Depends on the situation. Recently, it has lasted less than 2 hours. Then we make up…lol I don’t like to argue with him. It makes me feel like we are distant from each other. 😭🥲 What about you guys? How long does an argument last with your significant other? :)
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Not long at all as I do not argue with women period. Or men for that matter. I say what I say , and that's what it is take it or leave it. Arguing with a woman is grown male behavior , not the behavior of a man as it shows weakness , and uncertainty. If a woman wants to have a discussion that's rational then that is good. If she starts the usual mess of arguing , blaming , shaming , guilt tripping, projecting , or changing the subject to something the man has done in the past to get the conversation of her etc. then I'm simply going to laugh at her , and tell her when she's ready to speak as an adult give me a holler , then give her a wink and walk off get in my truck and drive away. If she calls me she does , if she don't that's fine as well. Its dumb to argue with women , its not the same as arguing with a man if he gets frustrated with it all he can box that man. You can't do that to a female. you just gotta listen to 'em yammer that mess or walk away.
I am not going to lie, women do tend to start silly fights, sometimes. 😂 I have caught myself in the act, and it makes me feel dumb. 🤣 So, I guess you are right to say that walking away from the argument is the way to go (depending on the situation).
Well women sense weakness. Women have a built in bullshit detector. Also when you argue with a women in her feelings you are going to lose. The argument in that scenario rarely comes from a position of logic. So if you try to placate her she will sense it and get angrier, if you start winning from logic you will still lose as logic is not the point. The point is you’ve done something , and many women go at it sideways so you’ve got to figger it out they ain’t gonna tell you. Another thing that works well is stop her argument go to her wrap her up in a hug and just whisper in her ear. “ I love you baby and reassure her that doesn’t always work either but mostly does and she liable to squirm a bit but if she loves you she gonna forget about her mad in a minute and you know what happens next.
No matter what it was. We try our best to reconcile by the end of the day, and don't go to bed angry with each other
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We learned long ago to ask questions first to save upset feelings later. If it falls outside of that pattern just talk it out. Neither of us ever wants to hurt the other and we both know that.
Neither of us have the ability to hold a grudge on each other or any length of time at all. On time we had a fight, and we got upset and went to opposite ends of the apartment. Fast forward less than two minutes I'm walking over to her room to say sorry, and just as I'm about to know on the for she opens it and almost walks straight into me. Turns out we where both going to say sorry to each other. Lol. We wound up cuddling on the couch afterwards and falling asleep while watching a movie.
@dustybiker lol yes... at least, that has been my experience, and there are reasons for it
the main reason is how I actually am about these things, I grew up in a household in which arguing was very common, my parents used to argue a LOT and in front of me, and mostly within me being aged 6 to 16... I did argue a whole lot with my mother, late teens was the worst... sometimes it was on the daily
I can't say it was a nightmare because it was not, not all of our discussions and arguments were fights, most of them were tempered because I was allowed to speak my mind, to make some decisions although I never had the last word on things, so there was friction but no collisions sort of speak...
but some of them got heated, and because of these years of back and forth with my parents, and mostly my mother and her "mood swings" I did learn to not take things personal, to control my feelings and also found so many ways to defuse and to navigate around tense situations, so yes... even when I am moody, upset, angry... or someone "does something to me" I do naturally let go of it very quickly... sometimes it takes me less than a minute... max 10 minutes for way more serious things, I do not like to be angry or to harbor any kind of negative feeling inside me, so I get over things quickly... this is how I survived and was able to keep my sanity but in my house, growing up... and also "on the streets" you know, dealing with all kinds of people, which around here, can be a very "particular kind of people" you should not mess with
@dustybiker the other part is about how I argue or discuss things... I never yell, I do not shout, I don't raise my voice, I don't interrupt people or talk over others... I am rather calm and composed, I do listen first, then I explain my part if needed, I stay in the topic, I always lead towards solutions and understanding... this is how I argue and discuss with people I care, and love... in this case, my ex-girlfriends... lol
most of my girlfriends said something to me at one point or another "why do you NEVER GET ANGRY!!" they were upset with me, that I was not as emotionally charged when they were, or that I would be so calm even if they were not and stuff like that... lol
all of my ex-girlfriends (as well as my mother) have had very strong personalities and also balanced personalities when it comes to the "emotional and logical" mix of things and ways of being... while I am way more contained when it comes to two things... anger and being upset, I just keep it close to none.
in fact not sure if you remember, but when you and I first exchanged comments in here... I think it was an misunderstanding, and things got a bit abrupt with a quick back and forth, and I don't even remember what was it about, but I know it wasn't worth it, so I quickly scrapped that, and started over... I did try to clarify things with you, instead of just bumping heads... lol
one of the best things I've done here at G@G, was that
@dustybiker oh another thing... I loved my girlfriends to death first of all, but also I have this weird thing that whenever I see a girl is a bit moody or upset, or has an angry face, I find it cute and adorable for whatever reason, it is very endearing to me... so I do start to smile lmfao
then they can get a bit more upset and frustrated, while I just forget about the argument... lol
and to clarify... we didn't really argue that much or at all, just once in a blue moon or so... so, for most of them was like that one chance to let out all the things they had to say or release, lol
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