Would your parents care if you were to date outside of your ethnicity/race?

Question

Even if you did or didn’t care to interracially date, would your parents care if you did?

My mom, dad and grandma have dated some of every race. As have I. However, I see no interest in dating someone who’s constantly jokes about stereotypical things and makes racially insensitive comments on the daily. For example, my grandpa loves to flirt with women of all races yet he doesn’t feel the different races should officially mix in terms of dating/marriage. And he only comments negatively on women dating outside of their race yet praises the men getting laid by different races. I’ve had to call him out several times about his double standards and slick comments in order for him to respect my history in dating a rainbow of men. But at the same time, no one in my family has ever been able to stop me from dating who I want. And I just personally refuse to continue showing interest in someone who allows their family to dictate who they date. Of course, I still find many men attractive but i lost interest in dating outside my race a good while back. Its just too much drama with the cultural differences and clearly not who I see myself building a future with in the long run. But i do have moments where i consider making an exception to the rule, only to end up regret that decision. Like I’ve really gotta stick to my stance.
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tiff_the_tranny · Accepted Answer

What my parents have said in the past and how they've discussed actual cases that come up in the family have me honestly not knowing. My mother, at least, has expressed opposition to interracial marriage in the past. I think that was because of the "old time religion," where if it was prohibited at any point in the Bible it was still a sin today (though she seemed not to apply that to the kosher laws, as I grew up on pork).

I think once she realized that the prohibition handed down by Moses applied only to Israel and for a very specific reason her stance started to soften slightly, though for a while she did say it would be irresponsible for a mixed race couple to have children together because they'd have a rough life. I think she's starting to soften on that as well as we started having more mixed race children in the area. The only ones having a rough life are the ones being raised by unfit parents. The ones being bullied are being bullied for the same reasons I and my completely white friends were bullied.

My dad hasn't said anything on the subject to the best of my memory. My mom probably wouldn't say anything, but it would take them longer to show her that they pass her litmus test (no drug use, no criminal record within the past 10 years, pro-life, bleed red, white, and blue (both in reference to the American flag and the Christian flag, which is a red cross on a blue canton on a white field), no excessive drinking, strong work ethic, the standard litmus test most conservative rural women of her generation apply to potential child-in-laws).

Given that the vast majority of white people around here are either on meth or used the same doctors who allowed them to fake their way onto disability to get a borderline fraudulent medical marijuana card, let their children run wild, are on the sex offender registry for crimes against children, and won't lift a finger to help themselves let alone anyone else while the black people around here tend to be hard working business owners (one of whom works with me as a side job in addition to his own nearly all hours business), active military, devoted parents who are almost as devoted to the children around them as they are their own, and tend to be people who will go out of their way to help a stranger the time might come when it's far easier for them to pass her litmus test.

In fact, if she lives long enough she might even start to worry more about me dating in my own race than dating outside of my race.

PeacefulRainDrop · Accepted Answer

I wasn't sure how to answer the poll..

I have dated Native, American, African, Irish, German, South American and British...

My parents were kind to all the guys faces but to me not so kind.. The African Paul and I really got along my dad spoke with him he broke up with me we never spoke again.. he told do me and yourself one favor dont fall inlove with a black man there's nothing any black man can do to get your dads approval... I said what? I am a grown woman I can make choices for myself.. I am happy with you.. I want you he said he can't do this and left.. he's married now.. I message him on fb hed read it but not reply after it happened wanting to be with him.. that if he picked me up from the air port and if I could bring my dog id go.. no response.. he read it.. then 6 months later he was engaged to a beautiful woman of his race.

The Native and the American both cheated on me, the South American was possessive over me questioned everything taking my dog for a walk where you go? Who you talk to? Then asked me if it really happened? Id go to the grocery store take the long way home cause hed time me we didn't live together but he knew how long it took me would have me talking in circles.. id get so confused.. the Irish and I didn't see eye to eye he wanted fun times I wanted something serious... Dated two Germans one started questioning like the South American I just wasn't happy.. the other lived in another country was too much red tape knew I wouldn't have the approval of my parents or his... I am with the British now

I am Ukrainian fully on dads side moms side is part Irish and Scottish

JDavid25 · Accepted Answer

Let's be honest most people have a sort of tribal mentality.. Not just older people, but in America something unprecedented took place.. A country full of different groups of people.. So since America is a big country that's sorta kind of a melting pot, then people especially older people keep that tribalism or just are against it based on bad experiences or prejudices.. I came to the conclusion that it's not always racism so much as the parents just wanting their child not to get involved with shady people. But for my parents I know my mother doesn't care one bit. As long as she is a woman who loves God, and will treat me right.. We used to always joke about my brother dating "Asian" women.. With my father I don't know, and he couldn't say much anyways. 😂.. But he did have a child or children with a "White" woman so, yeah..

