Why do guys age 23-27 have commitment issues?

[Anonymous]

I am a girl/women in my 24s and as off from what i have been told i am a good catch. I am studying at a top business school.

I don’t know if it is me, my taste in men or guys in general, that leaves me single. I have been dating a lot lately but I am almost always left semi-ghosted.

Might I be too on? Can guys feel/notice that I have been thinking of the likelihood of a relationship developing between us, on the 3-5 date, and if so why would that be scarring them off if we really do click?

What is a normal red flag for a guy dating a girl?

The irritating part is that this, the semi-ghost, often occurs when we actually click - and not just a built up fantasy in my head.

Could it be that guys 23-27 are unwilling to commit because they are full-on focused on their careers and their boys. Or why would a guy stop seeing me when we genuinely are having a blast, deep conversations (not just on my behalf) and good sex?

And if scared of commitment, how can I “trick” them to not see that our relations are heading into something serious - and when they first notice they would be too in love to leave?

Do I really have to play a game?

[KibblesBits]

There must be a fundamental problem if this is happening. The easiest way to make a guy want a long term relationship is to up your game and become even more physically attractive.

Second, it's possible you're using a flawed dating system. The first example I'm thinking of is only dating guys who are willing to make all the first moves and carry all the weight of kicking things off. Most guys who want a long term relationship hate having to fight their way into a relationship without the other person doing anything. Guys who like making the moves and initiating the relationship tend to like that more than the relationship and want to do it over and over again.

Lots and lots of guys want long-term relationships, especially if you're really pretty. Me personally, all I wanted was a long-term serious relationship since I was 12/13 and that's never changed at any point in my entire life. I've had the opposite experience, I can't find a pretty girl that wants a serious relationship or an exclusive relationship, and the ones that do are only single for a few months in their entire early adult life it seems like.

Maybe try finding a cute guy who's minding his own business and approach him and make the moves on him and force a relationship, the odds are way higher of finding a guy who wants something long term if you do it like that.

[FilmGuy93]

Many guys that age are either career focused or just not interested in settling down. Honestly, your taste in men might have something to do with it too. If you are studying at a top school, your personality might come across as too competitive for the kind of men you are attracted to. I know that I'm a driven and competitive guy, but there is very little that a woman could do to turn me off faster than to be super driven and competitive. I used to respect women who were driven and competitive, but now I just realize that I want my personal life to be a shelter away from my professional environment. I'm in a top tier law school.

[CuriousCat8797]

Unfortunately something I've known for a long time is men in our age group are still boys mentally. The truth is women for the most part do mature emotionally quicker then men. There's nothing wrong with YOU, it's just they aren't ready to commit or have a serious relationship. I'm with someone almost 10 years older than myself and the fact I don't have to deal with all that immature crap is such a turn on. I could never see myself dating someone in my age category as I've never wanted to be the mother in the relationship which is unfortunately what a lot of young women who date younger guys become. Take my advice and shoot for the slightly older guys and if you're not into that then all I can say is you may get lucky and find a diamond in the rough but you could be disappointed and waiting for a while. Either way I wouldn't suggest 'tricking anyone into anything as that just sets bounds for an emotionally manipulative relationship later on.

[zoobs94]

Cos in same age women aren't ready to compromise. life isn't stable neither for man or women.

[CuriousCat8797]

@zoobs94 I would like to correct ypu by saying *some women just like *some men aren't ready to Coit. Relationships are a learning curve for us all

[CuriousCat8797]

Compromise*

[zoobs94]

You can give me one favour check on Google who get hurts most in breakup women or men. You will get answer no one likes to go back to square one but what I experience women's nowadays have higher standards than they even deserve.

[iseekpinetrees]

Because at 22 23 the change happens to everyone. You realize what life is actually about. And the pressure of adulthood gets to people. Do I look for someone to settle down with or do I focus on my own life. Many guys realize they need to get a life to have a good relationship so they just get friends with benefits along the way to combat the loneliness.

[Anonymous]

Guys your age are just not motivated to commit these days. Commitment has obvious drawbacks for guys, and these days the benefits don't really outweigh the costs and risks for them. Add to that the fact that casual sex has become the norm, so sex without commitment is what most guys your age are looking for.

[Anonymous]

You: Guys are scared to commit to me. What is wrong with them

Maybe there is nothing wrong with them. Maybe you aren't aware of what you are doing which is causing them to semi ghost you

I suggest asking them and telling them that you know that it is you but you want to know what your doing wrong. Maybe one of them will tell you the truth and then you will know

[Hopelessromantic182]

The problem is there are too many options out there because of dating apps. I think it’s called like dating “choice overload” or something like that.

[REALSTEEL]

cause guy's in there 20's act like there God's greatest gift and can get any woman they want they won't commit till there in mid 30's

[user2345354]

Red flag: thinking of tricking them into a commitment.

[Tstrbrainer]

I wouldn't really prefer continuing to talk to a woman if she seems to want a committed relationship. Don't trick them into loving you, it might not work in the long term

[BarryLiverstone]

Why are 24 year olds still in college? I graduated college when I turned 21.

[Paul09]

Because young men just want to have fun and fuck a lot.

[OddBeMe]

Maybe it’s the stable of boys you buy from. Try a new stable.

[msc545]

Because they have good judgment. Commitment is dangerous.

[Vivaldi]

I did not grow up any more after 18. It is only my face that got older.

[RolandCuthbert]

Because that is an awful young age.

[LeFtUoNreD]

I think your question actually covers the answer

[MrTaboo]

Because far to. many girls are willing to cheat