What makes a girl wife material?

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This question was asked earlier but it went in a different direction. Now I'm curious. What makes you guys think "Hey, I think i could see myself settling down for her"?

hellionthesage · Accepted Answer

Loyalty first and foremost, then kind and generous help also being feminine (honestly a girl who tells me she is independent and can do everything herself is telling me she doesn't need me in which case why would I be there. Men need to be needed (long explanation but its biology/social)) She wants me needs me. Compatibility as well (a bit hard to find I am both a nerd and I would say a bit on the cerebral side so I would need some one who can play board/video games but also talk philosophy/science with. Also an introvert so she would have to be able to respect the fact that I need time to myself (and doesn't mind me paceing all the time (it helps me think)) so compatibility with my interest understanding that I will want time to myself and will also want time with my friends, ideological similarites (I have massive issues with many different schools of thought so she would have to be able to accept that prefferablly agree with a few of them and also be open minded in general) etc. If I can find a woman like that she would definitily be wife material, well would be for the short duration of time before I married her.

TadCurious · Accepted Answer

1. She treats other people well.
2. She knows how to interact with kids.
3. She would be steady in a storm ('cause life always has challenges) and she wouldn't freak out if there were a tornado warning or a bug in the bathtub
4. She has a sense of humor
5. She likes dogs
6. She's knowledgeable about at least a few things and generally knows what's going on in the world
7. She likes dogs (did I already say that? lol)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel like I have a lot of these qualities. Yet I'm still single :(

But thanks for asking this question. I've been reading things on how I can improve. But there is honestly only so much you can do as a person.

I think expectations should be realistic. People can't expect a woman to be a model/video game expert with a masters degree in physics.

For the most part, most of these are. I just hope it's what the guys truly are looking for. Often times I'll be told by guys they want a woman who is kind, sweet, and caring. But they go for women who are the complete opposite. I find that kind of discouraging. Because I have many friends who treat their partners like crap, yet they are married and I am single and can't get a date :/

Jxpxtxr · Accepted Answer

She should have a good sense of humour, be intellectual and determined/ambitious to reach what she wants in life, confident and affectionate and of course cultivated, I value that last one especially as it seems so rare these days - I just want someone who's on the same level with me, a soulmate. She should be my lover and best friend at the same time, someone who stands by my side when I'm right and when I'm wrong. Someone who appreciates the eccentric I am and someone who I can be myself with without being afraid of her judging me.
And of course she has to get along with my pet dog 🐾

I know this question was aimed at guys but I thoughts as a bisexual I could answer it anyways.

jesshkah · Accepted Answer

I just want to say I'm glad you took it back in a nicer direction.

As for my opinion on this, I think that for the most part someone who is wifey material is more or less someone who just has her shit together. All the other factors such as knowing how to cook or whatever and even being a mother, are completely dependent on what the guy or girl is looking for in their wife. If they don't want kids, they don't need someone who's going to be a good mother for example.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Apart from the obvious things which everyone else here will tell you, there are also three three little things you can do which a lot of women overlook, but will endear you too your man

1. Don't talk too much.
2. Make him a sandwich once in a while.
3. Suck his cock

MrOracle · Answer

in my opinion, it's a girl who is a TRUE *partner* in the relationship - who pulls her own weight and contributes positively to the relationship.

I see a lot of relationships where one person (and I've definitely seen examples of either gender) does most or all of the work, and the other just uses them for financial or emotional support and makes very little effort about anything.

A girl who is "wife material" isn't thinking "me me me", she's thinking "we we we". She puts the needs of the TEAM (i. e., the couple) ahead of her individual needs and desires, at least most of the time. She has reasonable expectations, isn't constantly offended or upset, is emotionally stable, financially responsible, and has some ambition and a good work ethic. And, it goes without saying, is sexually compatible with the guy.

I know this doesn't SOUND like it's a difficult list of things to find in a girl, but you'd be surprised.

thecd1979 · Answer

I think everyone will say a great personality and easy to talk to etc. However, the things that should make someone wife material is someone that is going to have your back that you can count on. Someone who is responsible financially and when she says she is going to do something follows through on her promises. Someone that knows how to cook, clean and take care of things around the house. It needs to be someone that is going to step up to the plate and share responsibilities, not someone thats going to make excuses and shirk their way out of them. These are the things that are going to really matter in the long run and the qualities that you want to look for in a potential spouse. I know this from experience.

raio81597 · Answer

Values, character, how she treats others and herself to be more specific. Does she respect and actually like men, is she appreciative, and grateful... things like that of her personality make me go yeah she's marriage material. If the positives outweigh the negative, then I'm comfortable moving in that direction with a girl, however if the negatives start to outweigh the positive I'm going to inquire about it and make it known it's not attractive and I'm losing interest, I won't wait and lead her on.

