What are your standards for someone to date you?

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My standards are:

1. (The most important one) MUST, MUST have the same religion. He has to be roman Catholic. A moral one too. Any other religion and I will not be with you. But if he was interested in converting that is another story. 😊

2. He needs to be a virgin, I don't want a p1mp man who has had s3x before marriage. ❌ Disgusting. But, if he regrets it and has slept with one girl only, maybe it could pass. 😊

3. He must be willing to have as many children as possible till one of us goes infertile. God says to fill up the whole earth. 🌍 ❤️

4. We need to get along and have compatible personalities. 👍

5. My father needs to like him, I will not ruin my relationship with my father for any other guy. My father is the first man in my life who has taken care of me and raised me. 💕

6. He has to find me attractive. I am average looking, but if he finds me unattractive the marriage will be miserable. 😢

7. He doesn't leave me and fall in love with my younger more beautiful sister like every other guy.🤲

8. He's kind.

9. Instead of leaving when things get hard we talk about it and find a solution together.

10. And finally, he's masculine.

I hope I find a guy like this soon. This is my dream husband. I know I have a lot of standards, hopefully I didn't offend anyone. Height, money or looks doesn't matter, I could date a guy shorter than me, poor or an ugly guy. As long as he's healthy and meets up to the other standards on the list above that's all I need. 😊👍💕

That's all, what's your standards? 😊

FinalFantasyBro · Accepted Answer

I honestly have a pretty big standards in terms of finding the right woman. I don't really like just anyone I am very particular in my certain type I will give a run down on my idea girl.

1. I love my girl to be independent, in the future I want to eventually leave out of my mom and dad place and become a very independent male so I think having a independent female right by my side would be phenomenal. I don't want her to baby me and do everything for me and I don't want to baby her and do everything for her we are both grown man and grown woman let please act like one.

2. A partnership this still fall under the category of us being independent but I want the both of us to have a equal say on the relationship I don't want one of those guy's led relationship or girl's led relationship, if she the kinda lady who expect me to make all the decisions or have me being the sole person contributing on the relationship I ain't going to fully commit. The same is with vice versa I don't want to date or marry a very bossy bitch who want to control everything about me. I want a girl who doesn't mind challenging my ideas but still sometimes want to respect them and continue on with my ideas. Basically some days we do things that I find nice and some days we do things that she finds nice, basically let be equal I don't understand what is so bad about taking turns?

3. I don't mind if my future girl has hobbies that doesn't match with mines like my hobbies are playing video games, cooking, baking and someday making my own soaps. So if she has the same hobbies as me sweet or if she has entirely different hobbies also cool I won't judge. But I still want to at least try one, or two, or three activities that we both can corporate on we are still a couple let not be total strangers. Me and my future girl may not know we probably end up finding a new hobby that we both enjoy doing together, basically we have our own lives but still sometimes do activities with the both of us.

4. Non judgmental I have a particular sort of fashion that I enjoy or certain activities that I like so I don't want to date someone who will constantly bash me for things that I like. The same is with vice versa I hope she has enough self respect to not have me constantly judge her particular taste's. I don't mind giving each other some criticism or ideas so we don't embarrassed ourselves or put ourselves in a bad spot but there is a difference between actual criticism and helping each other and being a dick towards each other. Let help each other grow not put the other down.

5. No sexism, no racism, no homophobia, or no xenophobia I don't date girls who believes she is better than others.

6. Despite most popular beliefs I don't find mean girls to be attractive while yes they physically gorgeous but their personalities make them ugly I couldn't imagine dating a girl who thinks that highly of herself while belittling others around her. Because someday she might think of little of me and start insulting me too I prefer nice woman and no not the phony nice girls who has mood swings and switch personalities very quickly but actual friendly women.

7. Let each make our own money I don't mind if the other help each other out in case the other is kinda sort but I don't want a girl constantly depending on me for money and I don't want to date a girl who believes in something ridiculous as toxic masculinity because I don't want to depend on her for money. Remember when I started that we are both grown man and woman I want a girl who can be happy that she made her own money and just imagine we can each have our own bank accounts this way the other don't think have to worry about losing money or being kept out of making money to purchase what he or she needs or want. Now if my future girl suggest that we should help the other sometimes in buying something in case if I come up short or she comes up short that is different and yes that what is a partnership is but fully being dependent on the other don't like it let each own our own money.

