Girls what standards do you need in a guy, before you even consider dating them?

[ManHater]

What so of standards do you have? Tall, funny, rich, fat, dirty? What kind of list do you have.

[MzAsh]

Has his shit together: healthy, decent job, decent ride in his name, pays for his own roof and utilities, good credit score, has good relationship with his mom, has good friends who aren’t fuckboys.


Good character: loyal, sweet, responsible, dependable, agreeable, supportive, good sense of humor, preferably relaxed on the gender roles and stereotypes (he has to be cool with doing half of cooking and cleaning).


The further he is from being a fuckboy, the better.

[Desconhecida]

He must be a man, not a boy. We must have the same idea of what we want from a relationship right now.

[AncientWisdom]

I actually had a short term fling with a lesbian couple in Dallas. They asked me I didn’t hit on them or nothing I just befriended them an next thing you know we had a lot of fun. I still remember them fondly.

[AncientWisdom]

@Ez-Bri-Z sorry somehow this got up in answer to you below.

[buttsniffer]

every list in the world must be ticked in order for a girl to like u

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Be respectful to me/family, be monogamous, heterosexual, honest, loyal, have a job or in college… Can’t think of much more lol.

[ManHater]

Never went to college, no point in wasting time on a piece of paper that not going to turn a profit. Rather spend my time on a skill trade something that is tangible and needed. Might as well build the world.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

There ya go… One or the other. As long as you’re doing somethin with your life.

[spuitkaas]

Okay gimme a minute.
- somewhat psychically attractive to me
- intelligent
- open-minded
- interesting personality
- emotionally mature
- between ages 23-33 years old
- is working/studying or working towards a goal
- can take care of basic needs for himself
- honest
- loyal
- wants to do stuff together
- social

I can also make a list of things that are actual dealbreakers in the "not" category

[ManHater]

All of those things go both ways. I don't think you can have one without the other. Infidelity will usually always happens.

[spuitkaas]

What, do you mean?

[dodobord]

Respect, empathy, kindness, generosity, humilty. Hygiene is important and I'd prefer if he wasn't political or overly dominant, and the sigma/redpill/self identifying alpha type is annoying. Chemistry is very important. If he checks all the boxes, then I care very little of what he looks like.

[ManHater]

So a man who is neutered.

[dodobord]

If by neutered you mean someone who's respectful and isn't full of himself, then call it whatever you want.

[ManHater]

Neutered as in, a man who can't stand up for right and wrong. A man who bends over every time he's asked too. A man who can't say "No". A man who has no back bone and lets women and other men walk all over him. This is what I think you want in a man.

[dodobord]

Ah yes because wanting a guy that isn't dominating and into "lol bros I'm a sigma male" is wanting a guy who has no self respect. Get over yourself. People are allowed to have preferences. I don't give a shit what your preferences are, so I don't see why should give a shit about mine.

[taylorallen]

I'm pansexual. However, when I do have interest in a guy, I usually prefer them to be clean, you know... most guys aren't. Taller than me, by at least 5 inches. Healthy. They can't be eating junk shit... You are what you eat. Preferably clear skin. Pretty much shows that they're healthy.. And in shape. To an extent. I prefer slimmer guys so.

[JC1981]

We all have some sort of physical preference that initially draws us to a person, mine are eyes, abit taller than me and humor. But above all that is intellect. Eyes and intellect are the only thing that don't change. Vanity, arrogance, materialisc and selfishness are a massive put off.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Alive, good personality, great sense of humor, can intelligently hold a conversation, willing to compromise, loves giving and receiving affection, hates sex.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Lol I usually don't care about downvotes but now I'm just curious if those standards are apparently too much for a guy.

Ok maybe the sex one I get, but the others shouldn't be too hard for them? Right?

[AncientWisdom]

No your expectations are good , although some of these other females seem to be shooting for the stars. Where your messing up is no sex. Sex is crucial to make well being. Without sex what’s the point in bothering.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

To have all the cuddles he can handle and someone to talk to and support him?

[AncientWisdom]

@Ez-Bri-Z well good luck with that all that’s going to do is frustrate the heck out of most men.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Thats probably why I married another woman, but we still both date other people so if a guy comes along and wants that then hey, here I am.

[AncientWisdom]

I answered you it got up there tho. Tagged your name. Sorry bout that

[ManHater]

Funny read. Hehe down voted? Just an honest oppinion from a girl. No need to down vote because you are offended.

[AncientWisdom]

I didn’t down vote anything and I gave her an honest answer back. 3 people did and I believe it’s the last reason

[Ez-Bri-Z]

That or they think all women are only out for money and looks and refused to believe my list.

