Should I give him a third chance?

[Anonymous]

my ex was sending flirting messages to a girl about six months ago,i broke it off with him but after a month decided to give him a chance. the same thing has happened again with a different girl.i have moved out of our apartment. at the moment I am getting on with my life.does he deserve a third chance?i think this is the love talking:)

[Anonymous]

f*** love, use your head

dont give him another chance. if you do, you'll be giving him a 3rd chance to cheat on you again.

think of it like this: had you not caught him sending flirty messages 6 months ago, he'd still be doing it behind your back. after a month you decided to give him another chance and he did it again. he is not going to stop, all he will do is probably either stop for a short period of time if he even stops at all...and get better at hiding his lies when he does it again. why should you have to constantly intercept cheating and catch him talking to other girls? guys don't just talk to other girls behind their gfs back for fun. most likely he is getting physical (or trying to) as well. you don't want that. you can do better he had his chance and still messed up. don't let him play you for a fool

[WeAreOnlyHuman]

This is almost the exact thing that has happened to me. :] I'm sorry to say the third time was the biggest mistake I've ever made. ( I am so sorry it sounds harsh!) So, let's look at your situation in a different way: He sent flirty messages to TWO girls TWICE! What are the odds he's going to do it again? Pretty good.. I know it feels so good to love someone, but you shouldn't have feelings for him. :( I'm really sorry, but he seems really awful. Someone will love you for everything about you, but he's passing up this opportunity with you! [: Try and move on, hun! You need more positive people in your life. :D I hope it works out! :)

[Asker]

Yes I totally agree with u! I don't know why I even had to ask the question.this time round I feel so much stronger,i won't fall for anymore of his bull!!!!i have learned a hard lesson never give a boyfriend a second chance because if he can do it once he will do it again! onwards and upwards for me:)

[WeAreOnlyHuman]

Yaaaayy!! Good luck!! ^_^ I'm so glad you feel stronger and better!! :D

[Asker]

This is so tough:( I have changed my number so he can't contact me but he has now started sending me messages on Facebook saying how much he loves me:( he also says it is killing him not knowing what I am doing or how I am feeling.how do I keep strong?? I have not responded to any of his messages.i miss him so much even after all he has put me through:( I am trying so hard to keep strong but reading d messages makes me feel weak to him:(

[WeAreOnlyHuman]

Imagine you're in the ocean, having a good ol' time. Then, all of sudden, you're slowly drifting away from shore and in a whirlpool! Aaah! See, without him, you can have fun in the sun, but these messages he's sending you are the whirlpool - he's trying to get you back. You *can* reply, but be firm and friendly at the same time. I'm guessing you don't totally want to shut him out of your life, so just try and be friends, see where that takes you. :) Good luck! Stay strong! :]