Girls, are you standards really high when it comes to men you want to date?

[Anonymous]

Like do you have a long list of requirements a man needs to have in order for you to date him?

[Nomina]

Oh yes. I have a list. Sometimes I respect it, sometimes I don't. But it's there.

[DizzyDesii]

Weeeeell, it would be nice if he met at least 90% of the list

[Asker]

Jesus christ

[DizzyDesii]

🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

Ill give you Mho. Most women seem to have high standards like that. Maybe not exactly the same but they do have really high standards

[DizzyDesii]

Well thanks for mho :)

[jennifer_bloom]

My only non negotiable is kindness, intelligence and beauty and wealth are preferences and not requirements.

[Asker]

"Preferences aren't requirements" you sure about that?

[enbyofenvy]

Absolutely. I have some of the highest standards for men cause of the abuse I've been through at the hands of men im rather iffy about ever trusting one. Also i dont need them, like i flat out dont understand how the male gender isn't yet just a vestigial evolutionary trait. Not are only, have they been useless to society for over a century now, but even with the help of google can you name a single serial killer, dictator or famous facist who was female? So far as i can see, men are responsible for all the worlds problems. War, poverty, starvation. Now i know not all men are like that, just every single one I've ever met except one, the one im currently dating. For years i figured despite knowing im bi, ill just bury that side of me cause LOL at the thought of my ever finding a man who meets my standards. Then rob, fucking rob had to prove me wrong on that, rib (mmm... Ribs. Autocorrect can keep that one) being my first boyfriend.
I have no standards for women tho. They always seem to be decent people.

[Asker]

It's the opposite for me. I feel like women are more vain, narcissistic, shallow & more cruel than men are. And because society sees women as the angels & men as the demons, i can't express this because then people come to women's rescue and say that men are the cause etc.

[Ayanna240]

@Asker,

With that kind of mentality, you're better off not dating any women. Women do not like sad, bitter, pessimistic men.

[Asker]

@Ayanna240 You just proved my point. Thank you

[unknownforever]

Yes and no. All my standards are literally the bare minimum things you should look in any person. The only thing that is out of control hat I would love, is for him to have a good family. The only reason I would want this is because I know my family aren't perfect and if we have kids together, I want them to have a family they would feel happy to be around. But I wouldn't not date someone because of that. But if he lacks qualities of being a good person, then no, I don't want to date him. Nowadays women need higher standards if they don't want to be used.

[Asker]

But the higher standards a mam meets means he's a value man and high value men have options and its pretty hilarious to think he won't exercise those options. And then women wonder why there aren't any good men. Well its because they're average looking and overlooked for the higher tier

[unknownforever]

I don't completely understand what you said, sorry. But I have seen many women who did not have "high" standards, and they all got treated like crap. This is because they didn't know what they valued, what they wanted and what was wrong on the relationship. I don't have high standards to the point of craziness. But just of the guy being a good man. It doesn't matter if he earns a lot, but as long as he is a determined worker. He doesn't need to be good looking, he needs to be caring. So by having these "high" standards, it allows me when to see when there are red flags in a relationship. People that have high standards in looks, I don't understand. Same as guys. The only standards I've heard from men all come from looks. My standards coke from their personality and his much of a good person they are. I'm not looking for perfection or a guy who doesn't make mistakes, but someone who has a really good heart

[Asker]

Im saying that if a man is high value which is the man most women are chasing, he's going to have those options and exercise those options. You're gonna have to share him essentially. And then again women wonder where are the good men and well they're invisible to women. Women don't want average. You're in the rarity here by the way

[user1516]

It’s not about the physical it’s about what they bring to the table. If he’s a jerk and has good looks, he’s no use to me. I’d want to be with someone who is in the same mentality level as I am. I’d want him to treat me with respect and my family. I’d want him to be kind and generous. I’d want him to be sweet and funny. The list can go on about his personality and values. But the physical, no. We’re not in high school anymore so the high school jock is no longer appealing to us. Think stability 😄.

[user1516]

Also! His goals and aspirations play a big part for us as well. We can’t be with a guy who just doesn’t have his life together. It’d be unbalanced.

