I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend. I hardly even have close friends. I am not an evil person. I would give my shirt off my back for anyone that needs it.
Yes, I am looking for a woman without a romantic past, but I cannot even get a woman to talk to me in general.
I am performing poorly on dating apps, even Match. I have been involved with many of them and they don't yield me any good results. I am growing more and more frustrated. So many women view my profile, but none of them actually like me or message me. I have sent out a ton of messages with no results.
I just don't get how I can be this inept when it comes to women.An image of me on Match as my main profile image
Something serious wrong with me
I am just too average
Just bad luck
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Oh, I make good money as a software developer. I am in a great career field that is expanding like wildfire.
I don't 100% get it. How can I be THIS inept when it comes to women?
Look at yourself like the move, Field of Dreams…if you build it, they will come.
Invest in your self:- Keep stacking chips, reduce debt, and hold diversified investments - Work on your professional network - aim for an officer position - Go to the best gym in town (where professionals workout) and connect with other men in different sectors - this will be your crew to keep you on your purpose and maintaining your masculine (not toxic) frame - Attend religious services and join single’s activities (if it’s your thing) - Volunteer for things that matter to you - aim for an officer position - Humbly place activities on your social media and LinkedIn
U could give it a try again. A hint , u could go to the mall check around for a girl who seem nice and mature , pretend you're looking for something or a shop in the mall and ask her then when she replies u could just thank her and ask what she came for then shell reply. Afterwards just ask her to have a drink with you and that you approached her customer she seemed nice... If she accepts , I could give u a hint on what to do next else if, u could just thank her for showing u what u looking for , maybe a eatry or somewhere refreshing... I'm helping cus it's not usually easy for most tech guys u could give my suggestion a try. Good luck
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Well it sounds like your expanding your horizens a bit that's as start, lol. I'm not sure how the dating profiles work on these apps but is there some cool hobbies or things that you can put on there that would attract a girls attention as well as the picture. Like do you play piano or guitar, do you like to go to concerts, are you interesting in traveling, what kind of volunteer work have you done etc (I know covid made all of this difficult for a while). I can't speak for all women but I know that many your age are looking to be in a long term relationship like a guy they can talk to so it helps if you have something in common with them.
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You focus too much on the goal. First thing you got to do is not care. Secondly you got to not care what women think. Thirdly you need to learn how to lie. Like make it become second nature. Fourthly you need to create the new you you need to become a hunter... a hunter of pussy. Everything has to be geared towards that goal. Rejection doesn't matter anymore. Use what works and discard what doesn't. Now get out there and slay them b****es. Now if you're reading this and can't get on board with this. Then just accept where you're at in life. Because you either the the dog or you're the fire hydrant in life. There is no middle ground. Sorry.
Use social sites dedicated to things you are interested in. Try meeting different women who have similar interests. Try focusing on going out with women to events/venues dedicated to these interests. Like are you into classic movies? Sci-Fi? Are you an animal lover?
Dude, you seem smart. You got this. Just come up with a plan and execute it.
What's wrong with you is that your standards are too unreasonable. You are incapable of realizing that someone can love you completely if they at any point in their past loved someone else. Until you accept that extremely obvious fact you will never be able to find a girlfriend.
Sorry you're having difficulties. But online dating isn't advisable, it's a very shallow platform and it's progressively getting more and more niched to only work for the hottest of the hot guys. Good looks are a gateway as they say, and without above average attractiveness women are less likely to give a profile online a chance. Other than that, you might be a case of trying too hard. Your pictures give off a strained look.
Your profile picture is kind of off-putting. What kind of hobbies do you have? Not a lot of men seem to understand that to get women to want to live a life with you, you have to live a life they want to live.
it's over for you dude. forget it. You live in a time in which women have the most astronomical standards. If you have to struggle to find someone then you're playing a rigged game.
