Is it weird if a 19 year old dates a 30 year old?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

Other (Comment below)

[DaveJord]

I know lots of guys and girls will disagree with me. But just because it legal does not make it morally or ethically right. I can't really judge people to harshly for not agree with that.

But as a guy who was once 30 years old, I would tell any 19 year old women to steer clear of this type of guy. There is just something wrong with any type of guy that would date a teenager. But it s huge fetish thing it seems these days.

But he is obviously so much more experienced in life at 30, and it is so easy to take advantage of a young person like that. I have know so many women who have fallen into this trap, and at 19 they never would of agreed with me at the time, but at 30 they say they should of listened... because that guy destroyed her and it took well into her 20's to get past the experience.

[Redstang88]

Exactly. I’m 25 and even I couldn’t imagine dating a girl that much younger.

[slatyb]

It's not weird, but I'm leery of such relationships. I've known a few woman of 18 or 19 or 20 that got involved with men around 30. All those relationships ended badly. They had a baby, and the father was no help. Instead of one baby, they had two. They all ended up divorcing and raising the children alone. One father declined to attend his young son's sports events because they were "boring."

I'm not saying that such a relationship can never work. But normally mature 30-year-old men don't make advances to teenagers. The ones that do choose very young women because older women see their immaturity and won't date them.

I'm less concerned if the young woman approached an older man she admires and he was hesitant but agreed to date her.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Just because you are legally adult, does not mean you are a mature enough. Your brain development continues till you are 23-24 which mostly affects your maturity and personality. So it is disgusting and a 30 years old person has different maturity level who probably date such young people for youth and looks. So scientificically and biologically it is wrong lol

[hi_it_is_me123]

So if a 16 years old was legally adult, people would be ok with it?

[dvc0006]

but it serves her as life experience. so what is the oldest you would date anyone? how about if the person in question is older in his 30's but looks like 5 to 8 years younger? how old you think I am in the picture

[hi_it_is_me123]

I personally dont care how much older you date as long as you are 23+. I have known a lot couple with a huge age gap where the one is too young and it never worked or even it harmed the other one. It was shocking how the younger act like a grandpa with no soul after the break up. Then too many young teenies dont know want they want since they dont care about it. A woman told that she married a much older guy when she was 18 and when she became older, she noticed that has nothing common with her husband. Your opinions, personality, maturity etc is developing till in your 20s. This is why a young person can easily change his/her opinion/mind but it is difficult to change your mind when you are older since your personality become stable.

[hi_it_is_me123]

It does not serve her life experience, you stole her innocence, etc. Let teenies be teenies. Dont change them.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I am 22 and look 14. It does not matter how young you look. I would not date someone under 20

[coconut94]

I agree and appreciate your answer. So many guys don’t understand this and say “bUt ShE’s An AdUlT” .. like no

[dvc0006]

who " stole her innocence, the average 19yo F is far from innocent!! " ? I mean you do have a point. but I would not see it as disgusting, that is exaggerated, yes it is 2 adults with different level of maturity. Definitely don't marry. how about if the younger female is really attracted to one, and she is the one who approaches?

[hi_it_is_me123]

I would say you should wait for her then till she became 21-22 at least, if you really respects her. It is just that much older person expect from the young persom to be mature as them which is scientificically not possible and it is harmful since they are in a phase where they are still developing and have unstable personality. This is like making a kid to have adult responsibilies such as cleaning , cooking for itself to the point the kid's childhood get stolen. You rarely will have something in common with a teenager and i dont think you are going to endure the immature stuff the person will do. Teenies can be easily manipulated/influenced. What i also mean with innocence is that they have zero adult life experience, ain't financially independent aka did not have many adult responsibilities as you. You may expect from the person to be mature as you and to take same responsibilities which can be harmful and you may stole their "innocence" and "youth". I personally think it is not healthy for these reasons and for the reason that they have unstable personality and different maturity level

[MelonSoda]

Yeah, it's weird af. The 30 year old is a grown ass person who should know better and at 19, someone is still technically young and still learning how things work. Not to mention they're very inexperienced at life. Anyone older than 25 needs to leave 18-20 year olds alone.

[TheorionMage]

Depends upon the maturity of the individuals involved...
the 'mechanics' of the relationship is as old as humanity itself~
Youth, beauty and perspective exchanged for mentoring, resources and hopefully wisdom.
"Quid Quo Pro" Usually such relationships are transitory and have a natural arc.

The most obvious modern example was that of Hugh Hefner and his bevy of in-residence
nubile 'Bunny' playmates. But he shot himself in the foot when he declined
Barbie Benton's desire to have children. Decades later, he expressed deep regrets
for not knowing "when, to say 'when'..." and enthrone her as his Queen~

[ohshee]

. I'm going to say there's nothing wrong with it and I'm going to say that just because I've done it before there are a lot of good things to be learned when you do this in all positive ways I think you for your both happy and that's what it's all about it's not about what other people think because they can do this or they're jealous art whatever their attitude is are their thoughts or their theory is that's on then that's about them and them only. it's nobody else's business if you're both mature and you're both happy I say go for it it can be a beautiful thing

[Subarugirl]

It can be, a 10 year age gap is pretty large at that period of life... and just so you know, when he tells you that you are mature for you age, really what he means is that I am not mature enough to get with someone in my age group so I prefer inexperienced girls because they don't know any better.

[bamesjond0069]

Its usually harder to get a young woman and much easier to get an older woman. So that unfortunately counteracts your logic here. If he really was immature and desperate he would find it much easier to get a girlfriend in her 30s than a teen.