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am Caucasian. My mother is an old Southerner and would disapprove of me dating a black woman. However, I have dated Hispanic and Asian women, as well as a native American Indian, and she never voiced any concern.

My step-father is a cretin of the lowest rank. His grandson married a Filipino girl and, at the wedding, he said to his grandson, "What's wrong? You couldn't get an American girl to marry you?" He probably disapproves of me dating a Chinese woman now, but IDGAF and I just don't take her around him. Never. And that makes life a bit difficult at times.

Account · Answer

So far, my parents have supported all of my choices, even the ones that didn't seem like a good idea at that point - unrelated to dating-.
I don't think they would mind. They would support me either way.

katiesmuff · Answer

Mostly when I was dating in high school and after my parents didn't really know who I was dating because there never was any for any length of time. The issue began when I got pregnant and the sperm donor was black. My mom was sad, disappointed but slowly saw this as not an issue. My father on the other hand disowned me, wouldn't speak to me for over a year. Mom would come to my place to watch and play with Lexi, my brothers and sisters were ok period with it, but it was over a year before I was allowed to stop by home with her. Anyway the lady who normally watched Lexi while I worked got sick so mom said she would watch her. She picked her up and took her home, Lexi was now about 18 months old and just walking pretty good. Story goes she bugged my dad and ended up falling asleep next to him. Mom told me he broke down crying, two days later mom, dad and I had a come to Jesus meeting with some tears, hugs etc. All is well now, I married to a wonderful black man and we have two more children. First thing he did after we were married was offically adapt Lexi.

Hulk30 · Answer

understood interracial datin is much different for black women than it is for black men honestly most sisters dont prefer fuckin or datin men other than black i think it's the same with most brothers sexually i prefer native American black women but honestly i prefer to date north American white women it's because of the appreciation peacefulness respect submission also white women dont ration out their freakiness like colored women do that's definitely a result of white supremacist conditionin but white women do all that girls gone wild shit for free and i can see lookin back with the majority of women I've dated bein white largely was to do with the after math of antibellum slavery that i personally can see that the black community collectively hasn't fully recovered from if ya consider systematic white supremacy and the long-term affects of it goin back to antibellum slavery that indirectly led black men and white women into each other's arms startin with white women there were alotta white supremacist men who were lockin alotta white women down back then they couldn't work they couldn't leave the house they couldn't do shit and all that was to keep em from fuckin brothers which in spite of all those restrictions still happened and happens much more so in 2022 the fact that black men durin anti bellum slavery were broken down by the white supremacist male in front of black women and black women saw that black men couldn't protect em that since anti bellum slavery has indirectly caused alotta sisters not to have respect for brothers as a result of that so i can understand the rift that exist between brothers and sisters today

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

My parents were racist. They tried to instill not saying outside my race but I was mixed. I am half white and half Asian. My dad was white and my mom was Vietnamese. But when my mom died, my dad married these racist country bumpkins from FL. They are closet racist like they put on a good face in front of people but behind closed doors they were as racist as it comes. My dad told me we don't date outside out race and I looked at him and said dad I am a living contradiction of what you just said. What he meant was that I shouldn't date black women. I was dating a half white and half black girl and when he found out he about flipped his shit and asked me what if my stepmother finds out? I said I don't care, I don't live under y'all's roof anymore.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

I think mine would, they don’t hate anyone who isn’t Pakistani but they just have that traditional mindset that “it’s best to stick to your own.” That said, I have discussed it with my mum before and she has said: “I think better to stick to your own, but if you want to marry someone who isn’t Pakistani then that’s okay too, it should be your choice as long as he’s Muslim it shouldn’t matter.”

And I haven’t really discussed marriage with my father yet, because lol that would be super awkward- but I think culturally he’s more strict and he’d want me to marry a Pakistani- but I think if I did bring a non-Pakistani dude home, he may or may not object at first I really don’t know with him lol- but even if he objected he’d eventually come round- especially since from an Islamic perspective- there is nothing wrong with marrying a dude outside of your ethnicity as long as he is a Muslim.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

My family is kinda “international” so I guess no, they are okay with our decisions.
my father has all kinds of issues... racism is not something we have to worry about coming from him. So we just go by what we want.
my older sister is married to 1/2 Asian 1/2 Trinidadian (don’t want to be bother with spelling. My little sister married to a Frenchman. I was shock how much he’s like me. Not because he is French, but because he thinks like me.
my friends are from all over the world.
I was married to someone not from my race. Now dating someone not my race.
my family welcome all based on their characters not their skin color.
so race doesn’t excises in my world. There is only one race - the human race.
All good.

awkfemme · Answer

My parents don’t care what race but they care what they look like, education level, religion and the way they speak. My current boyfriend has long hair, tattoos around his neck and down his back and shoulders as well as a few on his hands. He speaks normal I guess I don't know what they mean by that part but I honestly don’t care. He didn’t finish college but he’s working hard, bought his own car, saves up a lot of his money and helps his mom pay bills and take care of his siblings. He’s mature enough to me and I honestly don’t care what they think.

