Women in their 20s: He gotta be fine as hell, I don't give a damn of he got 4 baby mommas and he ain't shit.
Women in their 30s: His height needs to start with "6" and his weight needs to start with a "2", he needs to make 6 figures and be decent looking, at least a 7 or above.
Yes, believe it or not women go from having no standards at all, to having the HIGHEST standards later on, even though their value depreciates. She wants Chad and Tyrone in her young years, but when she gets pregnant she wants a corporate millionaire in her 30s to settle down with (the millionaire part is an exaggeration, but you get the point).
Dudes just want a girl that is fit, feminine and friendly and is not really a pain in the ass. That's all. I don't care where she from, I don't care what her measurements are. She could be 5'2 or 5'10 and I don't care. As long as she takes care of herself and is not too skinny or overweight, that's good enough. Just be respectful and treat me well, and I will reciprocate.
I think women have higher upfront standards. They have standards for dating and sleeping with someone and aren't in any immediate hurry to do so. Guys are much more likely to prioritize getting laid as 'getting to know someone'. This does not work long term because sex is not a positive motivator (moving toward a healthy goal vs. avoiding punishment like sex withdrawl). You will always feel like something is 'taken from you' if you hinge your investment on the first symptom of relationship conflict.
On the flip side, I think men have higher standards for marriage since a lot of women will marry the first guy who comes along and offers a relationship 3 years or more, even if it's toxic. Men will continue to live with a woman he has no intentions of marrying and a woman will keep denying that truth because she has lower standards.
Women… Some can be easy, but if a guy can get it so easy then where’s the chase? The excitement? The chemistry? Slow and easy wins the race.
Men… Once heartbroken, it’s safer for them to emotionally shut off and break hearts.
Both have pros and cons. Everyone is capable of cheating. Certain loyalties matter and that depends on the intimacy and pace of the relationship. I mean, how do you actually know when it’s official these days? When it’s on Facebook? When he’s got it in? When he’s slept over? I miss the old days, sex before marriage has complicated things… Infidelity is no longer frowned upon and is expected from men, whereas a woman is known to be a slut for doing it, a man is just a man.
Educate a man, and you’ll just educate a man. Educate a woman; and you’ll educate a generation.
Except, sex before marriage was popularized by WOMEN. 2nd wave feminism and sexual liberation. Also, guys don't usually become "players" by default. Something really needs to happen for a dude to say fuck it and turn into a womanizer. This is why I don't date or sleep around, because I know the market is dysfunctional. I'm an observer. I do plan on getting married, but better believe there will be tons of vetting and a whole background check involved before I even consider becoming official with someone. It's hard to trust modern-day rebellious feminists to obey the social order, so the girl I will marry will have to prove herself in that regard.
Women keep referring to "the chase". "The Chase" means games. If a guy has any self respect, when a woman want to make him "chase" her, he should tell her to fuck off and find someone who isn't 2.
The problem is that people have standards that they don't live up to themselves.
Example: If a woman wants a faithful man, she needs to have not done casual sex/hook ups/ONS/friends with benefits in her past at all. Also, if a man wants a faithful woman he needs to have not done that in his past either. If a woman wants an athletic man that works out, then she needs to be in shape too. Slim is not "in shape" it is usually weak and pathetic. Athletic/in shape means she can ride a bike at least 10 plus miles non stop and/or play sports with him. If a woman expects a man to pay on a date, she needs to pay for a date too. Expect your partner to have a good paying job? You need to have a good paying job as well. You can have one of those qualities yourself in exchange for your partner having a different desirable quality, but you both need to have close to the same amount of desirable qualities as the person you are wanting to be in a relationship with. People just have standards that they don't even come close to matching.
In general it does come down to the individual. But I think beauty standards are the worse of the two. Simply because they seem so susceptible to outside influences and change in general. Like they see your pictures online and like you. But you have a date on a bad hair day, it's an issue and you are not as attractive they thought. Or god help you if you are pale white and happen to take a really hot shower before the date, so you show up more of a lobster then you normally are. You might not get a second date because of that and what the hell is going to happen if you get a sun burn?
Tell us how someone's 'standards' could be worse than someone else's? You mean they'll date ugly?
Understand there are three levels of ugly: 1. One-bagger. You put a bag over her head so don't have to look at her. 2. Two-bagger. You put a bag over both your heads. 3. Coyote ugly. Where you chew your arm off the next morning since she's laying on it and you don't want to wake her up. :)
Or as the kids like to say... Butter-face. Everything is really nice butter face. Cepter-head. Everything is really nice cept her head.
I think men are the worse when judging people by their looks, we (men) tend to come around much later in life to what is really important when considering what we really need vs. want from a women.
