Is this true or false: you should go for guys over 26 if you want a committed relationship/marriage?

[Alyssa_11]

'You should go for guys aged over 26 years if you're looking for a real committed relationship/marriage' - advice from my mum about my failed romantic life lol.

Do you think it's true?

[sensible27]

The fundamental problem might be with the people you like and your judging criterias rather than the age in particular. Yes, age can help a person understand things better and make clearer definitions of the things they might like but if you're still using the same criteria there's still a probability the people you find in a higher age range are similar.

[Alyssa_11]

You’re 20. Would you be interested in commitment or not until a few years down the line?

[sensible27]

I would be. I sometimes very rarely like someone so if I do maybe I want to be around them all the time? I don't know what non committed really means but if someone is misleading that they want a relationship when they prefer just a sexual partner or someone just as a friend it's sort of odd. But.. I also sort of feel things shouldn't be forced (.. and feel forced maybe)

[Alyssa_11]

Yeah I get you.

[Lionman95]

I think it depends on the person though the chance of younger guys after leaving school at the beginning of their 20s are more likely to be messed in their head.
Watching porn, addicted to video games while not knowing what to do with life doesn´t sound like a good partner for a stable and good relationship.
That are problems that also older guys could happen but it´s less likely they are not living with their parents, they are more likely to have a job and financial stability.
They are also more likely to be mature enough of knowing what they want and how to get their.
So my answer is a yes, but don´t take it generally.

[NorthAfrican]

Ehhhh. I don't believe in such arbitrary rules. My ex is 26 and he wasn't mature enough for marriage. My current man is also 26 and he is the opposite of my ex.
I have friends who married their under 26 boyfriends. Meanwhile I know guys in my environment nearing their 40s and still living the bachelor life like teenagers.

It all depends on the personality and values of the man in question more so than his age in my opinion.

[jennifer_bloom]

A younger guy might be willing to marry you but an older guy can provide for you and your future kids when your pregnant or nursing a baby. But don’t date a guy until you test him - a lot of men fake good behaviour to get girls they like but can be exposed if you analyze them.

[AmandaYVR]

Well it shouldn't exactly be a fixed rule, but yes, I agree with your mum. Men mature at late 20s and become quite different. Guys in their early 20s, by comparison, are flaky af.

[MCheetah]

It's not always true, but men over 25 do tend to be more mature. Women mature faster, men mature longer and act wiser when mature.

Also, women peak at around age 23-24 and then their looks go downhill from there (they still will look good until 30-something, but they PEAK in their mid 20s), while men usually hit their prime in their late 30s or early 40s. It just is how it is.

So there is SOME truth to that quote, but it's not exact.

[Alyssa_11]

I have to say Middle Eastern women peak in their 30s

[NorthAfrican]

Agreed most sex symbols in the Middle East are in their 30s and even early 40s. Tbh men in their 30s and 40s are not my type. Many start balding and erectile dysfunction is more prevalent with age! + not into Dad bods.

[Alyssa_11]

I agree lol

[Dragonpurple]

Not a hard and fast rule but generally correct. It depends on the guy though, some younger guys do not want to play they want to get married. I got married at 22 myself, my first time (Hate to say that) all I ever wanted was to get married, never wanted anything else.

Looking back I should of waited until at least 26.

As your 24, finding a man who is 26+ should be fairly easy for you.

I wish you the best in the future and not having a failed romantic life.

[Alyssa_11]

Thanks!

[magiusX26]

it is rooted in some truths but not an actual fact. more often than not those are tge guys more likely ready/able to commit. there are still plenty enough of that age range (i read it as 26 plus) who are not rwady/able, plys many becoming or alrwady jaded and less likely to commit or marry (we all know you can have one without the other) . on the flip side, there are some guys younger than that looking for that same commitment/marriage but they are often not easily found. take part of my rant in one of your other questions and see if you notice how i was one such guy in my youth since i think i stated it pretty clearly. these days am headed more towards jaded.

[tallcuck]

Mans interest in a commited relationship is at 26 while it fades after 30 and is completely rare after 40.
While womens interest in a forming a family peaks at 32.

Sad mismatch, man still follow natural way a bit, women are completely detached. This mismatch leads to women who nobody wants competing for man who don't want them for anything else than sex.

A truly successful women is the one who starts a family young and focuses on her career when kids ho to school. Women who sacrifice their youth, their beauty and fertility to education system are going against nature, against themselves against humanity so they get used by man as they deserve.
People who never had a committed relationship until later in their life find themselves incapable of compromise, they lack relationship skills and therefore are useless for tge society at large. Unless they are really productive, than they can be a good slave and work till they die...