That or they just don't like me in general. I wish they had the courage to post why though. I could have addressed their concerns.

[ManHater]

Truth? Internet, oh I wish.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Lol I mean, you just laid down some truth right there

[AncientWisdom]

@Ez-Bri-Z Unfortunately a lot of males do think that I believe and in many instances they are right. The money part anyway. Also why would someone who doesn’t really know you not like you? Also in many studies I’ve seen on modern western society women are not getting a good grade. Science is saying that’s what they are doing it’s not all their fault. It’s just what females are taught in the US. They aren’t taught in these actual words but the message is the same. Females think all men are pigs all we want is sex and we are stupid and can be manipulated with sex easily ( they are correct they know men are weak when it comes to sex. ) they also are taught we are disposable they were shown this when they saw their mom kick their dad out and take all his possessions and his children they saw he couldn’t do a thing about it. So they are learning this from the actions of society as well. We live in a society where the culture and courts are biased against men. It will change soon men and women are waking up and seeing this because of the men who commit suicide men bond with a women they evolved to do so women evolved hypergamous they do not bond as closely as we do so when a woman does what they do to men these days the man ends up killing himself its becoming an epidemic and it’s known females are the cause

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Oof.. that is a lot and I dont think I agree with most of it.

I'm living proof I don't care about your money. I actually make pretty good money. I'm not trying to use any guy for sex. I dont even want sex from a guy. I just want to give and receive affection. I want someone to laugh with. I want someone to just feel protected by and for me to take care of them... just not sexually.

Courts ARE biased both for and against women. When it comes to child custody, women unfairly get the benefit of the doubt. That also holds true when it comes to sentencing. Where women have it go against them is in sexual assault and rape cases. Very little of the men who are guilty are even going to see a court room let alone get a guilty verdict.

If we did not bond as closely then why do so many of us stay in abusive relationships for years? Yes, women initiate more divorces but why? Go look deep into the reasons even beyond irreconcilable differences.

Men commit suicide in higher numbers for multiple reasons: higher levels of stress, lack of ability to express emotions healthily and loneliness being chief amongst them. Married men live longer than their single counterparts so men trying to "wise up" and go their own way are only sentencing themselves to an early grave over the remote possibility of losing some money WHICH she doesn't even get if they make equal pay or if she makes more. Which only means men should be advocating for better pay for women.

[dustybiker]

Alive? And it’s top of the list? I’m sensing a story but I don’t want to know it. lol

[AncientWisdom]

Well we will have to agree to disagree because I don’t agree with most of what you just said I know better. I have lived and watched and have friends who have been destroyed by it and my brother who was a marine shot himself with a.38 over a lying cheating conniving worthless woman. In my book he should have shot her. Your just repeating the same old feminist bullshit. I know men who are sitting in prison for life for sex offenses and didn’t do anything they didn’t get out til their persecutor had a change of heart and admitted they are lying makes me wonder how many never come forward.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Lol no story. Just you know, no living dead need apply.

No emotionally dead guys either.

[AncientWisdom]

🤣🤣

[dustybiker]

Clarity. Kills the fun, but makes sense. 😎

[Ez-Bri-Z]

No, I'm telling you facts. For every 1000 rape cases that are reported (and MANY never are), only 1/3 ever get reported to police. Of that 1/3 only six (6!) ever serve time.

You are telling me about a couple of personal experiences (and let me be the first to say I'm sorry for your loss), but overall that is not the case. Both men and women cheat and that sucks. There are some terrible people in this world, but don't try to pin this on one sex over the other.

[AncientWisdom]

I know the numbers on that I don’t know where you live but in Texas you get accused of a sex offense they are going to destroy you. Wether you done it or not I’ve seen it a lot. You have to prove you are innocent here if you get accused of that and make no mistake I am in agreement with you on that they deserve jail. To me guessing how many don’t report is not a fact it’s is not proven. When they prove that I will believe it. In some cases sure but I can’t see someone just letting that slide.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Hey guess what... you aren't gonna believe this but I am actually in Texas too where the rap topic came up when Abbott signed the abortion law. Texas has an abysmal record when it comes to rape at just under 10% reported to police and of that 10% only a quarter of that even results in charges (not even convictions).

[AncientWisdom]

Maybe it’s West Texas they go to jail there and not much proof. I’m not a fan of Abbot either. Give me some references so I can read myself what you are reading. I like learning. I’m sending there’s a reason you do not like sex with men. It’s unfortunate most of us are not like that these days there are certain circumstances that have been studied where they are like that though

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Don't read too far into it. I'm just terrified of penetration. I like men just fine otherwise I wouldn't be ok dating one. My ears aren't even pierced it freaks me out that much.