[Asker]

Most girls are very different from.. And a lot of girls say looks don't matter but they're lying or just want to look politically correct. But most women today have high standards for men. I already listed to one girl on here what most women generally are looking for

[Asker]

You*

[user1516]

That’s because looks really don’t matter. If you were attracted to them and they were attracted to you it doesn’t mean you weren’t attractive enough or they weren’t physically attracted to you, it just means she didn’t feel that connection you felt to begin with. You both have to have a connection it doesn’t matter if one of you is unattractive or both of you are attractive. And even if you were both physically attracted to one another I bet you anything that if you both didn’t have that chemistry and connection it just wasn’t going to work out whether you wanted to or not.

[user1516]

And they weren’t attracted to you*

[user1516]

So please don’t blame yourself.

[Asker]

You seem like a nice person. Im not gonna say anything more. Good day ma'am

[TwinkleLily5]

@user1516 you are correct

[alleon]

Never used to. I’d gauge a man on what I could sense about him. I’m pretty good with vibes people give off (most times). I wasn’t overly picky. But honestly. I think the older someone gets the more they realize they need from someone more than want. And I don’t have a problem being single until I feel that I’ve found the one who feels right. I’m good, relaxed, independent, adventurous. I just need a man to support me (emotionally, or in my passions/pursuits) be there when I need someone to vent/cry to. And who doesn’t tell me what to do or not do. A friend to have fun with, and a lover. Also of course trust and I have to feel like I can depend on them ( no questions asked that they’d be there if I needed them to because I wouldn’t be asking often, so you’d know I need you)

[MsMJprodigy]

No but there are certain things I look for in a partner. For example, I want to date someone who is loyal, have things in common with, and is there when I need someone to talk to. And I expect myself to be able to do that same thing. These are bare minimum things

[Asker]

Okay but when it comes to physical standards, could you say that women have higher or s specific set of standards that most men can't meet?

[Ayanna240]

no i don't have high standards. im not expecting him to be hot, I'm not expecting him to be rich. I'm not expecting him to be at least 6 feet.

but it seems like most guys are so boring nowadays that its unusual to see a guy with any charisma at all.

[Asker]

"no i don't have high standards. im not expecting him to be hot, I'm not expecting him to be rich. I'm not expecting him to be at least 6 feet". You're in the rare minority because most women want those things

[Ayanna240]

i've seen guys as short as 5'4'' get married.

[Asker]

Exceptions don't disprove the rule ma'am

[Ayanna240]

maybe i should tell you that TONS of men under 6 ft get married and have kids. TONS

[Asker]

Because they're good looking and are financially stable

[Ayanna240]

only losers without charisma would need to be financially stable and good looking to get women.

[Asker]

Or they don't meet women's high standards

[Little_Bumblebee]

I don't have a list like you are probably thinking of.

I have things I know I need in a partner, some things I know I find attractive, and such.
Like someone, I can talk to and spend time together. Someone who isn't a complete couch potato. Morality and good values. Someone where our lives and personalities fit well together.

I have more but overall it's about chemistry and vibe. For me, it's not a checklist of precise height, body composition, or his salary.

[NicoletteXO]

My standard is simply this: I need to feel a full-systems 'fuck yes' to this man - mentally, physically and spiritually. And I need him to feel the same for me. That's it. The minutia - like education, status, looks etc are non-issues when we both feel that level of alignment with one another.

[RP_Blackburn]

I don't think so but then I haven't had much need to make standards. So far I just have:

1. Same religion
2. At least as hygienic as I am (very basic)
3. Have 3+ things in common we can talk about

[Asker]

Most women are very very different compared to you then

[RP_Blackburn]

Most men are different from you, too.

[Asker]

We do share one thing. We don't have high standards or expect perfection

[RP_Blackburn]

Hey bro cool. I have that in common with women too.

[Asker]

"I have that in common with women too" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[RP_Blackburn]

Oh sorry, i meant "I have that in common with the women I know." I don't know about the rest of them yeah, but every woman in my life so far has not had high standards.

[Asker]

We're seeing two different realities. Who is reality is? right is subjective

[RP_Blackburn]

Sure. Or some women have high standards and some don't, because I've seen some don't and you've seen some do.

[Asker]

Yeah I've been seeing women only date a specific kind of man where the other 80% are invisible to women. That's my reality

[RP_Blackburn]

Yes, and your reality is part of a bigger, whole reality, which includes everybody else's reality. And in mine, the women just date some guy who wants to date them.

