Did your parents ever have an issue with you dating outside your race?

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Moose304 · Accepted Answer

A VERY good friend of mine going all the way back to the 1960s is an African American. We even both were starters on our High School Football team. While I started at Georgia Tech, he started his pre-med at another school in the area. One of his daughters married a white man. I remember sitting at a local hangout and was asking him how he felt about this. He told me that he asked them for two things. First, he wanted to speak to the guy's parents AND he wanted them to hear from both of them to make sure that both knew some family members on both sides will disown them. True enough when my friend's mom died several years later he said the situation was tense for a while. Both of them adapted to the hatred and gave my friend three beautiful grandchildren. My friend told me that he did not really care who his daughter married as long as he took care of his obligations, did not physically or emotionally abuse his daughter or grandkids. To this date, he has been a fantastic SIL. People both white and black are getting way too caught up with race!

magiusX26 · Accepted Answer

no but some of the rest of my family did. everyone of them got a choice of either accept that person or do without me. settled all of that in one go except for my grand ma, and that was before my 1st out of race girlfriend ever came along because i seen how my family was and knew i would likely wind up at least dating outside of my race once. geand ma though was one i did not expect to be like that so when i did that sweeping choice, she was not involved. later, when i was with my now EX fiancé, she made a comment to let me know she needed that same choice. gave it to her during the same convo that she made the comment in. she never spoke like that again.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My white/ Hispanic parents yes. We are light skinned Hispanics , and both my parents would sh! T-Talk their half daughters dating Asians and such. And my Dad mentioned “I wouldn’t like one of my daughters Dating a black man”. Very old school, very racist of them. They’re also very religious and very conservative. They don’t believe in mixing ones race and such. They think each race needs to be with their own kind. Huskies with Huskies, Dalmatian with Dalmatian, Labrador with Labrador, and Chihuahua with Chihuahua.

But idgaf because I’m gonna date whoever is best for me. Whoever I’m attracted to. African Americans, are the absolute best in bred and that’s just the truth. Majority of other races are absolutely pathetic in bed. And every time I’ve been with a black man they’re like magic.

MelaninQueen21 · Accepted Answer

I never dated before, but I doubt that they'll have a problem with it. Yes they might be curious as to what he looks like, but I doubt they would mind. As a Black American, I have mixed ancestry, and I have Aunts and Uncles and cousins who are Punjabi, White, Filipina, Colombian and Korean. So my family is pretty opened, anyways ☺

I am interested in this Palestinian/Jordanian guy on campus. He's pretty cute and is really dedicated to his studies. If I dated or even married a guy who was Middle Eastern, I don't think they would have a problem with that. Maybe his family might, but I don't know 🤷🏽‍♀️ We plan on hanging out next week!

snowboarder720 · Answer

No.
I’ve been dating outside of my race more than inside of my race. I’ve been treated so much better while I’m interracially dating than interracially dating. It’s really interesting to see how others react to interracial couples. It’s pretty easy to spot who’s racist when the stare or act a certain way when they are around me. Surprisingly my entire family is totally fine with it and her family too.
The major problem my girlfriend and I face is dealing with others who are jealous of what we have. It’s like we have to guard our feelings from family or friends whom we feel closest to. Her mom loves me to death but her mom also says some things that can kill our relationship or cause an argument.

The answer to your question is no and I know I’m extremely lucky for it.

MCheetah · Answer

Yeah. My abusive mother didn't want me dating any white or non-black women anymore (despite us all coming from a mixed race family and my grandmother being Dutch). But I couldn't give a f*ck what she thinks, and I almost married a white woman before. Although her race was the least of my thoughts with her. I don't care about race, myself.

Yurrasis · Answer

Yep. This is just based on my circumstances. My parents are really traditional and judgmental. I have yet to date, but I often receive lectures whenever I express interest in a guy. They prefer someone of the same ethnicity because they want to avoid the awkward culture/language differences. Even if the guy were to be of same race, they wouldn't like it if the guy just didn't want to be associated with their culture.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Mildly. But they soon figured out I have fetishes for black and Chinese women. And sometimes Filipinas.

It's my grandparents that insist I stay vanilla in every respect. And even then, they prefer her to be of mostly German descent. Can't trust those Italians, right? They're pretty specific. But I'll date whoever I'm compatible with.

theothersider · Answer

Yeah my mom and dad were a little hostile toward my husband until they warmed up to him. I am not sure if it was specifically because he is Latino or not but many in his family specifically his abuela fucking hated me for being white. I mean she even tried to put some Puerto Rican voodoo curse on me hoping I would die...

Anonymous · Answer

I’m white European my parents wants me to marry white / American or European only because they believe it’s easy for me to get along with familiar faces and people. I don’t think it has been an issue to them because I have mostly dated white guys not because I’m racist somehow I get along well with them it is indeed easy.
In the end be without any ethnicity you like it’s your life your choice nothing is racist when it comes to marriage is all about love vibes feeling etc.

sheikalana · Answer

I'm mixed raced myself. If my parents have any issue with me being in a biracial relationship they would just be freaking hypocrites.

annabananna · Answer

I dated a mixed guy in high school and I grew up in a pretty racist town. I was really scared to tell my mom and I came to her crying saying that I had something to tell her. She thought I was about to say I was pregnant so she was just relieved I wasn’t pregnant at that point.