Anonymous · Answer

Wife material:

1. Is not an attention whore (on social media and needing to take pictures everyday)

2. Is not a slut

3. Has not cheated on past relationships

4. Knows how to cook/clean

5. Can support herself

6. Is not a feminist

7. Is kind/caring/supportive

8. Is not a psycho/crazy

9. Is a good person to everyone (not those fake ass good people u see on social media who act like total bitches to everyone).

10. Takes care of her appearance

11. Loves sex and initiates/Is a freak in sheets for her man

12. Is adventurous, plans out dates

13. Is not friends with sluts

14. Is not prone to jealousy

15. Does not have a drinking/smoking/drug use problem

16. Goes to the gym

17. Can hold a conversation/intelligent enough to have a reasonable discourse with.

18. Worships Satan.

AleDeEurope · Answer

She wants the same as I do in the future, meaning kids and settling down together forever.
She's loyal. Very smart. Goofy, but not to the point where it's annoying. Witty. Knows when to have fun and when to be serious. Very mature.
Independent, strong, ambitious, loving, adorable, family oriented, selfless, knows her priorities. Open minded, tolerant, not afraid to speak her mind.
Adventurous, knows how to have fun and knows how to balance work with life outside of work. Curious.
Happy.

Anonymous · Answer

I like the old fashioned idea of what a woman should be, that often is now viewed as sexist or outdated. While a woman doesn't need to be a stepford wife, that basically does sum of the kinds of traits that make me admire a woman, and want to dedicate myself to making her happy in return. Things like her career, having a friends with benefits in the past, or being able to out swear a sailor don't win her any points.

RasmusAiken · Answer

Basically it's a girl who obviously has her life in balance. She manages her resources well (time, money and talent), she has committed to goals and she has experienced some success.
You can have the perfect boobs and butt and a pretty face but it you don't have balance in your life I'm not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys have unrealistic expectations of women  They expect her to be smart, have the body of a porn star and the face of a high fashion model  They expect her to be a virgin

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Many months ago, I wrote a myTake that addressed this question: Please read it and leave a comment. I always appreciate feedback.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Easy to get along with and talk with
Fun to be around and low stress
even under stressful times, we can roll with it without much effort.
i find her attractive (and that doesn't mean perfect).
The passion is there as well as compatibility
She respects me for what I have to offer

She gets nice ring not too long after I see that.

worldscolide · Answer

i Married my wife because she did the following.
- She never lied to me
- She treated me with respect
- She never once asked me to change
- She respects my choice to completely avoid religion
- She likes when i teach her stuff, like cooking
- She is in to retro games as much as i am
- She treats me as well as i treat her.

cth96190 · Answer

1. Not a feminist.
2. Of the same race as myself and good genetic material (no genetic defects or diseases, good physical conformation and an IQ that is significantly above average).
3. No sexually-transmitted diseases.
4. Of the same political view as myself.
5. Same or similar spiritual outlook.
6. Ideally, a fellow student of karate, or another martial art.
7. A bonus would be if she had military experience and was a passionate advocate of the ownership of firearms.

orphan · Answer

when a girl offers to help w/ personal life stuff.. like, how to pay bills, or their method of washing dishes, or changing the oil on his car for him..

see how i added that masculine thing in so y'all can't flame me w/ the women=cleaning shit.

but u get what i'm saying.

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

She'd have to be more than just fun and attractive. She'd have to be kind, honest, loyal, and reliable - traits that indicate she would make a good life partner, rather than just a fling.

SomeGuy37 · Answer

Someone who KNOWS she is an Equal and we can be Partners. For those that understand, Thank You, and Bless you!!  For the others, don't bother telling me I am an A$$, you don't get it!

vishna · Answer

Hmm, I'm curious to know.

I think compatibility, chemistry, and that special magic dust are things that make someone 'ring worthy.'

Or maybe that's a good relationship or love?

Hmmm let me know guys, I want to get engaged!

Sara413 · Answer

It comes down to having the right connection and seeing yourself being able to grow together with that person for the rest of your life. There's no particular trait that makes a woman "wife material". It all depends on the individuals.

pilot_steve2035 · Answer

Being very open to things he likes and is interested in. You must also be like minded or it will never work long term. A whore in the bedroom but a saint outside the bedroom. Must be willing to follow him to the ends of the world and always have his back.

