs better. Being educated actually makes it harder for women to find a suitable partner becuae it falsely raises her self of sense worth. Thinking to herself men value career or success the same as qomen do. We don't. We have no reason to. Think about it.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

We don't mind, or get turned off. It just literally is a non factor. How attracted are you by a man with a magic card collection? I mean as long as it's not his life goal then doesn't make any difference right? The problem is if his whole life revolves around it.

LickwidSkie · Answer

I think that depends on the guy. Personally, I don't. I see absolutely no reason to think the man should be smarter than the woman in a relationship. I would consider myself fortunate to be with a woman who is smart and makes good money.

WonderBell99 · Answer

Men don't, but boys do. If some guy you're dating says he feels  "emasculated" by you, dump his ass. Mature men love intelligent women. Only pseudo intellectuals think they're superior to others.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Men don’t feel emasculated by smart women, they feel emasculated because they choose to feel that way. It’s a reaction to their own short comings. They blame smart women because they are an easy target.

Theonlyolympian · Answer

First of all that’s a generalization secondly it’s a man’s insecurity a man who has not worked on himself is going to see it that way. Men are called to lead men are called to bring home the bacon (not saying women can’t because women can bring home the bacon) men are told to put women first so I can see how some men feel emasculated by that notion. But me personally I find that women who are smart are attractive it makes me feel good about myself.

hahahmm · Answer

No. Women who are disrespectful/rude to men for no reason at all repulse men and the men walk/run away. THOSE women perceive the repulsion as "emasculating" when it's not.

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Lliam · Answer

Doesn't bother me. I wouldn't feel threatened or emasculated as long as she didn't act superior. I like smart people. I don't care if my partner makes more money than me, either.

RavVid · Answer

This is an old feminist trope. Most people aren't that smart. But a lot of people ( mostly women!) think they are smart. Sorry girls! Most of you aren't.

WellGreetingsISay · Answer

I'm fine with women who make more than me or know more about things than me. I could learn from them.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

When smart women try to get a rubber band around my testicles…then, I feel like they are emasculating me.

susie22 · Answer

I honestly think only a very insecure guy would feel emasculated by a smart woman.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

You would benefit from a better understanding of the word “emasculate” and all of its conjugations.

SpokenTruth · Answer

Women that compete against men constantly comparing men to women are a turn off feminist are a turn off.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It is actually a turn on to me. If she can teach me something, I am all for it. 👌

SnowedIn · Answer

Wouldn't bother me but I know a lot of guys it would bother.

LazerBean · Answer

Of course there will always be some that are, but in general that would be a no.

ODC2112 · Answer

I work in the University. I have rarely found women smarter than me, even less rarely have they intimidated me in any way. On the contrary, they often shamelessly hit on me.

Wade12345 · Answer

I really like smart women. Like genetic engineer smart.

Gibbons44 · Answer

There aren't enough good looking smart females. Too often they get fat and go unattractive for some strange reason.

es20490446e · Answer

No. I have talked with people like that often with perfect fluidity. The question is if she's kind of aggressive.

rupam_das · Answer

We like smart women, but smart women don't like us, they know they are dominant but still they want someone who are smarter & stronger than them. Thats the only reason most men don't like smart women.

fonduegirl · Answer

They want smart women but they hate smarter women. That's their condition. Figures.

libsaretards · Answer

I voted no. I like it when women I date are smarter than me.

Damian69 · Answer

I can only speak for myself, but I don't care if she's smarter than me. As long as she isn't condescending about it, it's all good

worldscolide · Answer

My wife is smarter than me, what does that tell you?

loveslongnails · Answer

Most guys definitely are, but they won't admit to it on a GAG poll or any other. LOL

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Depends on her mindset a lot of women think those things makes them more attractive but it doesn’t

Petr87 · Answer

Yes, they do. Oh boy, do they ever! They feel emasculated, intimidated, and threatened. It happens on GAG quite a lot, I've noticed.

Paul09 · Answer

The only thing that would worry me, is I'm smart enough for her level. It would not bother me one bit if she was.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

It won't bother me, but I could see how it could bother some guys.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not one bit. I love smart women. I don't desire a moron to be next to me. It's draining.

zagor · Answer

I like smart women. Assuming everything else about them is good.

Shiningtempest · Answer

I wouldn't be interested in dating a woman who's smarter than me because I value easy-going nature over intelligence.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

That's just like asking if women are defeminized by dumb /emotional men.

Djaay · Answer

No... What makes you believe you're smarter than men?

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