Why do I experience men not respecting my boundaries often?

[Anonymous]

I have often heard that I’m good looking and without sounding conceited I know I’m pretty. But I have often experienced men not being able to keep their hands to themselfs on dates and in like group situations where friends always need to step in. I’m a pretty quiet person that keeps to herself and I never dress in a certain way that could invite this behavior. I’m a Christian as well and I want to wait till marriage, when I tell men this they always seem so happy and then still try to see how far they can go. I’m now starting to doubt myself a lot and I often think it’s my fault somehow.
I am tired of sticking up for myself and dealing with certain trauma’s men have caused in my life.
Why does this happen to me and how can I determine who is right for me?

[Finchie40]

The thing is you can only give what you want to receive , so finding a guy to respect your boundaries is hard to come by considering most guys have physical needs over a girl that has more of emotional needs , So finding a guy that just wants emotional needs is going to be hard to come by , that’s what makes guys and girls different from each other , Most guys were made to find physical needs , most of us want sex , it’s a way we show a girl that we value her and care about her , When a girl gives us sex we feel closer to her it’s a way we express are feelings towards her , Where most girls need her emotional needs to be met for her to want to have sex. so by you wanting to wait until marriage to have sex is going to be hard for you to find , especially these days , I am not saying you can’t find it but it’s going to be harder for you to find nowadays cuz most of social media is directed towards sex and relationships, Most guys do not want to wait til marriage to have sex and the reason being is cuz he is worried that if he does wait for her to find out she is horrible in bed he feels he will be stuck with her or vice versa she might think he is horrible and then end up leaving him for someone else , Why I feel sex is important with someone before you marry them. Social media has destroyed the way people look at relationships these days , every time I go on social media , either someone is cheating , every girl is a white and every guy is a fuck boy so this world is pretty much doomed when it comes to relationships cuz people are brainwashed to their phones sucking in useless knowledge

[PoopyPoop]

I am not blaming you but if you don't communicate where your boundaries are clearly and assertively, then you'll probably mostly invite the types who don't care where they are.

As for latter Q, you don't. You build your life in a way where you don't need Mr. Right to make it work. Then Mr. Right is a bonus, and if he truly is Mister Right, he doesn't come driving in fucking up everything you built. He shares in what you built, shows you what he built, and together you build the tallest tower anyone has ever seen.

[Seangreen]

Pitch and I'm going to call you that just to take you off your high horse little bit it don't matter how fucking good you look The Thirst is bad doodle go out with a morbidly obese check and have his shit all over her cuz he just wants one fucking thing

[Staximus]

Hold on, you just said what the problem is- "I'm starting to doubt myself" "I'm tired of sticking up for myself". You should want to stick up for yourself and not doubt yourself. Men are going to try to have sex with you if you're not ugly. That's just part of life. Make sure they know you are not interested in having sex with them.

[nikoluushkaa]

Its not your fault people are assholes. Your strongest tools are:

"Don't fucking touch me"

"No"

And pepper spray

In that order.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

Lots of guys think they can be one to make you change values and have sex with them. Find guy with same christian values. You are beautiful as a and deserve great things. Keep up the faith.

[mark000h]

Stand your ground and reject low quality guys. Real men can appreciate a quality woman.

[LightOfTruth]

I would say one of two reasons.
1. You don’t set limits
2. You have been finding trash men

Try finding one with values, I don't know.

[PeterCharlie1991]

Go for men who respect you and keep their hands to themselves

[Jamie05rhs]

Start carrying pepper spray. And use it.

[EaterPeter]

It's pretty common not only for women

[CubaPirate]

You must connect with assholes