Do men care if a woman is smart?

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boundless · Accepted Answer

You have to get in where you fit in. If you are of average intelligence, then you will have no problem finding an average man who will be compatible with average women. There is a general notion that so long as you are within 2 standard deviations of intelligence, that it is easy to communicate with one another. A little over 95% of people fall within 2 standard deviations of dead average which is an IQ of 100. So most guys will not really care all that much as long as you are interesting. They will think you are smart as long as you are entertaining. For men that are above 130 IQ typically intelligence is going to be a little more important, but that is only the smartest 2.3% of men and even then guys like that know they have to be flexible in that regard because the odds are against you on that front. It's not like there are a lot of brilliant women out there, so it all depends on well they suffer a fool. Too much of a mismatch leads to conflict... If you are too stupid or too bright then the smarter one will likely get frustrated easily. The dumber one might get retarded. There might be arguments. The dumber one might call the smarter one weird sometimes... The general incompatibility on that front can cause tension.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

There was a girl I dated briefly who had a learning disability. I was cool with it as I thought I didn't care. She was an extremely kind girl. But I could not have conversations with her about my views of the world or deep concepts, because she could not follow along well. And when I got her to read a fantasy novel I was writing, she said "It's good, but I don't understand it."

I couldn't help but be bothered by that. At that moment I realized I wanted to at least be with someone who could converse with me at my level. I don't need them to be a genius. Kindness still matters more. I just want to be able to converse with them at my level.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Dumb boys feel strongly attracted to smart girls. There must be something in the genes.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It really depends on how controlling they seek to be or how insecure they are.

MrOracle · Answer

The woman being smart isn't a requirement, but it is a bonus. We appreciate it if she is smart, but we're perfectly fine if she's more average in smarts. Most men aren't going to pick a girl just because she's smart, though.

The things that men find important in a woman are the things that matter most when deciding who to choose. Being smart isn't on that list - but being REALLY dumb could disqualify a woman.

The things that matter to most men are:

Youth (which is typically tied to both innocence and fertility)
Purity (innocence/a lack of worldly experience)
Loyalty
Friendliness
Fit (don't be fat)
Positive attitude
Feminine
Family (rather than career) oriented

Note that you won't find things like "her education, degrees, career, status, income, business, or travel" on that list. Women may value these things in men, but men do not value these things in women, because they do not benefit the man in any way.

Also note that virtually every girl is born with everything on the list that men value. She doesn't have to work hard to earn those things, she merely has to protect them and make good choices in who she gives them to and when.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d say some do, but most don’t. As long as she’s pretty, descent looking w a good personality she’s good to go. Most men don’t go home after work to talk to their girl about rocket science or things like that. I don’t go home from the hospital each day to discuss all this stuff w my wife. We talk about what are we planning on doing today. Do you want to go eat. I need to get some stuff from the store or a Dr’s appointment, etc, etc. On the other hand I don’t want a complete ditz either. But no she doesn’t have to be a rocket scientist w a high IQ for me to want to be w her. Most men just want peace, a loving partner, someone who’s nice, sweet, can cook, is feminine. I say is feminine, not can be feminine. I hear so much women talking about how they can be feminine if they meet the right man who makes them feel feminine. That’s what I mean by she is feminine.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yes, I mean it's not super required as long as she is enjoyable to be around and smart enough to have conversations with.. But, a smart woman is nice as long as she doesn't have her head up her own a$$..

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I expect soooooooo much more from relationships than just having regular chats about appointments, groceries and office gossip. I also expect so much more than having sex.

I mean there are billions of things infinitely vaster and bigger than us, it makes no sense to me to proceed as if they didn't exist, or didn't matter.

Lliam · Answer

I do.
A bubble head is only good for one thing. That one thing certainly has value, though.

But I prefer someone I can respect; a woman who is smart and whose judgement, intuition and advice I can trust; a woman who is curious about the world, can carry on a stimulating conversation, who gets jokes, and comes up with good ideas; a plucky go getter who has a strong work ethic, employment skills, and various interests.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men care…. Unless they are looking for someone whose easy to manipulate. Now, that being said people cannot control their intelligence a man can love a woman less intelligent if she has something else going for her. Like she’s loyal and a genuine good person.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes I do... smart, interesting and funny but, there's a whole lot different kinds of smart too...  I sure love some wit, though

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Might have been better to ask, “Men, do you care if a woman is smart?” Then you’d get specific answers from different men. Not all men think the same.

Staximus · Answer

I don't really care so much if a woman has a higher education, but I can't deal with a woman who has no common sense and can't keep herself out of trouble

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't really care to be honest while it's nice to have intellectual conversations I don't particularly care if a woman is smart I'm perfectly happy with a woman that has average intelligence.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Smart men want smart women. Don't care about your career but some level of smarts is important even if it's not academic we'll take street smarts. There's nothing interesting about dumb women

236color · Answer

Well, some guys are intimidated by smart women. This isn't to suggest you should dumb down. It's to suggest you should find a better man.

molonski2 · Answer

Think it depends a great deal on what he really wants from her , for something serious , smart is great. For purely sexual , it doesn't matter.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would never date a woman who was not above average in intelligence.

Berethor · Answer

Not really, men tend to care more about woman's looks, some also care about innocence.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Nobody can tolerate an airhead for very long...

AviatorTom · Answer

Why do dumb blonde jokes exist?  Answer: Ask a blonde. 😉

slatyb · Answer

Intelligence is extremely attractive to me, more important than appearance.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most men care most about how a woman looks and fucks and how good she is in bed.

Anonymous · Answer

As much as a woman cares if a man is smart.

Twalli · Answer

I will occasionally use big words. I will talk intellectually. I'd like the girl to understand most of it.

zagor · Answer

Most men don't care so much if a woman is smart, but most DO want a woman who is NOT dumb.

Kelly6 · Answer

As I've seen, men care more about girls looks

snermcger · Answer

Stupid people are of no use to anyone except those who seek to exploit their stupidity.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, we care because we need wisdom and good advice and stimulate our minds

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I don't care for dumb broads, but I'm looking for what's in her bra first.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Speaking for myself I definitely care.  I have no interest being with a moron.

Spencer10 · Answer

This gut sure does.

jazzy34 · Answer

It depends on the type of man he is.

exitseven · Answer

yes, who wants a girlfriend dumber than me?

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I definitely like smart girls.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Of course. It is a gift!

Ariesman81 · Answer

Witty is a bonus

foxsquirrell · Answer

I certainly do!

WonderingManII · Answer

Yes..

queenofcardio · Answer

Ofcourse.

Jeff51 · Answer

Yes I do

Yannishka · Answer

They should.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yes 👍🏼

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

dudeinohio · Answer

Doesn't matter

dean55au · Answer

Intelligence is sexy

Naomi999 · Answer

Definitely !

wkhan_87 · Answer

Why not

Okseer · Answer

Nope

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