[Subarugirl]

@bamesjond0069 lol I don’t think so

[bamesjond0069]

So you are going to tell a man that he doesn't know what its like to be a man and that you as a girl knows more about living life as a man? Smh. I only have 35 years experience as a man and you have zero. Oh yeah and would you believe my zero years experience as a woman says periods are fun? I dont care what you say, i dont believe it because i know women enjoy cramps and ruining their expensive underwear. Smh. How ridiculous.

[Subarugirl]

@bamesjond0069 Actually I am speaking from experience as a woman... which your brain couldn't possibly understand even if I did explain. Have you ever had grown men try to groom you as a teenager? Yeah I didn't think so. Most women in their 30s are going to be a hell of a lot more put together, matrue and established than a 19 year old kid.

[loveslongnails]

I guess you've never seen "Harold and Maude" ? LOL You should.
When I was 28, I dated an 18 yr old who was more mature, and had her shit together more, than most of the 25 -27 year olds I had dated. So your assertion may hold true for some guys, but I don't know what percentage, and it's certainly not true about all men. It could also be that the 30 yr old guy is inexperienced himself and feels a bit overwhelmed with women his own age. Automatically assuming he's a letch preying on an inexperienced younger girl might be far from accurate. Or it might be very accurate, but it's not a given.

[bamesjond0069]

What does the experience of one woman have to do with a mans experience of dating many women? Usually women once they hit 30 are so freaking desperate its ridiculous. I won't even talk to them because its too much of a low hanging fruit.

[loveslongnails]

@bamesjond0069 That's another discussion, which I choose not to engage in. LOL

[Subarugirl]

@bamesjond0069 Because I am a heterosexual female, who has been with and have been pursued by many heterosexual males. So I know first had how I have been treated by men in several different stages of my life. Lol do you even pay attention to the type of boys that 18 and 19 year old girls date? Most women in their 30s are going to be a hell of a lot more put together, mature and established than a 19 year old kid. There are always exceptions to the rule, but in general...

[loveslongnails]

Isn't it the rare exception that a 30 yr old woman wants to "date" a 19 year old boy? More like she'd be using him for sex, or she has some sort of mothering complex. I believe it's far more common that a 30 yr old man would "date" a 19 year old girl, especially under the conditions we both described. Sure, there are exceptions, but...

[bamesjond0069]

@loveslongnails yeah its not even a comparable situation.

[Redstang88]

@bamesjond0069 She’s right dude. Sure all the horny creeps are chasing the 19 year old GIRL but she’s a lot easier to fool at that age. A grown woman knows better

[Anonymous]

Of course it's weird. almost as old as your father. okay let it go. almost as old as your oldest brother. We say that love has no age, but there really is an age of love. Relationships suffer when there is a huge age gap between them. then they break up, this event continues with relationships other age difference.

[Staximus]

What happens between 2 consenting adults is nobody's business except theirs. Yes they are at 2 different stages in life, and yes it wouldn't be such an issue if they were both 10 or 20 years older; but it really doesn't matter if they are good for each other and good to each other.

[Buntyp]

Not really, but...
I get why the younger person is into it and it's not unusual, at all, but I have to wonder about the older person chasing after someone that much younger, so, as I said, not really, but...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You can’t control who you love but thinking of myself at 19, I was so naive and childlike, (I still have part of it today but I matured) I would probably make that 30 year old guy crazy haha

[bamesjond0069]

Im 35 and my girlfriend is 19. Its really not weird at all. Some people give us a hard time but they usually assume really dumb stuff. Like younger people ask if i can get an erection... wtf im 35 not 95. Or older people i know ask how i can stand listening to her talk about high school stories but uhh she talks about anything else too 🤔 i dont understand why they would think thats all she has to talk about.

[ChrisMaster69]

It can be, a lot depends on the context and intent.

if they meet and get on, say she’s out on a night out, she might look 22 etc

different matter if it’s a guy deliberately dating someone because of their age, that’s when it gets weird.

[JasM0]

Age has nothing to do with it two mature minded people connecting. But, TBH, I’d like the 19 to work on themselves for another 4-5 years before engaging in this situation.


Cheers

[AncientWisdom]

No it used to be very common. All these people in these comments saying yes are what is known as haters and probably can’t pull someone their age much less younger. 🤣🤣🤣

[bones_20]

It’s only weird if neither of them want to be with each other. Otherwise, no.

[De_La_BakedBeans]

A little bit, but I can't really say anything since your both adults. If you both like each other and it's a good, healthy relationship, yeah why not.

[Petite_Princess]

Not weird! I find older guys so hot. I slept with an older guy recently in his 30s and it was great! We're gonna start dating soon and he's super mature, i don't know what all of these girls saying older guys aren't mature are on.

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

When did this happen?

[Petite_Princess]

@Dat-Alpha-Lion earlier in the month

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Nice! You got a favorite sex act?

[coconut94]

I don’t think an 18 year old can define the maturity level of a 30 year old.. once you’re older I think you’ll understand

[Petite_Princess]

@coconut94 i disagree but you're entitled to your opinion

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

@Petite_Princess I gotta ask where did you two meet?

[Petite_Princess]

@Dat-Alpha-Lion at college. He was one of my professors from last term

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Nice! You two still do it?

[Citizenkirk]

Yes it's weird, but don't worry about it. Your both adults, barely.

[jshm2]

Only if she doesn't put out. Then she's just a gold digger milking her sugar daddy.

[Twalli]

A bit. Because it's 11 years age difference and that's the cusp of puberty. That is my rule. Don't date anyone who was going through puberty when you were born.

[JessieBellll]

That's so strange

[exitseven]

They are both adults so there is nothing wrong with it.

[jasco]

I mean while I do think its odd for people to do that but if thats what they wanna do. than go for it

[AndrésC64]

It may be weird in that it's not comment. But if the people are compatible there's nothing wrong with it.