Do you guys find intelligent women a threat?

Question

Lately seems that guys only care about physical intimacy and deep conversations usually get pushed away. Do you feel like when a girl shows that’s she is smart and knows how to have a conversation about some topics you guys feel threatened?

KostasKouvalis · Accepted Answer

STREET smart, YES! As for book smart, it's more about status then knowledge. I only have a Bachelor's degree, so I would say I find women with Masters or PhDs a threat, yes.

I'm a sapiosexual myself. I too need a deep emotional conversations and I lose my patience around stupid people. I guess I'm more intimidated/threathened by success/status then knowledge. Honestly, I feel more comfortable around girls that have no college degree, but still match my intelligence level. But I think up to Bachelor's is still fine, but anything greater and I feel inferior. The last girl who had a crush on me was a doctor and constantly made me feel worthless and inferior. So any girl that has a job that requires a Masters or PhD, I'm staying away from.

Otherwise, I need an intelligent woman. And I honestly get SHOCKED when I see someone dating a dumbass. Like talk about low standards.

I had a crush on this girl at work, until I realized how stupid she was. And she was in college. I know collegeless girls who are WAY more intelligent

slatyb · Accepted Answer

Intelligent men aren't threatened by intelligent women.

lady_yumejoshi · Accepted Answer

I have the deepest conversations with my husband, every time I talk to a woman, it's skin deep: make up, men, celebs, they complain about politics, etc. Things I couldnt care about.

Though my mum-in-law is also into deep talks or chats about horror and other crazy things.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

I think some guys feel threatened by that, but it’s not true of all guys. Go to a good college or graduate program and you’ll find plenty of guys who aren’t.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely not. This hasn’t been a thing “lately” as you say. Most men have never really cared about a female’s intelligence. W that said most me have never really cared about her career either. It’s not a recent trend, it’s been like this for a long time. The reason why a lot of men think this way is because most of the time there’s no benefit in it to men. Sure she may make a lot of money, it most women aren’t going to pay half of everything as far as bills in a relationship. Most women still w at the man to make as much as her or more as well as still provide. What’s the saying, her money is her money, his money is their money. A lot of men will also say yes it’s important, to which yes some of them may be telling the truth. But a lot of men won’t tell her the truth cause they don’t want to mess up their chance at getting w her. If he said I like you because of your looks. You have a nice curvy body, it’s hot, sexy, etc. She’s probably going to get upset because she’s thinking really that’s all you see me for. So chances are she’s not going to want to give him a chance for him being honest. I mean who really goes home to their wife to have conversations about rocket science. Most men go home, talk to their wife. Ask her how her day was. What did you do. Would you like to go to dinner. I’m not saying men don’t want a complete moron either, but honestly intelligence for most men isn’t on the top of their list of the deciding factors of what they look for in a partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women are not as deep as they think they are. There's difference between being deep and just being emotional. Or worse over-emotional.

It's rare when a guy can have a deep conversation with a woman without her JUDGING him six ways to Sunday. Men know this! Which is why generally you have two type of men. 1. The man who just says what's on his mind and let the chips fall where they may. And he won't be dating that woman for long, if it makes it past the first date. Or guy number 2 (aptly named number 2). He reads the non verbal cues and tells her exactly what she wants to hear. Because if he does that like guy number 1, there is no hope for a relationship either. But at least if he plays his cards right, at some point them panties are coming off.😆

Sorry if reality is a bitter pill for you. Good luck!👍

P. S. the reality is very few people are great matches for eachother. But with a good mix of compassion, empathy, and knowing your boundaries (and this goes for both men and women) you can improve your I odds.

OneViewpoint · Answer

NO! Quite the opposite. I will only connect with women who can have those conversations. Whereas if a woman is physically attractive but not the brightest candle on the birthday cake, I lose interest really fast. I just can't fake it with a dimwit to get in her pants. I mean, where's that going? Nah, just not worth the effort of pretending to be interested. I don't want to be mean. I mean those women are what they are. But I'll manage her access to me and the amount of time I spend with her. Dumbing it down is just painful and exhausting for me. Whereas conversation with someone who can/will push me and challenge me is fun.

