What’s a good way to ask a girl out to the gym without her assuming you’re calling her fat?

[Anonymous]

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well are you? Is that the reason?

I think you need to elaborate? Are going out?
What type of person are you both? etc.

[Asker]

No, I’d never call a woman fat unless she’s vile but I’d never date that. I’d want for them to come to the gym to spend time together with something productive

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well, does she work out herself? Does she go to the gym or something else?

Because if not, you're already asking her to spend monthly money on something.

But either way, if it comes up about you working out or something you can mention it would be fun to work out together.
But I would say it depends on the conversation and her interest in it.

[Asker]

Well I’m not currently exclusively seeing someone. I had a old girlfriend that would like the results of me in the gym but kinda got annoyed when I would go. I told it it would be fun to go together since I have a black card from planet fitness and get a guess pass with it.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Personally, I think it's great to work out with a partner in the gym, supporting and pressuring each other. If you need someone to spot you they're right there. Seeing them working out and you have someone to spend time with. I love it.

Though I won't really work out with someone I just met or just started dating.

[Asker]

The last person I tried this with was going out with me for almost 3 years

[JasM0]

Tell her that your time is limited , but you want to spend time with her at the place you rarely share with others, the gym.


Best

[Asker]

Thank you

[JasM0]

You’re welcome!

[dustybiker]

Does it have to be the gym? What about something athletic and fun?

[Asker]

Doesn’t matter but the gym is an any kind of weather thing you know

[dustybiker]

You know her. Do what’s best for you.

[Asker]

This is just in general. I’m not with someone officially

[dustybiker]

Oh good lord. 🤣

[Asker]

I’d rather be prepared

[dustybiker]

Just find someone on an app that already talks about liking fitness and the gym.

[Asker]

I’m on a few and apparently most girls hate the fact you go to the gym because it makes a guy more desirable to other girls

[dustybiker]

Then they should be easy to pick through. Just choose one that doesn’t feel that way. You don’t want a jealous woman anyway.

[Asker]

Trust me I’m trying. Unfortunately when I say girl I mean females who still have a high school mentality

[dustybiker]

Then find someone your own age.

[Asker]

They are my age and still act like that

[dustybiker]

Don’t get discouraged. Your woman is out there. Keep using those signs to help make your search easier.

[Asker]

I have to find one that doesn’t have crab in pot friends

[dustybiker]

Just be the man even her friends would like. Be kind and genuine to them. Then they can’t fault you.

[Asker]

I am but again crab in pot mentality will ruin relationships

[dustybiker]

It can.

[Asker]

It happened in my last one because I’m very thoughtful when I’m a relationship to where my name is used as a standard. For example I can give the sweetest gifts to where no one else can come close to it. Whether it’s something rare or sentimental to the receiving party. I have actually single hardly out gifted an entire group for special occasions a few times to the point where the person who it was for would actually cry

[dustybiker]

That’s a great gift to have itself. You just need to find someone who can appreciate that in you.

[Asker]

I agree. I thought I did with the last girl I was officially with did. She definitely did at least at first and reciprocated in kind but it seemed to be different towards the end of the relationship with her

[dustybiker]

There are a lot of parts to a relationship. They aren’t easy.

[Asker]

I know. It’s just easier when you have someone that’ll fight just as much as you to keep it

[dustybiker]

100%. Everyone needs that.