Uh, you can get a lot of the studies from RAINN and the Texas Department of Safety

[AncientWisdom]

I just sold a small little rancho in West Texas bought a place up by the red river on the Texas side by Wichita. I’m in Austin a lot I own property in Killeen. I love that texas is like a small country

[Ez-Bri-Z]

We aren't actually too far away from each other apparently lol

Yeah, people really don't understand how large it is. We can drive 8 hours and still be in Texas.

[AncientWisdom]

I didn’t read to far in it I just knew there was a reason. Wow! a phobia I never heard of that it’s still unfortunate

[AncientWisdom]

That is awesome. I love my state and my people a lot. I really love this area of Texas too. I put game cameras out I’ve already got a ton of photos of coyotes coons foxes got some ring neck pheasant to I love animals and nature. I ride a lot but got to get my horses moved here from east Texas at a friends place. I’m going to research what you said why would a women not report something like that? Embarrassment , shame etc?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

And beyond that fear, doubt she would be believed, her rapist is someone she knows including a family member and doesn't want to tear the family apart, doesn't want to be victimized again, has trauma and wants to be left alone. Honestly there are a ton of reasons.

I'm a city girl myself. I've seen a horse. Does that count?

[AncientWisdom]

I guess that does make sense never thought about it like that … well damn Bri you taught a old dog a new trick good on you. I’m still gonna check it out I’m perusing the states records now. Keep in mind I don’t trust government of any level but I am now searching for information on this.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Sounds good. If I remember correctly, those might have been 2019 numbers if it helps any.

Also, love to always converse with a fellow Texan who absolutely knows how to be civil.😊

[AncientWisdom]

Well my granny taught me manners and I’m not here to be ugly. I’m 55 years old and I’ve got a lot of knowledge so I thought I’d share it with people. I have ran into a coke on here that need a good ole texas attitude adjustment but that not my business I just ignore them. It’s really easy because I know if it was in person they wouldn’t say a disrespectful word they’d be afraid. I good size man 6ft 2 in 240 lbs solid as a rock with good heart and mind

[AncientWisdom]

Spell check coke = cple

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Guess they just build them bigger down here. I'm 42 and also just all a out respect being earned but keeping manners regardless if it can be helped. And while I am not 6'2, I am 5'10 so I can strike fear in some peoples hearts with my angry mom stare lmao

[Little_Bumblebee]

Dating?
That he seems like a good guy, that I feel like he's interested in me as a person and that enjoy spending time together. And an amount of attraction.
It's mostly about my gut feeling and how he acts.

[attackgrrrl]

not racist, feminist, likes stuff i like, has a job, and is just a nice person. i also like skinny, tall guys with long, greasy-ish hair but they don’t have to look like anything like that tbh

[ManHater]

Yeah its like skinny girls. "Fuck you are jabbing me with your bones". Not that great... anorexic.

[attackgrrrl]

@ManHater what?

[Rabbagail]

That he's close to me and respectful. Being close may not seem to matter but I'd rather be with someone who i could be myself around and not feel judged.

[kerrylouise]

I value openess, and emotional maturity most of all.
Of course he must be respectful and loyal, consideate is important too

[linka_pat307]

Respectful, lovely, understanding and funny
And should leave the work aside wen together

Should share his problems there isn't harm in hearing and finding solutions

[Ninani]

Intelligence, respect for himself and others, an open mind and a sense of humour.

[charlean]

At least a small bit of hysical attraction is the first one

[AncientWisdom]

Chemistry is the word I believe. I require that as well

[charlean]

physical *

[Blackcupcake]

taller, older, hood hygiene, strong aura, confidence, smart and genuine

[Subarugirl]

Honesty, integrity, empathy, emotional maturity, drive, compassion, humility, loyalty, and ambition.

[Anonymous]

Open minded, respectful, honesty, kind, sense of humour

[devoygf]

tall
athlete
goofy
freaky
shy

[ManHater]

freaky like, black make up on his eyes, black lipstick? Goth type right? Chains, cuffs, etc...

[devoygf]

yessss

[ChiTown33]

I'm trying to imagine an athletic Marilyn Manson. Lol

[devoygf]

@ChiTown33 who is that

[ChiTown33]

Lmao. You kids got Google. Use it!

[devoygf]

@ChiTown33 he is not my type

[ChiTown33]

I'd hope not! He's over 50. Lol

[xJayleenx]

I need him to be sweet and loyal

[kyliesz]

Funny, dirty, kind

[hi_it_is_me123]

That he is a man