[Asker]

Let's agree to disagree then. Because again our realities our very different

[RP_Blackburn]

Yes and so are our neighborhoods probably. That doesn't mean they can't exist in the same world though. I'm so confused how you don't understand this.

[Asker]

Understand what 😒

[RP_Blackburn]

That 2 different people in 2 different places can have 2 very different experiences, and both those experiences are part of the larger picture of the world.

There is no need for one of us to be right and the other be wrong. There is no need for our 2 experiences to exist only in isolation from each other. Both of us have true experiences, those experiences just aren't the whole picture on their own. They work together (with everyone else's) to make the big picture of reality.

[Asker]

Okay i get it

[kc_4308]

Yes I have a list because I refuse to dates guy that can’t match what I’m looking for- there are important things that is a must when it comes to dating

[Asker]

Like what?

[kc_4308]

Traditional
Gentlemen
A man who wants a long term relationship
Commitment
Marriage

This is not the average American man

[kc_4308]

So I don’t even date American men it’s pointless

[Asker]

Is it worth to try and date women since it feels like their standards are rising more and more

[kc_4308]

I don’t blame them especially the ones who have standards

[kc_4308]

Most of you men don’t want anything women with standards should venture out cultural wise to find suitable men

[Asker]

You don't blame who?

[kc_4308]

Women with high standards

[Asker]

Men dont need perfection. Women want these high value men which have options and exercise those options and then women complain that there arr no good men. Truth be told there are a lot of good men. The problem is they're average men. Women don't want average men. They want the top 10 to 20% of men while the other 80% of men are invisible

[kc_4308]

I don’t want American men most aren’t in my list of standards

[kc_4308]

Wants are he must be 5”7-6’0

[kc_4308]

Blue or green eyes and artsy

[Asker]

Well tbh you're talking a nihilstic person that has a controversial view of love and relationships. So I'm not surprised by what you say

[kc_4308]

I come from a traditional family

[Asker]

Okay and?

[kc_4308]

This is my normal

[kc_4308]

Just a lot of guys ain’t it

[Asker]

That's why the black pill 💀 exist

[kc_4308]

Good take as many pills as you want any man proclaiming he’s a part of a movement 🚩 must avoid onto men overseas who don’t think and speak like this

[kc_4308]

Stay the hell away from women like me pls

[Asker]

Did i say i wanted to date you? Calm your ego down lady

[kc_4308]

No but you’re part of a movement oh no 🙈 lol

[kc_4308]

Hehe 😉.. rolls 👀

[Asker]

What does me being part of the movement have to do with you thinking i wanted to date you?

[kc_4308]

Why did you mention it thinking I wanted you

[kc_4308]

Idc if you are black pill that doesn’t phase me

[Asker]

Okay 👍

[reginaphalange98]

Ectually, doesn't matter man or woman, people have a type. When we dream about someone, we want some spesific qualities about our imaginary partner. But someone comes and you found him/her very attractive even if he doesn't have any of these qualities. As a result these high standarts are just words. At the end of the day, the important thing is chemistry ☺️

[Asker]

You do know men have a wider variety of what they find attractive compared to women right? Most women now in days want a specific kind of men. That's why the 80/20 rule exist

[CordetteMonet]

I don't think my standards are high.
Here are the standards I have for men I want to date:
1. Kindness
2. Decent Hygiene
3. Similar interests
4. Ability to have good conversations & communication with me.
5. Loyalty
6. Similar core values
7. Not too far in age.
That's all I can think about.

[CordetteMonet]

think of*.

[Asker]

The general standards of women

· Tall at least 6ft
· Good jawline & abs/muscular
· Perfectly straight white teeth
· No mental health issues
· Good personality
· Confidence
· Financially stable
· High status
· Has how own place & car
· Is liberal & deomcrat

[CordetteMonet]

I don't really care about height; it doesn't matter whether they're taller/shorter/the same height as me. I actually don't really care about physical appearance too much. And I don't really pay attention to teeth too much. I just expect them not to be really bad. Like, decently taken care of. I can't really blame a person if they would not want to date someone with mental health issues. I've done it before, and it is way more challenging than dating a mentally healthy person. But I'm not opposed to it, and I would do it again. It's worth the challenge for them. I don't care too much for confidence, but I also do not mind it. It's okay if they aren't financially stable, but I expect them to have a job, or at least try to get one. Status doesn't really matter. I don't really care whether they have their own place or car. And I don't really care that much about politics, so I don't really have any expectations for them in that area.