silvermoon84 · Answer

My mom used to advise me not to date outside of my race, but my mom was also born in the fifties. Black people marrying white people was very much taboo back then and didn’t really get any acceptance at all until I was a kid (mid nineties). I think in her case it was generational. With that being said, I’m of mixed white, Native American and Hispanic ancestry, so my mom kinda broke her own rule when she married my dad. Most of the guys I dated were mixed white/native ancestry like me, but if I did meet one who was a different race and I liked him and he liked me, I would date him. I think my mom would let me marry whoever I want now

johnsmithjs · Answer

I have 7 siblings.
1 brother is married to a Chinese lady.
1 brother is married to a Hispanic
1 brother is gay and not married but always brings a new partner home every time
1 brother is married to a white lady
1 sister is married to a black guy
1 sister is married to an Itallion guy
1 sister is married to her job

For me I find black women the most interesting of all I have dated.

As far as what my parents would say, I guess I really don't know as I have never asked

legalboxers · Answer

When my father was alive (as you know Im Indian and Portuguese) my family has a long time friend. These daughters (2) parents at the time introduced my parents.. but I digress..

At the time one of their daughters sons back about 20 plus years ago came to see my father. The young man brought a black woman to the house. My fathers mood changed as the hours went by and had a full on heart attack because the son married a black woman.

So I dont know if he would of had a stroke if I brought a woman of color. I know he did when I brought a white woman who was larger (he was sleeping or in the shower Im not sure. She told me to go home and shower since I had a dog try to pee on me...)

BUNroaster · Answer

My parents, whole family's more than okay with any other race, ethnicity or anything. Though it hasn't happened like EVER. Everyone's white and it's annoying af to me lol. Like we need a culture change, renaissance if you will. Or at least I do. I get what you mean with cultural differences though. Can be beneficial for both or just not and because they can't connect the same. I've seen it work too though. And I get some stances are worth taking. I have a hard time staying away from distant relationships, it's been my stance thing. I do prefer other cultures and people who have a totally different background than me though. Keeps things intriguing.

BakedBeanieBabie · Answer

My parents are divided. My dad is fine with it, my mom is a hater. But both had an issue with me being bi. It's really complicated. My dad would be okay with me dating outside my race but not outside the opposite gender, whereas my mom hates everything that isn't cisgendered and white.

ohshee · Answer

My parents do not have a say in who I date and who I don't date... if I was to date my mom's best friend she would say not good enough if I was to take the richest lady in the world my mom would say not good enough it doesn't matter who I would date my mom would always had this little look not good enough I would have a big smile and just start laughing because that crap cracks me up

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

First of all and i am serious which i did in my life! Whom i dating is none of my parents business. I am middle eastern (west asia) and the Mrs is swedish (Scandinavian). So, thankfully! My parents do not care about my partner's ethnicity/race plus as long they see me happy, they are cool with it. I don't need anyone's permission to be with someone i like.

Leavesbound · Answer

My parents are both dead. But when they weren't, neither would have approved of anyone outside of our race. My mother was mostly Irish and would have preferred I only date "nice Irish Catholic girls." My Dad was mostly English/Scottish and preferred I date only "W. A. S. P.'s" (White Anglo Saxon Protestant's). I have never dated either. I have dated Black, Asian, Native American, Italian, French, Portuguese and others.

Novacane · Answer

Not really, I mean don't get me wrong ideally they would love for me to date someone in my ethnicity because the same cultural background is easier to get along with compared to someone with a different culture because they won't really understand each other from the beginning.

DaisyM23 · Answer

They do want me to marry someone of the same religion & ethnicity or at least same ethnicity but I don’t really care too much. They like to say they prefer our ethnicity but I’m pretty sure they would accept the guy if he’s nice anyways. now the gender of my partner would matter though 😂

Sarahr123 · Answer

They wouldn’t mind but they wouldn’t prefer it. I personally have never been attracted to men outside my culture anyway so the thought never crossed my mind but as long as the boy is good they probably wouldn’t care much what his Racil/ethnic background is. They might think he’s dodgy if he’s a different nationality because he might be trying to use me to settle in the West.

TwistedTube · Answer

My parents wouldn't "really" care. They only have a few things they ask of me. They want to be able to understand everything the child is saying, which means its basically only allowed to use English and dutch as its main language. They also want to be able to recognize me in the child, meaning I probably shouldn't marry a purely black woman or a pure Asian woman. However, they still leave me free in my choice.

Anon621 · Answer

I identify as Latin but when I dated two different people at different times in high school one of them was half European. I have never brought an Asian, Black, Indian, or Middle Eastern person back home yet so I would be interested to see how they would react to that but to be fair one of my ex partners had brown skin and was Latin as well but they were fine with it.

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