I dated a few very attractive women in my younger days... but none of them were as beautiful as the ladies I came to really respect and care for later. But even then, they were still physically attractive to me.
I honestly do not think most people women or men find some one who is unattractive in general very appealing... or it takes time for them to come around to them much later.
Until the age of 25, most men just want to constantly stick their dicks in whatever hole they possibly can pussy, asshole, deepthroat etc.. For as long as she is a girl, the rest like her looks or weight, is completely irrelevant. After 25 though, when most of their youth energy is out of their system, then their standards start going up, especially if they have a high paying job or body and looks of Greek God's.
When swiping patterns of various dating sites are studied, it's found that men find women attractive on a normal distribution meaning the average woman is average to them whereas in case of women it's highly skewed or the average woman finds the average man unattractive and most of the women are going for the same 10-20% of men. That is called hypergamy or that women will always try to mate with the man who is socio-economically better placed than them.
I didn't vote because the question is not defined. Typically men will date down for sex and, although they don't marry down, men often have realistic standards for marriage. Most women chase after the hottest guys that will fuck then and reject guys within their league. Therefore, most women have unrealistic standards.
I think about half of women have super high standards ie eyes aren't blue, next. Meanwhile the other half of women have no standards or anti standards, oh a handsome guy tried to talk to me ehhh im busy going to have sex with a man missing 3 teeth who needs to lose 60 lbs.
I think men have similar issues but its more in the realm of realism. Expecting a woman to not be obese is a realistic standard.
Women's are worse due to the whole equality movement. They want to be treated as equals but only a select few women can do men's work. And still want to be spoiled, have us pay for drinks, dinner and such but complain about equality. Still want men to be chivalrous and doting but still claim they're not being treated fairly. Choose a lane girls.
Typically guys want things that can change. Hair color, boob size, etc. All of those are able to be changed. Girls want things that can't change like height and dick length. My dick will not be longer than it is (not now, it's soft, but when it's hard) and I won't grow anymore. I can't change these. No guy can. So I would say that girls standards are less realistic, because guys can't change two common standards for girls while girls can if they really want that particular guy.
Define "worse". In my experience, women expect literally everything from men. Looks, money, status, assets, career, height, and loyalty while men expect literally nothing from women. They want sex, but they disregard women for everything else because they don't believe women can be counted on. Both are bad in their own way.
Women in their 30-40 is the worst. They have added so much to the list that it's ridiculous. The younger women hasn't got there yet but they still got more than men.
Women expect too much from men, like oh she can be a princess okay, for some time men are willing to do that for her, but after some periox of time it feels like she isn't doing anything for me (men) to make men feel to be in a relationship, it's mostly about how girls feels, and just doing men down.
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Women are shallower and have unreachable standards for men. Which is why 90% of women only date 10% of men. Men will date 90% of women. Just don’t be fat.
I would say men cause they have to work out to have a great body women only have not eat like a pig (though if they have bad gene and bad body (like no curves) then they can't do nothing about it except plastic surgery so
Women are the gate keepers of dating. From my experience, the vast majority of women (especially the short ones) only want men who are over 6'0(which is only 14.5% of all men). This basically means that over 85% of all men in the U. S aren't good enough for most women based off that one triat alone.
beauty standards for women are certainly worse, while standards for how men are supposed to act are a lot worse for sure... but it kind of depends where you're from too
I don't know but my only demands are that she can't be overweight, can't be a smoker, and I want to be the only person seeing her naked. I think these are all reasonable standards.
I think mens. Some girls just want a boyfriend and wouldn't mind settling with an average guy, but men on the other hand look at a lot of factors like appearance, character, school/work
Notice how not a single woman picked women’s are worse they all honestly believe their standards are completely superior 😂 yet most women nowadays die alone 🤣
I chose C for both but it really depends on the person.
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men can have no standards and still cheat, women have standards and they won't cheat. its like for men: free entry, then you realize the party sucks. for women: $20 at the door, and its the best party ever
I'm not going to use the word worse but i do think women's standards are higher. There's studies and data on the 80/20 rule and women find 80% of men invisible/unattractive.
Women because they can look like a fucking frog but she still can get a girlfriend or boyfriend
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Sorry I meant to press women’s standards are worse. I don’t see how you can deny with this. However you’re also talking about beauty standards which makes it confusing so I’m not sure.
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If we consider historical perspective then men are worse.
I'd probably say women's are worse. But I think a lot of the standards come from things online and I don't really pay much attention to anything about men's looks online oh, and I realize that the women online are also unrealistic.
That can’t be true because that means whatever you think men’s standards are what they actually are but the fact that you think they are worse just shows you don’t know what they are
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