SweetHomicidalQueen · Answer

Depends on the guy. For some it may be that she can cook an clean. For others its that she's obediant to him. For others its that she's strong and independent.

bleeeep · Answer

Accountability, responsibility, is respectable and the woman and I are just compatible.

UncagedAgent · Answer

Inb4 feminists say "MEN HAVE TOO MANY REQUIREMENTS!!!"

McKenziee · Answer

I think chemistry is only thing that matter because you can really click with anyone

ArrowheadSW · Answer

In short, someone who contributes and doesn't just "take".

sinaman10101 · Answer

- Has a brain (not one of those drunk sl*ts going WOOOHOOO at clubs)
- Knows how to manage her finances
- Likes kid
- Can cook
- Positive outlook on life

-> Sex is important but I rather have a virgin as my wife.

Hans222 · Answer

Gosh, the expression is a bit unrespectful... but looking through the words I would say: when we seriously love each other, in good and bad times, and look forward to being together for the rest of our lifes :D

John_Doesnt · Answer

She does that thing you really love more than twice. Many women will do something they know a guy loves in order to trick them into marriage/love, but a real wife will do it more than once or twice.

realname · Answer

is she is complete as a person, im not saying that she shouldt have problems, everyone has but that she is capable of dealing with them and she is capable of having an independent stable life. Im down with that

TonyRyanAgain · Answer

If I think I can stand being around you long enough to move in and settle with you. Also, when I think to myself that you're the last and only girl I want for the rest of my life.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you mean skills every man would love their wife to have? ... good cook and blowjob's. But if you mean quantities I would like in a wife: smarter than me (not hard), and a good sense of humor.

badger25 · Answer

Her smile,  Having similar interests,  Having a warm caring personality Likes to try new things How she treats others, specifically those who seem inferior

Wikingguy · Answer

For me, being smart but not badass, blonde, +1.70m, having a ladylike attitude, etc.

BusinessBasketball · Answer

Open minded Fun Hot Like the same interests while at the same time can teach me something new Not religious  Works at a good paying job

Anonymous · Answer

She has to come from good breading stock/ strong blood line.

Sovereignty · Answer

An alignment of moral, social, and economical goals... it also helps if she looks good while holding a rifle.

orphanedmind · Answer

No evidence of impulsive or risk taking behavior. Guys will sleep with a risk taker, but they won't marry them.

idiotmanchild · Answer

Funny, down to earth, dork, nerdy, physically active, intellectual, sassy, kind, has a passion (s) in life, likes dogs.

skykidx1 · Answer

A girl that really sticks by me and supprts ny dream. If you can't do that stay away from me.

Prof_Don · Answer

If I am comfortable enough to show my emotional side and feel she isn't going to instantly lose attraction for me, that is wife material.

Riggers · Answer

Any girl willing to put up with my fucking vile face isn't short of gold dust in my eyes.

purplepineapple · Answer

Someone who is kind. Never have any "drama" and has a career going for her.

varunbh · Answer

All that matters to me is how compatible we are with each other.

chnapo · Answer

For me it is that I can trust her that she will not cheat, trust her she will stay with me, she is a nice girl, not the dominator one and she will go with me wherever I go.

abundantlyrich · Answer

I imagine she's gotta be well rounded mentally and preach what she says she will do

Anonymous · Answer

Dependability, cleanliness, reliability, same type of humor.

Byakuyarko · Answer

Has to be a responsible adult.  Has to have a proper job.  No Instagram selfie-whores.  No mommy/daddy issues.  Not a rabid feminist.

Anonymous · Answer

Being able to cook, gets along with mum, is honest, patient, caring, responsible, likes kids, and has a good job

nog6422 · Answer

I could never see myself settling down with anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

A girl with a good personality, good morals and kindness. The anti-slut

TheAngryBanana · Answer

loyalty  mutual respect  caring  personality  other things as well but cba typing them

Tanisha69 · Answer

#1 she's not a feminist lol

RBasim · Answer

One world "Loyalty" :)

apple24 · Answer

I wouldn't know! I am not a wife!

gobsmacked3 · Answer

connection on all levels

bcromartie · Answer

Good conversion and alike morals.

Polocrew · Answer

Skinny chick with big tits and big ass baha

93stepsawayfromhome · Answer

Nothing. Marriage is dumb.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone that you're 50/50 partners with.

Anonymous · Answer

This is a funny question

Anonymous · Answer

attraction

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