[tommyvegas7618]

I think it's more of a sound thought. There's something to be said about someone who's lived a minute before getting hitched, but there are no absolutes on this theory. I do feel it's best to sow ones royal oats, as they say and wander and get lost before being found. People tend to become so different from 20 to 25 and then 25 to 30.

[Truthatanycost]

That may have been the case before. But thanks to hookup culture and the 'empowerment' movement... more guys have checked out of relationships than ever before. Thus whether you go for guys over 26 or not, you will find most just want sex, and the others have simply opted out entirely.

[Matt4523]

All depends on the person, such a specific question. I personally dont think anyone should be getting married under 25. That gives people enough time to grow in their life and understand themselves fully before committing to a full on marriage at a young age. Im personally 26 and as soon as turned 26 something weird flipped into me and my sexual desire to find a woman for therest of my life kicked in, i also want babys before I turn 30. My 25 and younger years i slept around and dated. So yes I would say 26 some internal clock turns on and makes us desire love.

[LZPanzer]

Guys don't finish puberty until their mid 20s. And most of that is in the brain specifically in the area that control long term planning. So it's somewhat true you will be more likely to find guys better capable of planning for the future if you choose people in their later 20s

[Soremain]

No. Statements like that are always stupid generalizations. I know plenty of guys who married earlier and have kids and are still together and having a happy family life almost 10 years later. Imagine if their wives listened to stupid a advice like that..

[YollyM]

My auntie introduced a study to my friends and I that said most men that are younger than the age of 25 are "self-sufficient" and are basically at a "high" where they just want to experience their sexually without being tied down. Their focus is developing themselves financially and socially solely. But then as they reach 25 most of them mature and warm up to the idea of having a partner.

I'm not fully convinced but behavioural analysts did research on it🤷‍♀️

[pervertedjester]

I think you should keep an open heart when it comes to that. Take the time to really refine your standards. Figure out what you don't want and it should be easier to see the rest. But most of all ask yourself: Am I Ready or Am I Lonely? And if you think you're somewhere in the middle... you're still just lonely.

[DonkeyDan]

Probably yes, men don't tend to take responsibility seriously until around 25. The adult male brain reaches full development at 25 as well, so this is a good explanation as to why.

[Alyssa_11]

Yes thats what she said too

[Anonymous]

No because even guys at that age can still be immature. Really it’s about his mentality/maturity level than his age. I’ve seen guys younger than 26 act more mature than a 28 or even man in his 30s,40s etc, I’ve also seen men that are like 30s act more mature than a 21 year old. Really it’s the persons behavior not so much age.

[zagor]

Yes, politicians teach us that even men in their 70's can be remarkably juvenile.

[Anonymous]

Its individually how someone is whe it comes to commitment and being a good partner.

I've met a guy loving commitment, very faithful and he was younger than me, we were 23-24 then.

And I've met another who.. well, let's just say I'm glad I'm out of that. And he was about.. 28?

You cannot depend on the age when it comes to things like that. Get to know the person.

[Citizenkirk]

Is that the only criteria your mom is giving you for relationship advice and age category? I'd seek alternative sources of information from people you trust who might give you a more complete picture of a sound romantic relationship dynamic or concept.

[Alyssa_11]

... my mums happily been in the same romantic relationship since she was 18.

[Citizenkirk]

Well I'm very happy for her but we're not really talking about her or we were talking about you and what makes you happy. Aren't we?

[Alyssa_11]

My response to 'alternative sources of information from people you trust who might give you a more complete picture of a sound romantic relationship dynamic or concept'

[luanamsd]

False. There are people under 25 who want to get married and there are people over 35 who don't want to get married.

My cousin has been dating the same person since she was 14... And they're 26 now. You can find people who want a committed relationship regardless of age.

[TonyMetal___86]

Maybe more than 50 🤣🤣
I think that you're mother have a point there miss alyssa rapunzel, not 26, maybe 30 and more because in general at this age a man becomes financialy nore stable, also will seek for stable life through a serious relationship and marriage, but still there are some guys in their 20's who are mature and are for marriage, it depends on the person and the way he thinks...

[Anonymous]

Well in her mind, they're more "mature" and/or ready for it, and there might be some truth to it for some. But it very much depends on the person and what they want. I've known 20 yr old guys wanting to get married, and ones that never have ever. So no I don't believe that in general, but it also doesn't hurt to look there. But if you're 24, there's no "rush" either. Experts suggest 25 before even thinking about marriage, and I agree with that.

[itsjustlew]

All the guys around my age on tinder are not financially stable or mature but the older guys seem perfect. My family would get mad if I dated someone way older but I'm 18 now and I'm afraid that if I wait too much longer they won't want me anymore