Anonymous · Answer

I did not date outside of my race when I was younger, primarily because I was not exposed to many girls outside of my race other than black girls, and I am not attracted to them. As I got older, I have dated Hispanic, Asian, and American Indian women, and my mother has never voiced any concern about it.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Mom, no, dad, yes, grandma on dad's side, had her moments, grandpa on mom's side, yes, step-grandfather, absolutely not, grandpa on my dad's side, no because he didn't have to come up with money for it either way. Anyone that comes between me and a potential Asian girlfriend of mine for dating purposes is likely to get my ire unless she was doing something that she shouldn't be.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Only happened once. When I was 7 years old, I had a “boyfriend” who I held hands with in primary school. He was Fijian. When my parents found out they made fun of his name, his culture, made fun of me, and bullied me for it until I was 16.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

No, they dont care what race I date. My mother for sure dont care about race and I dont know how my father feels about me dating in general he always get stressed about men. All they care about is whether the person can make happy.

Nagahime · Answer

Yeah, my dad hated that my first boyfriend was mixed (white/hispanic) back in high school. He wanted me to date black dudes only because he was racist towards whites. But I'm mixed also, so I don't know why it even mattered.

DizzyDesii · Answer

No they’ve both dated some of everything as well. Same goes for my grandma. Only my grandpa saw it as an issue yet he sees nothing wrong with flirting with other races

SenileOldMan · Answer

My mother had a major issue with it although I ignored her and just moved out. My father never had an issue with it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, they were dead set against me dating a black girl but had no problem at all with me dating an Induah and nearly marrying her, even though she was darker than some black people I've seen!

ANK360 · Answer

I am thankful my parents are cool, I have dated so many women all from different races and It's never been an issue! I mean just all women of races are very good it's just who you can get very well with!!

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I am white, my boyfriend is Asian. Thankfully my parents have been super understanding and supported my choice. I feel lucky to have them.

Slartybartfast · Answer

My mom's just upset I decided never to date again so she won't have any grandchildren. I don't think she cares what race I dated.

Cherry234 · Answer

Only one of my parents may have an issue with it...

alice55 · Answer

They do, if they saw me doing it they would kill me.

Justneedtokno · Answer

I don’t think they would’ve gotten upset. I think others around you pretty much have a certain opinion of who should be with Who but it only matters what you think

HimaniS · Answer

My parents don't support thjs, they want I should marry someone in the same religion. As per them, I shouldn't date if I can't find a guy in the same religion.

Anonymous · Answer

YES! I’m Indian ethnically and my parents want me to stick to our own. It is my choice though, they want me to be happy 😊 but I mean why would I want to? White girls are a mess. Like what would you expect from her a caring, calm and family oriented woman? I don’t think so.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m white and my boyfriend is Asian. My parents are really supportive. His parents were reluctant at first but eventually opened up to me

lrina · Answer

no, but one of my friends' parents has a problem with that.

exitseven · Answer

I imagine they would have not been thrilled but would not make abig deal about it.

dtweed1996 · Answer

Not really sense inter racial relationships aren’t really illegal and they focus not on the present and future not the past unless they wanted to predict what may happen in the near future

Avicenna · Answer

Nope, never, and I primarily dated outside my race when I was a teenager and young adult.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I think they used to. My parents are old and I don't think it's malicious I think they come from a time when it just wasn't done.

elizamichale1 · Answer

not really all they wanted or told me was not to get on with some junkie

amoral181234 · Answer

i think you should not listen to ur parents on dating people outside your race because love is love and you have the right in dating whoever you want

DiegoO · Answer

My mother, never. My "father", would certainly rather I have a relationship with a hispanic or a white woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Almost many of them have. And it's really disgusting to see them feel that way

moonpie89 · Answer

My parents care more about have the same religion. Race wouldn't be an issue

Kyle-Jackson78 · Answer

nope my mom loves my mexican boyfriend he so hunky 😩

EIChapo · Answer

On the contrary, my parents love my Asian girlfriend and the other Asian girls and Muslim girls that came into my life before her.

noohair · Answer

I live in the US and my wife was from the Philippines. My mom tried to make me choose and I told her she would not be happy with my choice. She caved.

Deserter · Answer

I don't know, she was pretty but they said I could do better. I'm not sure how literally I should take that

anylolone · Answer

No, but my sister had a bigger problem with me dating fat chicks, and my whole family had a problem with me dating at all.

Anonymous · Answer

No. It didn't even seem like they ever noticed. Just not something they really considered when determining if they liked somebody or not.

larry69 · Answer

Yes they would have. I stick to Latinas, white and Native American women.

ODC2112 · Answer

My parents have an issue if I dating someone with I am not happy.

Anonymous · Answer

Mom said black men cheat, and mine definitely did 😂 but that’s him being a shithole, nothing to do with his race.

TrillXHippy · Answer

If I dated they would not care 😂 3 of my brothers are anyways

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I'm south Asian, here there ain't any foreign girls of other races. So never.

Abby005 · Answer

My dad doesn’t have problem with that but also dating my own gender.

Twalli · Answer

I never did, but I doubt they'd care. They're pretty accepting.

htmndg183 · Answer

Nope. My parents are of different ethnicities so it isn't an issue for us.

Naughtyboy71 · Answer

No they felt I knew what I was doing in deciding  who to date even out side race

Anonymous · Answer

Outside my race forget it  My parents major issue is that i date , I'm an Indian by the way  Hope you feel me

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

They have an issue with my sister and her black boyfriend.

TheAfrikan · Answer

What matters to them is only happiness nothing else.

InYourHead · Answer

No my dad encourages it

Bel88 · Answer

Who cares about "race"? Only complete losers.

Nazorella · Answer

Nope they don’t care.

melanieeeB · Answer

No my mom is okay with it, she doesn't care

Anonymous · Answer

grandparents yes, parents no - but if i marry he must be the same religion :)

dustybiker · Answer

One would have. Not the other.

Lucy68 · Answer

Nope they were supportive and did not care at all

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