Should you give someone a third chance?

[Anonymous]

[Heartache0405]

No. I used to give second chances. I gave my ex a second chance when she cheated on me and when I left her she got with him but he ended up in jail for a week and she wanted to get back together with me. Only lasted a week though because she said she would get back with him in a heartbeat when he got out. He got out and I left her again because she wanted him back. I don’t give second chances anymore after that and after everything I did for her...

[Asker]

I can relate with you. Don't take her back. Sit back and you will see she will regret her decision.

[Heartache0405]

That was 6 years ago. Over the course of that time she had a baby with another dude, dumped him and is now with some other guy and is non-legally married to him. I haven’t spoken to her in 4 years. The last time I spoke to her she encouraged me to chase after this girl with a panic disorder I was friends with in college. She ended up falsely accusing me of stalking and other outrageous things... so I just don’t date, or do relationships at all.

[Heartache0405]

Oh yeah, and while she was telling me to chase this girl with the panic disorder and I told her what had happened she threatened to call the police on me even though she was living in Virginia

[OlderAndWiser]

Why did you give them a second chance?

[Asker]

Because I loved him but I guess it was a waste of my time

[OlderAndWiser]

So if a SECOND chance was a waste of time, then a THIRD chance will be. . . a huge waste of time.

[Asker]

That's true. Do you think he will regret losing me? Before this he said he regretted breaking up with me in the first time. will he ever realise how much I loved him?

[OlderAndWiser]

It may take him years to understand his loss.

[Asker]

I really hope he realize that it will bring peace to my soul.

[OlderAndWiser]

As long as you care about his opinion, you are not ready to move forward. When you are ready, you won't care what he thinks.

[Asker]

That's true I'm trying my best but you know it's not easy. But thanks for your kind words

[OlderAndWiser]

Of course it isn't easy to get over a break up. I've done it a few times.

Breaking up: you may want to die. . . but you won't, so do yourself a favor and deal with it! ↗

[kyliesz]

Probably not a second chance yes but once its third i feel like it will keep going 4th, 5th.. 10th chance. This is what my experience always have been. When someone is needing a third chance i stop taking them seriously and dont see them as ideal partner anymore.

[bones_20]

Totally up to you. But if they fuck up again after giving a second chance, then they are just gonna keep doing it.

[Asker]

I agree but can you tell how to make them regret taking me for granted?

[bones_20]

I feel like I need more information on the situation here. But if it’s happened multiple times, then chances are they don’t care and won’t regret it unfortunately.

[Asker]

He broke up with me then I blocked him everywhere then he created a fake profile and texted me for almost 2 years during no contact I didn't replied any of them. Finally I replied and we started dating again he said he was sorry and to give him another chance. I did gave him a chance then slowly he started acting distance and we started fighting. Then suddenly he broke up with me saying he doesn't have feelings anymore but wanted to stay friends. I tried to solve our problems but he said me to move on. But also said if it's meant to be he will come back to me. Then I told him to not text me anymore and he didn't text me since. Will he regret losing me? When we were dating he told me that nobody cared for him as much I did and we were best friends. How could he just move on like this.

[bones_20]

That’s one big complicated mess. He made a fake profile to talk to you? Yeah this is one of those situations I would say definitely fuck that person off from your life. I’m usually one for giving a second chance but I definitely wouldn’t have in that situation. Find someone who isn’t crazy and actually wants and respects and loves you.

[Asker]

I also think the same because he isn't worth the pain. But I really want him to regret. Because I sacrificed a lot for him. Like whenever he broke up with me he kept sending me texts. like if he broke up with me why would he say things like if it's meant to be he will come back. Like I hate to say this but it gives me false hope. He says me to move on and find someone but also says if we are meant to be we will be together. Like why is he doing this to me?

[bones_20]

He’s a manipulative twat.
I understand you wanting him to regret his behaviour and wanting closure, but honestly it’s not even worth it. Just move on with your life and don’t waste another second on him.

[Asker]

I'm trying my best to forget him but I really hope I get the justice and he regret all of this. Anyways thank you for making me feel better. Take love!

[bones_20]

No worries.
Best of luck to you 😌

[Honesttguy]

To get closer you have to remond yourself you are self respecting, tell him you know what fuk u dude no fuking chances for if its ment to happen you come back f that shit. If u tell him this you eill have that closure and he will get to feel that regret thing. You eill feel better and not left with false hope. You will feel your own power coming back in your hands.

[Honesttguy]

Closure*

[lilascarf]

You shouldn't even give a second chance

[Wise4myage]

I sure as hell wouldn't.

[Asker]

Will they ever regret losing someone who loved them unconditionally?

[Wise4myage]

I guess that's possible.

[PeterSmith1983]

Depends how bad it was with his first 2 chances

[Asker]

As a guy what do you think that will he ever regret losing me?

[PeterSmith1983]

I dont know you... so can't say

[Progressiveness8]

If i. love them deeply definitely

[swettannie]

lol no

[fireforeffect]

No. Maybe a second but never a third.

[elizamichale1]

well i have

[Asker]

Did you regret it?

[elizamichale1]

Not as much because it worked for a while but eventually we broke up
But the reason i dont regret is that i just tend to believe others a bit sooner than most people and also because i want to do everything on my part... had i not given that 3rd chance i would have regretted that it might have worked if i was a little compromising

[Asker]

Why would you regretted? didn't you already gave him a second chance?

[elizamichale1]

coz he was into me too much n wanted me to give us another chance... and if i had not then i would have thought that it may have worked out if i gave him one more chance

[Asker]

Nah people don't change. the more you give chances to them the less they will respect you and will take your love for granted. Lesson learned

[elizamichale1]

well yes u r true n this is what happens most of the times but sometimes people do realize and change themselves

[Agape93]

Nope

[sheikalana]

nope.

[QuietRunner]

no not at all