8. No toxicity I understand that couples fight that is normal but I want us to actually compromise and not just be one of those annoying fighting couples I hate those I seem to never understood the point of toxic fighting couples that isn't what I am looking for.

9. If we do move in together I want to have a equal say around the house or apartment non of those relationships where one gender gets most of the spaces and the other get one or two rooms the house is big enough for the both of us why not share it you know implement some of her ideas and implement some of my ideas this way we both win.

As you can tell I have thought a lot of finding my idea girl I don't know if this is considered realistic or unrealistic but I prefer to date a girl who believes in true equality not the kinda girl who believes in fake equality I don't want one of those annoying feminist women who believes in women supremacy and men are all evil and should bow down to women. But I also not interested in those pathetic traditional women who expect that us men should always run everything in that women is only our property who should just cook, clean, and be baby makers. I want a relationship that is equal to the both of us because us men need women and you women need us men no gender is better than the other.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I've written this before, so this is a copy-paste.

These are the traits and qualities that make up my "Dream Girl" partner.

First, the mandatory things. She MUST be heterosexual, MUST be monogamous, and MUST be politically sane. Loyalty and respect are also mandatory! These are completely unnegotiable.

Kindness is important to me. I am intelligent, have a sense of humor, and strong work ethic, so I expect the same in a partner, and at least ONE of these three are required. Being accepting and open-minded are kinda important for me, because I am like this as well (to a degree; some things I simply will not be open-minded to, like degeneracy).

Being patient, artistic, or nerdy are not requirements, but are strongly desired and would be very appreciated.

Besides the obvious that she MUST be a 100% biological female, she also needs to be feminine and look, dress, and act like a woman. A butch or masculine female is not someone I'm willing to be with. Her having impeccable hygiene is mandatory, too.

As far as her actual body goes, I'd very much like her to be curvy, plus-sized, full-figured, or BBW, as that's my physical type and really the only superficial thing I ask for; big boobs, nice thick thighs, a fat booty, and so on. A great smile and good teeth is also a turn on, as well.

As for the more flexible things, I VERY much would like a girl who’s tall, which in my opinion, would be at least 5'9"/175 cm. Her being a redhead (or even a blonde), regardless of ethnicity, is very much a turn-on, too. Lastly, I'd like her to be between 20 and 34 years old, as I don't like older women as much.

PERSONALITY:

1. (Mandatory) Strictly heterosexual
2. (Mandatory) Strictly monogamous
3. (Mandatory) Politically moderate; not too liberal or conservative
4. (Mandatory) Loyal/faithful
5. (Mandatory) Respectful/classy/ladylike

6. Kind/positive
7. Intelligent
8. Strong sense of humor
9. Strong work ethic
10. Accepting/nonjudgmental
11. Open-minded

12. (Optional) Patient; not easily offended or bothered
13. (Optional) Artistic
14. (Optional) Nerdy; into video games or superheroes

PHYSICAL:

15. (Mandatory) Strictly female
16. (Mandatory) Feminine style
17. (Mandatory) Good hygiene

18. Curvaceous; big boobs, big booty, thick thighs, etc.
19. Great smile and good teeth

20. (Optional) Tall: 5'9" to 6'5" (6'2" to 6'5" is ideal)
21. (Optional) Redhead (or strawberry blonde, or blonde)
22. (Optional) Young: 23 to 30 is ideal.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Respectful/Sweet/Goofy, Nurturing/Caring/Determined, Talkative/Goofy/Courageous, Faithful/Humble/Romantic, Close in Age, Believes in God, Great Listener, Doesn’t Smoke, Hardly Drinks, Wants Kids (in 20s), All-Genre Music/Movie Lover, Theme Park Enthusiast, Fluent in English, Few Sexual Partners (Less than 5), No Indoor Pets.

To sum it up, I look for the opposite sex version of myself. Similar in terms of smile, age, background, sense of humor, beliefs, interests, goals, and mindset. Hopefully he’s a lonewolf. The only differences i would like is that he's the opposite sex, taller, less stubborn, and a better listener

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

So my biggest standard at this point is that I need to be able to benefit from the man I’m talking to. He can be a sweet talker, I can have fuzzy butterflies for him but if he isn’t trying to be a guy to accompany me while I improve my life, I don’t want him.

