What makes a girl girlfriend material and not just shag material?

[Anonymous]

[hahahmm]

There's different degrees to it because usually as a guy gets older his ideas on it change. A really young guy could have low standards for this because he lacks the life experience to know better. Likewise at a really young age, your ideas will change over time. But from my POV based on my experiences/observations: it all boils down to trust. And if someone is trustworthy or not depends on their character. Also, don't trust a guy when it comes to relationships, unless he has earned it. See A Note On Giving Trust

[ChrisMaster69]

There is not really much tbh.

a lot comes down to compatibility, emotional connection and trust, without those there is not really a relationship.

You can add in as many other traits as you like however without the basics, it’s not going to be a relationship.

There needs to be a mutual connection both physically and importantly emotionally.

Yeah having sex too early in a relationship can result in being Shag material, however if you wait for those basics (which can be really early) then it’s more than just a shag.

[GlassTop]

Respect yourself. Don’t wear oversexual clothing. Don’t sleep with him so fast. Let him pursue you. Stop adding to your body count. Stop looking for attractive guys and look for homey guys. Stop looking for the bad boy. Go for a guy who will take care of you and love you.

[MCheetah]

Monogamous.
Isn't a bitch/feminist (a nice decent person).
Knows how to cook.
Respects her man and treats him well.
Doesn't try to "out alpha" the man and one-up him in everything.
Has the ability to be feminine and ladylike.

[FakeName123]

Loyalty
Femininity
Not sleeping around
Family oriented
Doesn't solely define herself over her looks
Nurturing
Appreciates men

To name a few.

[ragooo8]

Well if you like her and if you can see a long term future with her based on what she brings to the table.
Decades of rommantic movies have given women unrealistic expectations.

[boggboss]

The way she presents herself when it comes to dating

[PapaDad]

A personal connection long before sex, based on likes and interests and worldview.

[iamacuriousguy]

The difference is in personality and healthy self esteem.

Shag material is generally selfish, slutty, deceptive, easy, superficial and irresponsible.

[bamesjond0069]

Sweet and caring
Not a slut
Not fat
Feminine
Cooks and cleans
No caked up makeup and ideally none

[Shamalien]

Not being a sex object. So don’t dress and act like a sex object. Don’t sleep around. Be emotionally stable and trustworthy

[Waldoe]

sounds like a question to ask Mom... as a guy... I would say, don't shag anyone until after 2 months of having a good relationship...

[Waldoe]

old saying... " he'll never buy the cow, if you give him the milk for free"

[Wise4myage]

Intelligence, character, shared interests, and a great sense of humor.

[2021biguy]

Someone kind, caring, and cute that doesn't cheat or sleep around town.

[jahaims]

Same morals, values and goals

[driven159]

humor smarts kindness inside beauty

[Anonymous]

What FakeName123 said. He nailed it.

[Anonymous]

being a strong independent women

[chilldude33]

her attitude

[Twalli]

I love her.