RavVid · Answer

Nah, it is not a threat. Intelligence, in a woman, is just over-rated is all.

Culturally it is OK for women to boast and big note themselves in a way that is not OK for a man to do. Just about every woman will tell you how smart they are but statistically it is unlikely for them to be that smart. So I'd thinking oh yeah sure.

Intelligence isn't on our mate selection criteria. So having it or not having is not a factor. Female mate selection criteria are not male mate selection criteria but women seem to falsely assume they are.

Boasting about how smart you are does indicate you are missing some of our key mate selection criteria. Like being co-operative and humble.

loveslongnails · Answer

If the definition of a threat is "an indication of impending danger", then you could say that about all women :) LOL

But where's the threat... to what, have a great time? No, I don't feel that at all. In fact, the only people I really like are intelligent people, women or men. Stupid people always feel threatened and/or intimated by intelligent people.

For an intelligent woman, this is a real time saver. If you correctly perceive that a man feels intimidated because you're intelligent, you can dump him immediately. A brief conversation will tell you this.

NathanDavis · Answer

some might... but not all of them

certainly not me, I'm not insecure like that

but... I do think this could be two different things as some people just want the sex, not the intimacy... and they just might not care if someone's smart or not

Berethor · Answer

Strength is more masculine trait than intelligence so no much reason to feel threatened.

Valso · Answer

No. Never have, never will. I used to care whether the girl I wanted to date was intelligent, but not anymore. I found out that... "less intelligent" women are easier to put in horizontal position, so I no longer care about how smart she is. :D

permanentem · Answer

You're doing duck lips in your photo, so that's not something you have to worry about. It's an exhibition that you are a mindless follower not a free thinker and leader.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

When dating, I was very selective and would not date a woman who had average intelligence or less. I didn't think I was better than such women, but I knew from experience that we would have very little in common.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Absolutely not , I have ever only desired an intelligent woman by my side.  Attraction starts with the eyes , but it survives with the brain.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

It’s not that they feel threatened, it’s just that they don’t see her as worthy of that kind of relationship

MrChinaski · Answer

I'll let you know when I meet one... oh, come on, that joke lead in was too good to pass up. Anybody that knows me will know it was 100% jest.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Of course they do. Read the blue anon comment on this very thread.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Certainly not. Some  dumb  guys might. I never explicitly met guys like that, though.

Pohjolan · Answer

Actully intelligent? No. But if she pretends to be intelligent that's another matter. Like any woman who thinks that there are 52 genders isn't actually intelligent.

Ariesman81 · Answer

I doubt there's many guys who want retarded kids. Most people want understanding from a relationship, which requires a certain level of intelligence.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No, I prefer she's got something going on in the brain box!

Bricealan · Answer

@barbara1402 No, it is flattering to have the company of a smart woman.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't feel threatened, but I don't find as much fulfillment in an intelligent romantic parter. The more capable and independent she is, the less I can take care of her. And being a provider is something I have a deep, likely instinctual desire for.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

Not for me. That is preferable for them to be intelligent

DarKnight36 · Answer

No, I'd most likely marry an intelligent woman.

Shrimpenjoyer · Answer

I want a intelligent woman, dumb guys want dumb woman. That's how It works

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

threat, no. It all depends on how you use it.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

This man doesn't.(Imagine;A bird with a 140 or so IQ and 40-inch boobs !!!)

4ngelic · Answer

only weird manosphere dudes

MidnightRivers · Answer

Nah, I am attracted to intelligence

dougeats · Answer

I prefer someone who is intelligent

loveladies1 · Answer

I prefer an intelligent/independent woman.

DishLady · Answer

Nope.

exitseven · Answer

some do. i dont.

Staximus · Answer

Not at all

jahaims · Answer

Lmfao

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