SlothySlob · Answer

I'm getting older by the day so I'd say, the most important thing would be that we're both willing to compromise for the other and that we both want this.
I think if we both hold those two ideal, trust, loyalty, love, happiness, fun, they just come rushing in.

Let's see how I'd stack up to your points.
1. Agnostic, but I fear I'd be just constantly disappointing you there
2. Check.
3. Haven't really thought about it yet. I think having a big family would be fun.
4. We'd need to talk first.
5. If I marry you, he's the first person who's permission I must get.
6. I agree. If we don't attract each other it would be a lifetime of misery.
7. Ha ha, I guess that happens to people.
8. Meet kindness with kindness.
9. With whomever I am, I believe, out of loyalty/respect to them I must tough it through.
10. Working in it.

HighValue · Answer

18 to 30 (over 30 equals no interest), hasn't done any hook ups or ONS, doesn't do any drugs (no weed either), doesn't drink alcohol or drinks very rarely and is willing to quit, doesn't smoke, no kids from past relationships, but does want some with the right person, no contact with any ex, once in a relationship won't be posting revealing and flirty pictures online for attention, will be very affectionate with me and she initiates the affection sometimes too, doesn't have an immoral job or one that requires her to spend multiple days away from home (traveling), no tattoos or very few (each tattoo makes her less attractive to me), will exercise every week just like I will to stay healthy and in shape for long term, is not hypocritical. Basically don't have the morals of modern democrats.

AmeerX · Answer

1. I want a virgin.
2. Doesn't care about religion but she shouldn't be super religious. I am a Muslim.
3. Kind and sweet.
4. Not supermodel but not a tramp either. She should be average body and beautiful face to look at.
5. She needs to be respectful about my parents and siblings but she doesn't need my parents permission to marry me. I will respect her parents and try to get permission to marry her.
6. She should be a kids friendly and loving person. I want many children 4-6))
7. She should be at least average intelligence. I will make her happy

molonski2 · Answer

OHHHHHH Wholly Sht ! - there is crazy criteria there hahaha - you are a control freak , you need to get a pet , relationships just dont work with all that criteria..

And Religion? Forget it , especially Roman Catholic , I was born one , saw the light when I was about 11 years old.

mio888811122 · Answer

My standards are these following things:

She has the be a virgin.

She has to have a beautiful face.

She needs to have long straight hair.

She needs to be between 4'11-5'2.

She needs to be a stay at home wife.

She needs to have a small nose, I don't want a masculine woman.

She needs to shave armpits, arms and legs.

She needs to be submissive.

She needs to be smart.

She needs to be kind.

She needs to be slim but have a big butt.

She needs to be at least a B cup.

She needs to have blue or green eyes, hazel and amber is fine too as long as it's not brown. (I have colored eyes and I want my children to have that as well)

She needs to be white.

AsaKyo · Answer

My only standards are don't have a history of being a man whore, cheater, and an abuser and that is all

Anonymous · Answer

Holy shit Batman. Good luck w that list. I think at this point only Disney can make such a man. My criteria include:

1. Pretty (feminine) but can be a tomboy

2. Can cook, keep a clean house. Doesn’t mean I require her to do it all the time I do both thanks to my mom. But it’s good to know how to do both

3. She’s submissive. Not in a bad way. Meaning she trust me to make decisions sometimes on my own for us as a couple.

4. She likes funny movies

Anonymous · Answer

Mentally stable  I can see the religion point but honestly I have seen religious people go craY

Googlemyahoo · Answer

1. Not be religious (contributes to #4 sanity) 2. Loyal 3. Employed 4. Sane, no mental issues depression, no past trauma (usually religious people) 5. No kids 6. Fastidious  7. Genuine

bamesjond0069 · Answer

22 or younger Christian Hasn't slept around much but virgin is best. Believes in polygyny and gets along with my current girlfriends. Not fat! Got to be hot like 7 or up in looks.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Its a given that I'm attracted so other than looks honesty, loyalty, respect and someone who is fun to talk to.

Guy13 · Answer

equally yoked.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Mutual attraction. Chemistry. Respect. Loyalty

Anonymous · Answer

Are you Mormon?

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