[Asker]

Oh lord if i had a dollar for everytime i hear a woman say looks don't matter or appearence isn't that important, id be as rich as bill gates. And again you're in the minority. Most women aren't like you

[zaharuh]

I don't have like a long list but everyone has their preferences.

[Anonymous]

Not really, just want someone who isn't boring, takes care of his looks, and is taller than me (im 5'3 so thats easy to find).

[Asker]

Most men especially average guys will tell you that women have higher standards and it feels like women demand perfection. Which they're entitled to but a lot of men will be single for a really long time

[Opinion Owner]

It's because a good amount of men have really high standards themselves, could be why they end up single. Or because theyre just afraid of rejection

[Asker]

Trust me mosy men dont have ridiculous standards. Men dont need perfect ion or close to perfection. Society just perpetuates this lie but men don't have high standards

[Opinion Owner]

Most of the men I've seen want perfect looking blondes with blue/green eyes and perfect bodies. Makes us brunettes with brown eyes feel terrible lol. Men do have unrealistic standards sometimes.

[Asker]

They're in the minority and trust me they say that but they won't turn down other girls. Men have realistic expectations. Average women are the most desirable but women think that only a select few of men are desirable and these men are not average looking. They're above. Men are also more forgiving when it comes to looks now compared to women

[Opinion Owner]

Women are often hard on themselves, looks wise, could be why they have high standards for men too.

[Asker]

Or biological reasons too. I do tell other men though that are angry or frustated towards women that even though women have really high standards and are very picky that at the end of the day we're not entitled to love or relationships. That's life. Life can be a mean Bitch but we have to learn to adapt to the cruel world and just find purpose in other things in life besides women

[Anonymous]

YES. and everyone will hate on this comment, probably.
But that's called self respect.

[Asker]

You're entitled to your standards. But can we stop saying men have the ridiculous standards?

[Opinion Owner]

Every individual person has their own standards and they might be completely different.

[Asker]

Most men don't have ridiculous standards though. Its actually women that do and again you're entitled to have any standards you want but stop calling men shallow or picky

[Opinion Owner]

Where did I state that

[Asker]

Society and a lot of women say that about men which is bullshit

[Opinion Owner]

So what are your standards, let's examine :)

[Asker]

Just have a good personality
Be supportive and you can be average looking or hell even below average looking if i really like you as a person. That's all i have

[Asker]

Those all the standards i need

[Opinion Owner]

Nice you are open to a true love it seems.

[Asker]

I think most men are the same. We're not looking for models or hot women like a lot of other women claim we are. Times have changed and i think men are now the ones that can look past the flaws more than women can

[Starwitch23]

If asking for a good guy, well settled, nice and caring is high standard then I don't want to date.

[Starwitch23]

Also loyal.

[Asker]

That's not most women's standards. You're in the minority. Most women demand more than that

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a list at all
But it seem like men do have a list for me

[Asker]

Trust me most men don't have high standards

[Toldol2]

Yes I like men who take care of themselve

[Asker]

Take care of themselves how?

[Hangry06]

Yes i have high personality standards

[Asker]

I feel bad for a guy with Aspergers trying to date you

[Hangry06]

Ya keep on feeling bad

[Asker]

Ill bring a violin to play a sad tune

[Caramelpie]

As long as he can crash me on bed that’s all that matters to me.

[Asker]

That's irrelevant

[Caramelpie]

It is if you understand the meaning.
Means looks doesn’t matter here as long as he knows what he is going to do on bed to me which means no it’s not high.

[Asker]

"Looks don't matter here" do you smell that? It smells like bullshit laying around somewhere

[Caramelpie]

Hey if you are angry at woman take your bullshit somewhere else or stop trolling. If you don’t like my answer and you have low confidence thats your problem not mine.

[Asker]

Not trolling just calling out bullshit. There's nothing wrong with that. Take care sweet heart 👋

[abby17dmv]

No high standards

[Asker]

Do most women have higher standards besides you?

[Brown-Kitty]

Yes kind of. lol

[Asker]

So what are average looking men supposed to do?

[Brown-Kitty]

Try his luck and never give up. Sometimes you suddenly fall in love with someone you can never think of or expect.

[Asker]

If you're poor, just buy a house

[15_Debo]

Depends...